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  'http://laksa092.int.ahrefs:8124/' \
  -H 'Content-Type: text/plain' \
  -H 'X-ClickHouse-Database: crawler3' \
  -H 'Authorization: Basic YXBpOg==' \
  -d 'SELECT getAhrefsURLFromUnparsed(src_unparsed) AS found_url, ifNull(toUnixTimestamp(download_stamp), 0) AS crawl_time, ifNull(toUnixTimestamp(props_url_first_seen), 0) AS first_indexed_time, download_http_code AS http_code, src_unparsed AS src_unparsed, src_root_hash AS src_root_hash, history_drop_reason AS history_drop_reason, meta_title AS meta_title, meta_descriptions AS meta_descriptions, attrs_boilerpipe_text AS attrs_boilerpipe_text, attrs_markdown AS attrs_markdown, attrs_readable_markdown AS attrs_readable_markdown, meta_canonical AS meta_canonical FROM crawler3.page_info_local FINAL PREWHERE (src_root_hash, src_unparsed) IN ((getAhrefsRootHashFromUnparsed(getAhrefsUnparsedNoserviceFromURL(\'https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors\')), getAhrefsUnparsedNoserviceFromURL(\'https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors\'))) FORMAT JSONEachRow'

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{"found_url":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors","crawl_time":1775908156,"first_indexed_time":1507453585,"http_code":200,"src_unparsed":"com,wikihow!www,\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors s443","src_root_hash":"12431216878206919092","history_drop_reason":null,"meta_title":"How to Deal with Nosy Neighbors & Protect Your Privacy","meta_descriptions":["Plus, the psychology behind why neighbors can be so intrusiveYour home is your safe space, but what do you do if you end up stuck with nosy neighbors? Whether you live in an apartment in the city or a house in the suburbs, invasive..."],"attrs_boilerpipe_text":"Download Article\nPlus, the psychology behind why neighbors can be so intrusive\nDownload Article\nTaking a Soft Approach\n|\nBlocking Them Out\n|\nSigns They’re Nosy\n|\nWhy are neighbors nosy?\n|\nVideo\n|\nQ&A\nYour home is your safe space, but what do you do if you end up stuck with nosy neighbors? Whether you live in an apartment in the city or a house in the suburbs, invasive neighbors can threaten your sense of privacy. Keep reading for the best ways to assess the situation and\ntalk to your neighbor kindly\n, plus ways to\nblock them out of view\n(with tips from a life coach, an etiquette coach, and even a police captain). We’ll also explain how to tell if your neighbor is truly nosy and why they might be so curious to begin with. Keep scrolling to learn more!\nDealing With Nosy Neighbors: Overview\nNote patterns in your neighbor’s behavior. Try avoiding them, ignoring them, or putting up physical deterrents to block their view, like a fence or curtains. Speak openly and honestly to them about how they make you feel. Consider installing a security system or contacting the authorities if you feel threatened.\nLook for patterns in your neighbors' nosy behavior. Are they often nosy at certain times, like weekends, weekdays, or evenings? Think about whether they’re nosy due to something going on in their lives or are curious about something going on in yours. When\ndealing with nosy neighbors\n, it’s important to ask yourself the following questions:\n[1]\nHow long has this been going on?\nHow many of your neighbors are nosy?\nDo you live in a nosy neighborhood?\nHow long do you plan to stay in that area?\nFirst, try to learn as much about them as possible without getting too involved. This will help you to identify if there is any malice in their questions, if they are just being nosy to pass the time, or if they are new and need help making friends. Then, decide next steps on whether to confront, avoid, or befriend your neighbors.\nIf your neighbors seem lonely and bored, try talking to them, introducing them to other neighbors, and suggesting fun things for them to do.\nIf your neighbors are always confronting you and asking you personal questions, then consider how you can avoid talking to them.\nIf your neighbors are snooping around looking for trouble, including stealing your things or reporting your activities, consider upping your security. Ask them to stop intruding. If the situation becomes dangerous for your family or property, contact the authorities.\nAdvertisement\nJust get on with your business, nonchalantly and happily. If they have nothing better to do than watch you all day, then they have wasted their own time, not yours; it’s a good way to help yourself\nstop worrying about a bad neighbor\n.\nFor example, if you're busy and you don't have time to tolerate nosiness, keep your headphones in your ears while passing through common areas like corridors, lifts, and parks—anywhere you might encounter your neighbor.\nAnother way to ignore them is to\nfake a phone call\n. Whenever they approach you, put your phone to your ear and pretend to be in an important conversation. Don't forget to smile and nod at them when on the phone.\nMove to your backyard, or choose another spot where they can't see you. This works for some activities—you can just as easily host a cookout or play catch in the backyard as you can in the front—but it is not a permanent fix. It is an avoidance technique.\nIf your neighbor is extremely nosy, they might find ways to snoop around despite your efforts to avoid it. Hiding in the backyard might work once or twice, but be prepared for more occurrences ahead.\nIf the problem is this bad, consider confronting or ignoring your neighbors. It can be exhausting to expend all of your mental energy on simply trying to escape someone.\nMake a code name for them whenever you see them. For example, \"activity\" or \"spiders.\" This will cue your family to behave accordingly, whether you all agree to retreat to the backyard or begin making loud noises.\nIf your neighbors are always asking questions about what you're doing and why you're doing it, an easy solution can be to simply do nothing. Try your best to seem uninteresting. Resume your activities when your neighbors go away. If they do still ask you questions, share a small piece of information and then ask them how they are.\nIf they say, \"So, Frank, buddy, what's up?\" ninety-seven times a day, it wouldn't hurt to respond once, \"Oh, just walking the dog,\" or \"I'm good.\" This isn't the most exciting reply, and it makes it hard to think up further questions. Then ask, \"How about you?\" This can unsettle nosy people who don't like the feeling that you are nosing around them.\nBear in mind that if you look like you have nothing to do, some neighbors take it as license to strike up a conversation. When in doubt, it’s best to avoid or confront your neighbors rather than wait for them to leave.\nKeep in mind you don’t have to interact this way if you’re not sure of their intentions. Etiquette coach Tami Claytor suggests keeping things respectful unless you’re very uncomfortable by “just being very polite.”\n[2]\nIf you’re\ndealing with bullying neighbors\nwho ask you a lot of personal questions, tell them that it makes you uncomfortable. The next time they do it, give them a straight, upfront answer, like \"That's not something I would like to share with you.\" Stare them down, and make it clear that you mean business. Then walk away. They'll hopefully get the message and back off.\n[3]\nThis approach is blunt and straightforward. It may get the point across, but it may also offend your neighbor's pride.\nBear in mind that nosy neighbors aren't always trying to be obnoxious. They might be asking questions out of genuine curiosity. They may not have the tact or the social skills to know which questions are too personal. Be empathetic, but do not put up with anything that violates your space.\nIf you tell your neighbor to stop asking questions, but they continue, you may need to take more serious steps to address the problem.\nIf your neighbors like to spy on you, catch them and say something that will embarrass them. Discreetly inform everyone who is with you, and then out of nowhere say something like, \"Hey, Mrs. Jones, having fun there?\" Watch as their face turns red. If they deny it, then just ignore them and give them a cold shoulder. If they do it again, get them alone and ask them nicely to stop.\nMake jokes about them nosing. Say things like, \"Now don't you go spying on me!\" and they may realize that they are being too nosy. It might even make them stop.\nLife coach Eze Sanchez recommends saying something like “No offense or anything. I really like my privacy, so could you check in with me before you come onto my property?”\n[4]\nIf your neighbors get too nosy, you may find that your only option is to contact the local police or neighborhood watch force. If the neighbor just won't leave you alone, you may want to apply for a restraining order. If you find your neighbors snooping around on your property, stealing your things, or trying to break into your home, call the police so that you don't need to handle the situation on your own.\nPolice captain Saul Jaeger, MS, notes you should “trust your instincts. You can actually put yourself in an unsafe situation because of societal norms and expectations.  And it's really silly when you think about it.” He recommends taking steps that keep you feeling safe and secure in your home and your neighborhood.\n[5]\nConsider involving a neutral third party if you’re not ready to contact the authorities. A neighbor with whom you both get along is a good place to start if you’re looking for someone objective to mediate.\nWhat would you do about a nosy neighbor?\nAvoid them at all costs.\nConfront them about their nosy ways.\nBe nosy to them right back.\nContact the authorities.\nAdvertisement\nIf you want your neighbors to stop peeking, consider\nputting up a fence\nbetween your properties. Check your local bylaws—if the fence lies between your properties, you may need to ask your neighbors' permission to construct it. Make sure that you don't build onto their property, or else you may give them even more reason to intrude.\n[6]\nDogs or small children make a great excuse to build a large fence around your property. Simply say that you didn't want the dog running loose.\nConsider whether you want to feel penned in just because your neighbors are nosy. Building a fence may solve your problem, but it may just inspire your nosy neighbors to get creative.\nThere are many window treatments you can use to protect your privacy against nosy neighbors. They include\nlight-filtering blinds\nthat keep out prying eyes but let in sunlight,\nscreens that retract\nto help soundproof your home (a tapestry on the wall will also help here), or curtains for more privacy. You can go one step further by getting\nreflective window tints\nto avoid having to close your curtains or blinds.\n[7]\nIf you don't like the idea of a fence, consider planting a hedge, a bush, or a stand of trees to\nblock out their view\n. Bear in mind that these barriers will take years to grow into place. You can also try getting a trellis for flowers or other plants to climb, which helps protect your privacy when you’re in your backyard.\n[8]\nYou can also use large potted plants placed on window sills to block their view into your home, or place larger potted trees like bamboo outside.\nThis may be a wise choice if you think your neighbors are snooping around on your property. Keep your house locked. If you go on vacation, install a security system or video cameras. Ask another neighbor to keep an eye on your property while you're away, in case the nosy neighbor starts snooping around.\n[9]\nBear in mind that, depending on the neighbor's situation, this approach may be bordering on paranoia. Perhaps your neighbors are actually sneaking onto your property while you're away; perhaps you are just giving them a bad rap.\nIf you truly suspect your neighbors of entering your property without your consent, confront them and firmly ask them to stop. Warn them that the next time they do this, you will not hesitate to call the police.\nAdvertisement\nWhether you notice your neighbors watching you from their front lawn, they’re likely nosy if you often spot them looking at you to see what you’re doing. It’s good to determine whether they’re nosy with all of their neighbors, or just you, and whether they seem to have general safety concerns or be more interested in what their neighbors are up to.\n[10]\nIt’s also possible that you’re\nannoying your neighbors\nwithout even knowing you’re doing it—you may be dealing with a bad neighbor, but they may feel like they’re dealing with a noisy neighbor if you’re the one being loud late at night.\nYou may be cornered into having a conversation with them or already speaking to your neighbor when they ask nosy questions. Asking invasive questions goes beyond making polite conversation; it feels invasive for the person being asked, especially if the questions never stop.\n[11]\nIf you notice your neighbor hovering around while pretending to do things outside, they may be listening in on your conversations. This can also occur when neighbors listen in on their neighbor’s phone conversations, when they listen in through an open window, or by listening through the wall using a glass.\n[12]\nEven if you haven’t heard them speaking of you, if you hear your neighbors gossiping regularly about others, chances are they do the same when it comes to you. You might notice that, all of a sudden, the whole neighborhood seems to know something you only told them about.\n[13]\nIf you see them peering through a hole in the fence when you’re having a barbecue or notice the curtains in their window jerk shut all of a sudden, they’re probably spying. They may also take advantage of times when they see you outside, like when you’re walking your dog or getting your mail.\n[14]\nAdvertisement\nMost people feel some sense of curiosity when it comes to other people they live near. When\ndealing with over-friendly neighbors\n, you might find they may be just looking for friends they can depend on, and vice versa. If you’re unsure of their motivations, try asking yourself the following questions:\n[15]\nAre they new to the area and just trying to understand the culture of the neighborhood?\nAre they bored and just looking for entertainment or a way to pass the time?\nAre you doing something (suspicious, exciting, intriguing) to make them curious?\nNeighbors often experience a feeling of social comparison, which means they want to see how you live to gauge how well they’re doing. This stems from a sense of insecurity about themselves, where they live, or how much they have. It’ll be more apparent if they ask nosy questions about your finances, home worth, or possessions, and look frustrated or annoyed when you give them an answer.\n[16]\nSome people simply lack the knowledge and self-awareness to know when they’re being nosy. They may not be able to put themselves in your shoes to think about how their questions make you feel. They may also be super extroverted, which can prove difficult when their neighbors are introverts who value their privacy.\n[17]\nSome people like to feel as if they’re in total control of their environment. Where neighbors are concerned, this means they feel a need to know what you’re doing, what packages you get, the conversations you’re having, or who visits you. Their need for control may stem from fear or insecurity about their neighborhood and\/or their safety within it.\n[18]\nAdvertisement\nSearch\nAdd New Question\nQuestion\nOur neighbor's son throws dead frogs and papers, and watches us at night. What can we do?\nCommunity Answer\nGo talk to his parents. They should deal with him. If he still does not stop, tell his parents that throwing dead animals and items onto someone else's property is inappropriate and possibly breaking the law. Go talk to the police if this continues unabated.\nQuestion\nHow do I deal with a mentally unstable neighbor who won't leave me alone? She keeps calling, ringing the doorbell, and banging on my front and back door.\nCommunity Answer\nBuild a fence with a gate that locks and put a \"no trespassing, no solicitations\" sign on the front gate.  If she violates that boundary, call the police.\nQuestion\nHow do I deal with a neighbor who thinks I am listening to her private conversations when the problem is that she has a very loud voice?\nCommunity Answer\nJust be straightforward with her and let her know that you can't help but listen to her private conversations because she won't keep her voice down. If she's really that concerned about maintaining her privacy, she can speak quietly.\nSee more answers\nAsk a Question\n200 characters left\nInclude your email address to get a message when this question is answered.\nSubmit\nAdvertisement\nVideo\nThanks for submitting a tip for review!\nReferences\nAbout This Article\nArticle Summary\nX\nNosy neighbors can be frustrating to deal with, but by playing it cool and knowing what to say, you may be able to stop their nosiness. If your neighbors ask you a lot of personal questions, give them a straight answer like, “I don’t want to talk about it, sorry.” If you just don’t want to interact with them at all, try pretending to be on the phone whenever you see them. Most nosy neighbors are harmless, but if you suspect yours may be trying to snoop around or possibly steal something, tell them directly to stop. You could say something like, “Look, I really don’t appreciate you snooping around, can you please stop?”\nFor tips about how to be the stronger person, keep reading!\nDid this summary help you?\nThanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 341,187 times.\nReader Success Stories\nLauren Bushner\nMay 17, 2017\n\"Best advice ever! I did half of the things listed in the article and was running out of ideas. 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Saul Jaeger is a Police Officer and Captain of the Mountain View, California Police Department (MVPD). Saul has over 17 years of experience as a patrol officer, field training officer, traffic officer, detective, hostage negotiator, and as the traffic unit’s sergeant and Public Information Officer for the MVPD. At the MVPD, in addition to commanding the Field Operations Division, Saul has also led the Communications Center (dispatch) and the Crisis Negotiation Team. He earned an MS in Emergency Services Management from the California State University, Long Beach in 2008 and a BS in Administration of Justice from the University of Phoenix in 2006. He also earned a Corporate Innovation LEAD Certificate from the Stanford University Graduate School of Business in 2018.   \n  \n There are [10 references](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#References) cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page.   \n  \n This article has been fact-checked, ensuring the accuracy of any cited facts and confirming the authority of its sources.   \n  \n This article has been viewed 341,187 times.\n\nYour home is your safe space, but what do you do if you end up stuck with nosy neighbors? Whether you live in an apartment in the city or a house in the suburbs, invasive neighbors can threaten your sense of privacy. Keep reading for the best ways to assess the situation and [talk to your neighbor kindly](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#Handling-Nosy-Neighbors-Politely), plus ways to [block them out of view](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#How-to-Block-Out-Nosy-Neighbors) (with tips from a life coach, an etiquette coach, and even a police captain). We’ll also explain how to tell if your neighbor is truly nosy and why they might be so curious to begin with. Keep scrolling to learn more\\!\n\n## Dealing With Nosy Neighbors: Overview\nNote patterns in your neighbor’s behavior. Try avoiding them, ignoring them, or putting up physical deterrents to block their view, like a fence or curtains. Speak openly and honestly to them about how they make you feel. Consider installing a security system or contacting the authorities if you feel threatened.\n## Steps\nSection 1 of 4:\n\n### Handling Nosy Neighbors Politely\n\n[![PDF download](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/extensions\/wikihow\/socialstamp\/images\/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors)\n\n1. [![Step 1 Begin by fully understanding the actual problem you’re facing.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/1\/17\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-1-Version-4.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-1-Version-4.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-1-Version-4.jpg)\n   1\n   **Begin by fully understanding the actual problem you’re facing.** Look for patterns in your neighbors' nosy behavior. Are they often nosy at certain times, like weekends, weekdays, or evenings? Think about whether they’re nosy due to something going on in their lives or are curious about something going on in yours. When [dealing with nosy neighbors](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Annoying-Neighbors \"Deal With Annoying Neighbors\"), it’s important to ask yourself the following questions:[\\[1\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-1) X Research source\n   \n   - How long has this been going on?\n   - How many of your neighbors are nosy?\n   - Do you live in a nosy neighborhood?\n   - How long do you plan to stay in that area?\n2. [![Step 2 Talk to your nosy neighbor to determine your next move.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/3\/31\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-4-Version-4.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-4-Version-4.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-4-Version-4.jpg)\n   2\n   **Talk to your nosy neighbor to determine your next move.** First, try to learn as much about them as possible without getting too involved. This will help you to identify if there is any malice in their questions, if they are just being nosy to pass the time, or if they are new and need help making friends. Then, decide next steps on whether to confront, avoid, or befriend your neighbors.\n   \n   - If your neighbors seem lonely and bored, try talking to them, introducing them to other neighbors, and suggesting fun things for them to do.\n   - If your neighbors are always confronting you and asking you personal questions, then consider how you can avoid talking to them.\n   - If your neighbors are snooping around looking for trouble, including stealing your things or reporting your activities, consider upping your security. Ask them to stop intruding. If the situation becomes dangerous for your family or property, contact the authorities.\n   Advertisement\n3. [![Step 3 Try ignoring them and going about your day.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/1\/1c\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-6-Version-4.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-6-Version-4.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-6-Version-4.jpg)\n   3\n   **Try ignoring them and going about your day.** Just get on with your business, nonchalantly and happily. If they have nothing better to do than watch you all day, then they have wasted their own time, not yours; it’s a good way to help yourself [stop worrying about a bad neighbor](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Stop-Worrying-About-Noisy-Neighbours \"Stop Worrying About Noisy Neighbours\").\n   \n   - For example, if you're busy and you don't have time to tolerate nosiness, keep your headphones in your ears while passing through common areas like corridors, lifts, and parks—anywhere you might encounter your neighbor.\n   - Another way to ignore them is to [fake a phone call](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Fake-a-Cell-Phone-Call \"Fake a Cell Phone Call\"). Whenever they approach you, put your phone to your ear and pretend to be in an important conversation. Don't forget to smile and nod at them when on the phone.\n4. [![Step 4 Avoid hanging out in plain sight of your neighbors.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/6\/6c\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-9-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-9-Version-2.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-9-Version-2.jpg)\n   4\n   **Avoid hanging out in plain sight of your neighbors.** Move to your backyard, or choose another spot where they can't see you. This works for some activities—you can just as easily host a cookout or play catch in the backyard as you can in the front—but it is not a permanent fix. It is an avoidance technique.\n   \n   - If your neighbor is extremely nosy, they might find ways to snoop around despite your efforts to avoid it. Hiding in the backyard might work once or twice, but be prepared for more occurrences ahead.\n   - If the problem is this bad, consider confronting or ignoring your neighbors. It can be exhausting to expend all of your mental energy on simply trying to escape someone.\n   - Make a code name for them whenever you see them. For example, \"activity\" or \"spiders.\" This will cue your family to behave accordingly, whether you all agree to retreat to the backyard or begin making loud noises.\n5. [![Step 5 Act like you're not doing anything.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/c\/c0\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-10-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-10-Version-2.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-10-Version-2.jpg)\n   5\n   **Act like you're not doing anything.** If your neighbors are always asking questions about what you're doing and why you're doing it, an easy solution can be to simply do nothing. Try your best to seem uninteresting. Resume your activities when your neighbors go away. If they do still ask you questions, share a small piece of information and then ask them how they are.\n   \n   - If they say, \"So, Frank, buddy, what's up?\" ninety-seven times a day, it wouldn't hurt to respond once, \"Oh, just walking the dog,\" or \"I'm good.\" This isn't the most exciting reply, and it makes it hard to think up further questions. Then ask, \"How about you?\" This can unsettle nosy people who don't like the feeling that you are nosing around them.\n   - Bear in mind that if you look like you have nothing to do, some neighbors take it as license to strike up a conversation. When in doubt, it’s best to avoid or confront your neighbors rather than wait for them to leave.\n   - Keep in mind you don’t have to interact this way if you’re not sure of their intentions. Etiquette coach Tami Claytor suggests keeping things respectful unless you’re very uncomfortable by “just being very polite.”[\\[2\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-2)X [Expert Source](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/wikiHow:Delivering-a-Trustworthy-Experience) [![Tami Claytor](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/e\/e9\/Tami_Claytor.png\/-crop-100-100-100px-Tami_Claytor.png)Tami Claytor Etiquette Coach](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Author\/Tami-Claytor) Expert Interview\n6. [![Step 6 Shut down their questions by being honest.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/6\/61\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-2.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-2.jpg)\n   6\n   **Shut down their questions by being honest.** If you’re [dealing with bullying neighbors](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-with-Bullying-Neighbours \"Deal with Bullying Neighbours\") who ask you a lot of personal questions, tell them that it makes you uncomfortable. The next time they do it, give them a straight, upfront answer, like \"That's not something I would like to share with you.\" Stare them down, and make it clear that you mean business. Then walk away. They'll hopefully get the message and back off.[\\[3\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-3) X Research source\n   \n   - This approach is blunt and straightforward. It may get the point across, but it may also offend your neighbor's pride.\n   - Bear in mind that nosy neighbors aren't always trying to be obnoxious. They might be asking questions out of genuine curiosity. They may not have the tact or the social skills to know which questions are too personal. Be empathetic, but do not put up with anything that violates your space.\n   - If you tell your neighbor to stop asking questions, but they continue, you may need to take more serious steps to address the problem.\n7. [![Step 7 Catch them in the act of spying.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/7\/74\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-2.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-2.jpg)\n   7\n   **Catch them in the act of spying.** If your neighbors like to spy on you, catch them and say something that will embarrass them. Discreetly inform everyone who is with you, and then out of nowhere say something like, \"Hey, Mrs. Jones, having fun there?\" Watch as their face turns red. If they deny it, then just ignore them and give them a cold shoulder. If they do it again, get them alone and ask them nicely to stop.\n   \n   - Make jokes about them nosing. Say things like, \"Now don't you go spying on me!\" and they may realize that they are being too nosy. It might even make them stop.\n   - Life coach Eze Sanchez recommends saying something like “No offense or anything. I really like my privacy, so could you check in with me before you come onto my property?”[\\[4\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-4)X [Expert Source](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/wikiHow:Delivering-a-Trustworthy-Experience) [![Eze Sanchez](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/4\/4f\/Eze_Sanchez.png\/-crop-100-100-100px-Eze_Sanchez.png)Eze Sanchez Life & Relationship Coach](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Author\/Eze-Sanchez) Expert Interview\n8. [![Step 8 Consider informing the authorities.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/c\/ca\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-2.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-2.jpg)\n   8\n   **Consider informing the authorities.** If your neighbors get too nosy, you may find that your only option is to contact the local police or neighborhood watch force. If the neighbor just won't leave you alone, you may want to apply for a restraining order. If you find your neighbors snooping around on your property, stealing your things, or trying to break into your home, call the police so that you don't need to handle the situation on your own.\n   \n   - Police captain Saul Jaeger, MS, notes you should “trust your instincts. You can actually put yourself in an unsafe situation because of societal norms and expectations. And it's really silly when you think about it.” He recommends taking steps that keep you feeling safe and secure in your home and your neighborhood.[\\[5\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-5)X [Expert Source](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/wikiHow:Delivering-a-Trustworthy-Experience) [![Saul Jaeger, MS](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/8\/8d\/Saul_Jaeger.png\/-crop-100-100-100px-Saul_Jaeger.png)Saul Jaeger, MS Police Captain, Mountain View Police Department](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Author\/Saul-Jaeger-MS) Expert Interview\n   - Consider involving a neutral third party if you’re not ready to contact the authorities. A neighbor with whom you both get along is a good place to start if you’re looking for someone objective to mediate.\n   TELL US WHAT YOU THINK\n   \n   What would you do about a nosy neighbor?\n   \n   Avoid them at all costs.\n   \n   Confront them about their nosy ways.\n   \n   Be nosy to them right back.\n   \n   Contact the authorities.\n   \n   230 total votes. This poll was last updated on 04\/10\/26.\n   \n   Take Random Quiz\n   \n   ![](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/extensions\/wikihow\/ReaderPoll\/assets\/poll_smile.svg)\n   \n   #### Thanks for answering our poll\\!\n   [Take Quiz](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors) [See More Quizzes](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Quizzes)\n\nSection 2 of 4:\n\n### How to Block Out Nosy Neighbors\n\n[![PDF download](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/extensions\/wikihow\/socialstamp\/images\/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors)\n\n1. [![Step 1 Use physical deterrents like a fence.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/f\/f7\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-2.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-2.jpg)\n   1\n   **Use physical deterrents like a fence.** If you want your neighbors to stop peeking, consider [putting up a fence](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Install-a-Privacy-Fence \"Install a Privacy Fence\") between your properties. Check your local bylaws—if the fence lies between your properties, you may need to ask your neighbors' permission to construct it. Make sure that you don't build onto their property, or else you may give them even more reason to intrude.[\\[6\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-6) X Research source\n   \n   - Dogs or small children make a great excuse to build a large fence around your property. Simply say that you didn't want the dog running loose.\n   - Consider whether you want to feel penned in just because your neighbors are nosy. Building a fence may solve your problem, but it may just inspire your nosy neighbors to get creative.\n2. [![Step 2 Install light-filtering blinds, retractable screens, or curtains.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/8\/8c\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-5-Version-4.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-5-Version-4.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-5-Version-4.jpg)\n   2\n   **Install light-filtering blinds, retractable screens, or curtains.** There are many window treatments you can use to protect your privacy against nosy neighbors. They include [light-filtering blinds](https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/s?k=light+filtering+shades&crid=2KP0ZMSLYYUFZ&sprefix=light+filtering,aps,872&ref=nb_sb_ss_p13n-pd-dpltr-ranker_ci_sl-bn-left_2_15&tag=wikihow126189-20) that keep out prying eyes but let in sunlight, [screens that retract](https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/s?k=retractable+screens+for+windows&crid=5LJY04LVMBST&sprefix=retractable+screens,aps,186&ref=nb_sb_ss_saint-en-prefix-candidate_2_19&tag=wikihow126189-20) to help soundproof your home (a tapestry on the wall will also help here), or curtains for more privacy. You can go one step further by getting [reflective window tints](https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/s?k=reflective+window+tint+for+home&crid=3F1M0ZQU966U&sprefix=reflective+window+tin,aps,204&ref=nb_sb_ss_saint-en-prefix-candidate_2_21&tag=wikihow126189-20) to avoid having to close your curtains or blinds.[\\[7\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-7) X Research source\n3. [![Step 3 Add more landscaping to block their view.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/1\/15\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-3.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-3.jpg)\n   3\n   **Add more landscaping to block their view.** If you don't like the idea of a fence, consider planting a hedge, a bush, or a stand of trees to [block out their view](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Block-Out-Neighbours-View \"Block Out Neighbours View\"). Bear in mind that these barriers will take years to grow into place. You can also try getting a trellis for flowers or other plants to climb, which helps protect your privacy when you’re in your backyard.[\\[8\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-8) X Research source\n   \n   - You can also use large potted plants placed on window sills to block their view into your home, or place larger potted trees like bamboo outside.\n4. [![Step 4 Install a security system.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/5\/5b\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-2.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-2.jpg)\n   4\n   **Install a security system.** This may be a wise choice if you think your neighbors are snooping around on your property. Keep your house locked. If you go on vacation, install a security system or video cameras. Ask another neighbor to keep an eye on your property while you're away, in case the nosy neighbor starts snooping around.[\\[9\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-9) X [Trustworthy Source](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/wikiHow:Delivering-a-Trustworthy-Experience) Consumer Reports Nonprofit organization dedicated to consumer advocacy and product testing [Go to source](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors)\n   \n   - Bear in mind that, depending on the neighbor's situation, this approach may be bordering on paranoia. Perhaps your neighbors are actually sneaking onto your property while you're away; perhaps you are just giving them a bad rap.\n   - If you truly suspect your neighbors of entering your property without your consent, confront them and firmly ask them to stop. Warn them that the next time they do this, you will not hesitate to call the police.\n\nSection 3 of 4:\n\n### Signs Your Neighbor Is Nosy\n\n[![PDF download](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/extensions\/wikihow\/socialstamp\/images\/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors)\n\n1. [![Step 1 They stare at you or your home all the time.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/7\/71\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-3.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-3.jpg)\n   1\n   **They stare at you or your home all the time.** Whether you notice your neighbors watching you from their front lawn, they’re likely nosy if you often spot them looking at you to see what you’re doing. It’s good to determine whether they’re nosy with all of their neighbors, or just you, and whether they seem to have general safety concerns or be more interested in what their neighbors are up to.[\\[10\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-10) X Research source\n   \n   - It’s also possible that you’re [annoying your neighbors](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Annoy-Your-Neighbor \"Annoy Your Neighbor\") without even knowing you’re doing it—you may be dealing with a bad neighbor, but they may feel like they’re dealing with a noisy neighbor if you’re the one being loud late at night.\n2. [![Step 2 They ask you invasive questions regularly.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/3\/34\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-3.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-3.jpg)\n   2\n   **They ask you invasive questions regularly.** You may be cornered into having a conversation with them or already speaking to your neighbor when they ask nosy questions. Asking invasive questions goes beyond making polite conversation; it feels invasive for the person being asked, especially if the questions never stop.[\\[11\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-11) X Research source\n3. [![Step 3 They listen in on your conversations.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/1\/16\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-3.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-3.jpg)\n   3\n   **They listen in on your conversations.** If you notice your neighbor hovering around while pretending to do things outside, they may be listening in on your conversations. This can also occur when neighbors listen in on their neighbor’s phone conversations, when they listen in through an open window, or by listening through the wall using a glass.[\\[12\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-12) X Research source\n4. [![Step 4 They enjoy gossiping about their neighbors.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/6\/6a\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-16-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-16-Version-3.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-16-Version-3.jpg)\n   4\n   **They enjoy gossiping about their neighbors.** Even if you haven’t heard them speaking of you, if you hear your neighbors gossiping regularly about others, chances are they do the same when it comes to you. You might notice that, all of a sudden, the whole neighborhood seems to know something you only told them about. [\\[13\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-13) X Research source\n5. [![Step 5 They like to peek out at you.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/7\/7f\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-3.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-3.jpg)\n   5\n   **They like to peek out at you.** If you see them peering through a hole in the fence when you’re having a barbecue or notice the curtains in their window jerk shut all of a sudden, they’re probably spying. They may also take advantage of times when they see you outside, like when you’re walking your dog or getting your mail.[\\[14\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-14) X Research source\n\nSection 4 of 4:\n\n### Psychology Behind Nosy Neighbors\n\n[![PDF download](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/extensions\/wikihow\/socialstamp\/images\/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors)\n\n1. [![Step 1 They’re looking for social connection.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/4\/46\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-3-Version-4.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-3-Version-4.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-3-Version-4.jpg)\n   1\n   **They’re looking for social connection.** Most people feel some sense of curiosity when it comes to other people they live near. When [dealing with over-friendly neighbors](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-with-an-Overly-Friendly-Neighbor \"Deal with an Overly Friendly Neighbor\"), you might find they may be just looking for friends they can depend on, and vice versa. If you’re unsure of their motivations, try asking yourself the following questions:[\\[15\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-15) X Research source\n   \n   - Are they new to the area and just trying to understand the culture of the neighborhood?\n   - Are they bored and just looking for entertainment or a way to pass the time?\n   - Are you doing something (suspicious, exciting, intriguing) to make them curious?\n2. [![Step 2 They’re feeling insecure about themselves.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/b\/b2\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-19-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-19-Version-2.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-19-Version-2.jpg)\n   2\n   **They’re feeling insecure about themselves.** Neighbors often experience a feeling of social comparison, which means they want to see how you live to gauge how well they’re doing. This stems from a sense of insecurity about themselves, where they live, or how much they have. It’ll be more apparent if they ask nosy questions about your finances, home worth, or possessions, and look frustrated or annoyed when you give them an answer.[\\[16\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-16) X Research source\n3. [![Step 3 They lack social skills (and basic empathy).](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/9\/99\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-20.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-20.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-20.jpg)\n   3\n   **They lack social skills (and basic empathy).** Some people simply lack the knowledge and self-awareness to know when they’re being nosy. They may not be able to put themselves in your shoes to think about how their questions make you feel. They may also be super extroverted, which can prove difficult when their neighbors are introverts who value their privacy.[\\[17\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-17) X Research source\n4. [![Step 4 They have a need to control.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/4\/4b\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-21.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-21.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-21.jpg)\n   4\n   **They have a need to control.** Some people like to feel as if they’re in total control of their environment. Where neighbors are concerned, this means they feel a need to know what you’re doing, what packages you get, the conversations you’re having, or who visits you. Their need for control may stem from fear or insecurity about their neighborhood and\/or their safety within it.[\\[18\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-18) X Research source\n\n## Community Q\\&A\nSearch\n\n[Add New Question]()\n\n- Question\n  \n  Our neighbor's son throws dead frogs and papers, and watches us at night. What can we do?\n  \n  ![Community Answer](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/b\/b0\/CommunityAvatar2.png\/-crop-104-104-104px-CommunityAvatar2.png)\n  \n  Community Answer\n  \n  Go talk to his parents. They should deal with him. If he still does not stop, tell his parents that throwing dead animals and items onto someone else's property is inappropriate and possibly breaking the law. Go talk to the police if this continues unabated.\n  \n  **Thanks! 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[↑](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_ref-1) <https:\/\/www.citizensadvice.org.uk\/housing\/problems-where-you-live\/complaining-about-your-neighbour\/>\n2. [↑](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_ref-2) Tami Claytor. Etiquette Coach. Expert Interview\n3. [↑](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_ref-3) <https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/fulfillment-any-age\/201506\/9-ways-handle-nosy-people>\n4. [↑](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_ref-4) Eze Sanchez. Life & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview\n5. [↑](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_ref-5) Saul Jaeger, MS. Police Captain, Mountain View Police Department. Expert Interview\n6. [↑](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_ref-6) <https:\/\/www.realtor.com\/advice\/home-improvement\/what-is-a-privacy-fence\/>\n7. 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Whether you live in an apartment in the city or a house in the suburbs, invasive neighbors can threaten your sense of privacy. Keep reading for the best ways to assess the situation and [talk to your neighbor kindly](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#Handling-Nosy-Neighbors-Politely), plus ways to [block them out of view](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#How-to-Block-Out-Nosy-Neighbors) (with tips from a life coach, an etiquette coach, and even a police captain). We’ll also explain how to tell if your neighbor is truly nosy and why they might be so curious to begin with. Keep scrolling to learn more\\!\n\n## Dealing With Nosy Neighbors: Overview\nNote patterns in your neighbor’s behavior. Try avoiding them, ignoring them, or putting up physical deterrents to block their view, like a fence or curtains. Speak openly and honestly to them about how they make you feel. Consider installing a security system or contacting the authorities if you feel threatened.\n\n1. [![Step 1 Begin by fully understanding the actual problem you’re facing.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/1\/17\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-1-Version-4.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-1-Version-4.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-1-Version-4.jpg)\n   Look for patterns in your neighbors' nosy behavior. Are they often nosy at certain times, like weekends, weekdays, or evenings? Think about whether they’re nosy due to something going on in their lives or are curious about something going on in yours. When [dealing with nosy neighbors](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Annoying-Neighbors \"Deal With Annoying Neighbors\"), it’s important to ask yourself the following questions:[\\[1\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-1)\n   \n   - How long has this been going on?\n   - How many of your neighbors are nosy?\n   - Do you live in a nosy neighborhood?\n   - How long do you plan to stay in that area?\n2. [![Step 2 Talk to your nosy neighbor to determine your next move.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/3\/31\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-4-Version-4.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-4-Version-4.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-4-Version-4.jpg)\n   First, try to learn as much about them as possible without getting too involved. This will help you to identify if there is any malice in their questions, if they are just being nosy to pass the time, or if they are new and need help making friends. Then, decide next steps on whether to confront, avoid, or befriend your neighbors.\n   \n   - If your neighbors seem lonely and bored, try talking to them, introducing them to other neighbors, and suggesting fun things for them to do.\n   - If your neighbors are always confronting you and asking you personal questions, then consider how you can avoid talking to them.\n   - If your neighbors are snooping around looking for trouble, including stealing your things or reporting your activities, consider upping your security. Ask them to stop intruding. If the situation becomes dangerous for your family or property, contact the authorities.\n   Advertisement\n3. [![Step 3 Try ignoring them and going about your day.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/1\/1c\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-6-Version-4.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-6-Version-4.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-6-Version-4.jpg)\n   Just get on with your business, nonchalantly and happily. If they have nothing better to do than watch you all day, then they have wasted their own time, not yours; it’s a good way to help yourself [stop worrying about a bad neighbor](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Stop-Worrying-About-Noisy-Neighbours \"Stop Worrying About Noisy Neighbours\").\n   \n   - For example, if you're busy and you don't have time to tolerate nosiness, keep your headphones in your ears while passing through common areas like corridors, lifts, and parks—anywhere you might encounter your neighbor.\n   - Another way to ignore them is to [fake a phone call](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Fake-a-Cell-Phone-Call \"Fake a Cell Phone Call\"). Whenever they approach you, put your phone to your ear and pretend to be in an important conversation. Don't forget to smile and nod at them when on the phone.\n4. [![Step 4 Avoid hanging out in plain sight of your neighbors.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/6\/6c\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-9-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-9-Version-2.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-9-Version-2.jpg)\n   Move to your backyard, or choose another spot where they can't see you. This works for some activities—you can just as easily host a cookout or play catch in the backyard as you can in the front—but it is not a permanent fix. It is an avoidance technique.\n   \n   - If your neighbor is extremely nosy, they might find ways to snoop around despite your efforts to avoid it. Hiding in the backyard might work once or twice, but be prepared for more occurrences ahead.\n   - If the problem is this bad, consider confronting or ignoring your neighbors. It can be exhausting to expend all of your mental energy on simply trying to escape someone.\n   - Make a code name for them whenever you see them. For example, \"activity\" or \"spiders.\" This will cue your family to behave accordingly, whether you all agree to retreat to the backyard or begin making loud noises.\n5. [![Step 5 Act like you're not doing anything.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/c\/c0\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-10-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-10-Version-2.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-10-Version-2.jpg)\n   If your neighbors are always asking questions about what you're doing and why you're doing it, an easy solution can be to simply do nothing. Try your best to seem uninteresting. Resume your activities when your neighbors go away. If they do still ask you questions, share a small piece of information and then ask them how they are.\n   \n   - If they say, \"So, Frank, buddy, what's up?\" ninety-seven times a day, it wouldn't hurt to respond once, \"Oh, just walking the dog,\" or \"I'm good.\" This isn't the most exciting reply, and it makes it hard to think up further questions. Then ask, \"How about you?\" This can unsettle nosy people who don't like the feeling that you are nosing around them.\n   - Bear in mind that if you look like you have nothing to do, some neighbors take it as license to strike up a conversation. When in doubt, it’s best to avoid or confront your neighbors rather than wait for them to leave.\n   - Keep in mind you don’t have to interact this way if you’re not sure of their intentions. Etiquette coach Tami Claytor suggests keeping things respectful unless you’re very uncomfortable by “just being very polite.”[\\[2\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-2)\n6. [![Step 6 Shut down their questions by being honest.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/6\/61\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-2.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-2.jpg)\n   If you’re [dealing with bullying neighbors](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-with-Bullying-Neighbours \"Deal with Bullying Neighbours\") who ask you a lot of personal questions, tell them that it makes you uncomfortable. The next time they do it, give them a straight, upfront answer, like \"That's not something I would like to share with you.\" Stare them down, and make it clear that you mean business. Then walk away. They'll hopefully get the message and back off.[\\[3\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-3)\n   \n   - This approach is blunt and straightforward. It may get the point across, but it may also offend your neighbor's pride.\n   - Bear in mind that nosy neighbors aren't always trying to be obnoxious. They might be asking questions out of genuine curiosity. They may not have the tact or the social skills to know which questions are too personal. Be empathetic, but do not put up with anything that violates your space.\n   - If you tell your neighbor to stop asking questions, but they continue, you may need to take more serious steps to address the problem.\n7. [![Step 7 Catch them in the act of spying.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/7\/74\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-2.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-2.jpg)\n   If your neighbors like to spy on you, catch them and say something that will embarrass them. Discreetly inform everyone who is with you, and then out of nowhere say something like, \"Hey, Mrs. Jones, having fun there?\" Watch as their face turns red. If they deny it, then just ignore them and give them a cold shoulder. If they do it again, get them alone and ask them nicely to stop.\n   \n   - Make jokes about them nosing. Say things like, \"Now don't you go spying on me!\" and they may realize that they are being too nosy. It might even make them stop.\n   - Life coach Eze Sanchez recommends saying something like “No offense or anything. I really like my privacy, so could you check in with me before you come onto my property?”[\\[4\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-4)\n8. [![Step 8 Consider informing the authorities.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/c\/ca\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-2.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-2.jpg)\n   If your neighbors get too nosy, you may find that your only option is to contact the local police or neighborhood watch force. If the neighbor just won't leave you alone, you may want to apply for a restraining order. If you find your neighbors snooping around on your property, stealing your things, or trying to break into your home, call the police so that you don't need to handle the situation on your own.\n   \n   - Police captain Saul Jaeger, MS, notes you should “trust your instincts. You can actually put yourself in an unsafe situation because of societal norms and expectations. And it's really silly when you think about it.” He recommends taking steps that keep you feeling safe and secure in your home and your neighborhood.[\\[5\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-5)\n   - Consider involving a neutral third party if you’re not ready to contact the authorities. A neighbor with whom you both get along is a good place to start if you’re looking for someone objective to mediate.\n   What would you do about a nosy neighbor?\n   \n   Avoid them at all costs. Confront them about their nosy ways. Be nosy to them right back. Contact the authorities.\n\n1. [![Step 1 Use physical deterrents like a fence.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/f\/f7\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-2.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-2.jpg)\n   If you want your neighbors to stop peeking, consider [putting up a fence](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Install-a-Privacy-Fence \"Install a Privacy Fence\") between your properties. Check your local bylaws—if the fence lies between your properties, you may need to ask your neighbors' permission to construct it. Make sure that you don't build onto their property, or else you may give them even more reason to intrude.[\\[6\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-6)\n   \n   - Dogs or small children make a great excuse to build a large fence around your property. Simply say that you didn't want the dog running loose.\n   - Consider whether you want to feel penned in just because your neighbors are nosy. Building a fence may solve your problem, but it may just inspire your nosy neighbors to get creative.\n2. [![Step 2 Install light-filtering blinds, retractable screens, or curtains.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/8\/8c\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-5-Version-4.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-5-Version-4.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-5-Version-4.jpg)\n   There are many window treatments you can use to protect your privacy against nosy neighbors. They include [light-filtering blinds](https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/s?k=light+filtering+shades&crid=2KP0ZMSLYYUFZ&sprefix=light+filtering,aps,872&ref=nb_sb_ss_p13n-pd-dpltr-ranker_ci_sl-bn-left_2_15&tag=wikihow126189-20) that keep out prying eyes but let in sunlight, [screens that retract](https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/s?k=retractable+screens+for+windows&crid=5LJY04LVMBST&sprefix=retractable+screens,aps,186&ref=nb_sb_ss_saint-en-prefix-candidate_2_19&tag=wikihow126189-20) to help soundproof your home (a tapestry on the wall will also help here), or curtains for more privacy. You can go one step further by getting [reflective window tints](https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/s?k=reflective+window+tint+for+home&crid=3F1M0ZQU966U&sprefix=reflective+window+tin,aps,204&ref=nb_sb_ss_saint-en-prefix-candidate_2_21&tag=wikihow126189-20) to avoid having to close your curtains or blinds.[\\[7\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-7)\n3. [![Step 3 Add more landscaping to block their view.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/1\/15\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-3.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-3.jpg)\n   If you don't like the idea of a fence, consider planting a hedge, a bush, or a stand of trees to [block out their view](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Block-Out-Neighbours-View \"Block Out Neighbours View\"). Bear in mind that these barriers will take years to grow into place. You can also try getting a trellis for flowers or other plants to climb, which helps protect your privacy when you’re in your backyard.[\\[8\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-8)\n   \n   - You can also use large potted plants placed on window sills to block their view into your home, or place larger potted trees like bamboo outside.\n4. [![Step 4 Install a security system.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/5\/5b\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-2.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-2.jpg)\n   This may be a wise choice if you think your neighbors are snooping around on your property. Keep your house locked. If you go on vacation, install a security system or video cameras. Ask another neighbor to keep an eye on your property while you're away, in case the nosy neighbor starts snooping around.[\\[9\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-9)\n   \n   - Bear in mind that, depending on the neighbor's situation, this approach may be bordering on paranoia. Perhaps your neighbors are actually sneaking onto your property while you're away; perhaps you are just giving them a bad rap.\n   - If you truly suspect your neighbors of entering your property without your consent, confront them and firmly ask them to stop. Warn them that the next time they do this, you will not hesitate to call the police.\n\n1. [![Step 1 They stare at you or your home all the time.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/7\/71\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-3.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-3.jpg)\n   Whether you notice your neighbors watching you from their front lawn, they’re likely nosy if you often spot them looking at you to see what you’re doing. It’s good to determine whether they’re nosy with all of their neighbors, or just you, and whether they seem to have general safety concerns or be more interested in what their neighbors are up to.[\\[10\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-10)\n   \n   - It’s also possible that you’re [annoying your neighbors](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Annoy-Your-Neighbor \"Annoy Your Neighbor\") without even knowing you’re doing it—you may be dealing with a bad neighbor, but they may feel like they’re dealing with a noisy neighbor if you’re the one being loud late at night.\n2. [![Step 2 They ask you invasive questions regularly.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/3\/34\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-3.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-3.jpg)\n   You may be cornered into having a conversation with them or already speaking to your neighbor when they ask nosy questions. Asking invasive questions goes beyond making polite conversation; it feels invasive for the person being asked, especially if the questions never stop.[\\[11\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-11)\n3. [![Step 3 They listen in on your conversations.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/1\/16\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-3.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-3.jpg)\n   If you notice your neighbor hovering around while pretending to do things outside, they may be listening in on your conversations. This can also occur when neighbors listen in on their neighbor’s phone conversations, when they listen in through an open window, or by listening through the wall using a glass.[\\[12\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-12)\n4. [![Step 4 They enjoy gossiping about their neighbors.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/6\/6a\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-16-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-16-Version-3.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-16-Version-3.jpg)\n   Even if you haven’t heard them speaking of you, if you hear your neighbors gossiping regularly about others, chances are they do the same when it comes to you. You might notice that, all of a sudden, the whole neighborhood seems to know something you only told them about. [\\[13\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-13)\n5. [![Step 5 They like to peek out at you.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/7\/7f\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-3.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-3.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-3.jpg)\n   If you see them peering through a hole in the fence when you’re having a barbecue or notice the curtains in their window jerk shut all of a sudden, they’re probably spying. They may also take advantage of times when they see you outside, like when you’re walking your dog or getting your mail.[\\[14\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-14)\n\n1. [![Step 1 They’re looking for social connection.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/4\/46\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-3-Version-4.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-3-Version-4.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-3-Version-4.jpg)\n   Most people feel some sense of curiosity when it comes to other people they live near. When [dealing with over-friendly neighbors](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-with-an-Overly-Friendly-Neighbor \"Deal with an Overly Friendly Neighbor\"), you might find they may be just looking for friends they can depend on, and vice versa. If you’re unsure of their motivations, try asking yourself the following questions:[\\[15\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-15)\n   \n   - Are they new to the area and just trying to understand the culture of the neighborhood?\n   - Are they bored and just looking for entertainment or a way to pass the time?\n   - Are you doing something (suspicious, exciting, intriguing) to make them curious?\n2. [![Step 2 They’re feeling insecure about themselves.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/b\/b2\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-19-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-19-Version-2.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-19-Version-2.jpg)\n   Neighbors often experience a feeling of social comparison, which means they want to see how you live to gauge how well they’re doing. This stems from a sense of insecurity about themselves, where they live, or how much they have. It’ll be more apparent if they ask nosy questions about your finances, home worth, or possessions, and look frustrated or annoyed when you give them an answer.[\\[16\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-16)\n3. [![Step 3 They lack social skills (and basic empathy).](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/9\/99\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-20.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-20.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-20.jpg)\n   Some people simply lack the knowledge and self-awareness to know when they’re being nosy. They may not be able to put themselves in your shoes to think about how their questions make you feel. They may also be super extroverted, which can prove difficult when their neighbors are introverts who value their privacy.[\\[17\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-17)\n4. [![Step 4 They have a need to control.](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/4\/4b\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-21.jpg\/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-21.jpg)](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#\/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-21.jpg)\n   Some people like to feel as if they’re in total control of their environment. Where neighbors are concerned, this means they feel a need to know what you’re doing, what packages you get, the conversations you’re having, or who visits you. Their need for control may stem from fear or insecurity about their neighborhood and\/or their safety within it.[\\[18\\]](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-18)\n\nSearch\n\n[Add New Question]()\n\n- Question\n  \n  Our neighbor's son throws dead frogs and papers, and watches us at night. What can we do?\n  \n  ![Community Answer](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/b\/b0\/CommunityAvatar2.png\/-crop-104-104-104px-CommunityAvatar2.png)\n  \n  Community Answer\n  \n  Go talk to his parents. They should deal with him. If he still does not stop, tell his parents that throwing dead animals and items onto someone else's property is inappropriate and possibly breaking the law. Go talk to the police if this continues unabated.\n- Question\n  \n  How do I deal with a mentally unstable neighbor who won't leave me alone? She keeps calling, ringing the doorbell, and banging on my front and back door.\n  \n  ![Community Answer](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/f\/f5\/CommunityAvatar4.png\/-crop-104-104-104px-CommunityAvatar4.png)\n  \n  Community Answer\n  \n  Build a fence with a gate that locks and put a \"no trespassing, no solicitations\" sign on the front gate. If she violates that boundary, call the police.\n- Question\n  \n  How do I deal with a neighbor who thinks I am listening to her private conversations when the problem is that she has a very loud voice?\n  \n  ![Community Answer](https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/b\/b0\/CommunityAvatar2.png\/-crop-104-104-104px-CommunityAvatar2.png)\n  \n  Community Answer\n  \n  Just be straightforward with her and let her know that you can't help but listen to her private conversations because she won't keep her voice down. 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Boilerpipe Text	Download Article Plus, the psychology behind why neighbors can be so intrusive Download Article Taking a Soft Approach \| Blocking Them Out \| Signs They’re Nosy \| Why are neighbors nosy? \| Video \| Q&A Your home is your safe space, but what do you do if you end up stuck with nosy neighbors? Whether you live in an apartment in the city or a house in the suburbs, invasive neighbors can threaten your sense of privacy. Keep reading for the best ways to assess the situation and talk to your neighbor kindly , plus ways to block them out of view (with tips from a life coach, an etiquette coach, and even a police captain). We’ll also explain how to tell if your neighbor is truly nosy and why they might be so curious to begin with. Keep scrolling to learn more! Dealing With Nosy Neighbors: Overview Note patterns in your neighbor’s behavior. Try avoiding them, ignoring them, or putting up physical deterrents to block their view, like a fence or curtains. Speak openly and honestly to them about how they make you feel. Consider installing a security system or contacting the authorities if you feel threatened. Look for patterns in your neighbors' nosy behavior. Are they often nosy at certain times, like weekends, weekdays, or evenings? Think about whether they’re nosy due to something going on in their lives or are curious about something going on in yours. When dealing with nosy neighbors , it’s important to ask yourself the following questions: [1] How long has this been going on? How many of your neighbors are nosy? Do you live in a nosy neighborhood? How long do you plan to stay in that area? First, try to learn as much about them as possible without getting too involved. This will help you to identify if there is any malice in their questions, if they are just being nosy to pass the time, or if they are new and need help making friends. Then, decide next steps on whether to confront, avoid, or befriend your neighbors. If your neighbors seem lonely and bored, try talking to them, introducing them to other neighbors, and suggesting fun things for them to do. If your neighbors are always confronting you and asking you personal questions, then consider how you can avoid talking to them. If your neighbors are snooping around looking for trouble, including stealing your things or reporting your activities, consider upping your security. Ask them to stop intruding. If the situation becomes dangerous for your family or property, contact the authorities. Advertisement Just get on with your business, nonchalantly and happily. If they have nothing better to do than watch you all day, then they have wasted their own time, not yours; it’s a good way to help yourself stop worrying about a bad neighbor . For example, if you're busy and you don't have time to tolerate nosiness, keep your headphones in your ears while passing through common areas like corridors, lifts, and parks—anywhere you might encounter your neighbor. Another way to ignore them is to fake a phone call . Whenever they approach you, put your phone to your ear and pretend to be in an important conversation. Don't forget to smile and nod at them when on the phone. Move to your backyard, or choose another spot where they can't see you. This works for some activities—you can just as easily host a cookout or play catch in the backyard as you can in the front—but it is not a permanent fix. It is an avoidance technique. If your neighbor is extremely nosy, they might find ways to snoop around despite your efforts to avoid it. Hiding in the backyard might work once or twice, but be prepared for more occurrences ahead. If the problem is this bad, consider confronting or ignoring your neighbors. It can be exhausting to expend all of your mental energy on simply trying to escape someone. Make a code name for them whenever you see them. For example, "activity" or "spiders." This will cue your family to behave accordingly, whether you all agree to retreat to the backyard or begin making loud noises. If your neighbors are always asking questions about what you're doing and why you're doing it, an easy solution can be to simply do nothing. Try your best to seem uninteresting. Resume your activities when your neighbors go away. If they do still ask you questions, share a small piece of information and then ask them how they are. If they say, "So, Frank, buddy, what's up?" ninety-seven times a day, it wouldn't hurt to respond once, "Oh, just walking the dog," or "I'm good." This isn't the most exciting reply, and it makes it hard to think up further questions. Then ask, "How about you?" This can unsettle nosy people who don't like the feeling that you are nosing around them. Bear in mind that if you look like you have nothing to do, some neighbors take it as license to strike up a conversation. When in doubt, it’s best to avoid or confront your neighbors rather than wait for them to leave. Keep in mind you don’t have to interact this way if you’re not sure of their intentions. Etiquette coach Tami Claytor suggests keeping things respectful unless you’re very uncomfortable by “just being very polite.” [2] If you’re dealing with bullying neighbors who ask you a lot of personal questions, tell them that it makes you uncomfortable. The next time they do it, give them a straight, upfront answer, like "That's not something I would like to share with you." Stare them down, and make it clear that you mean business. Then walk away. They'll hopefully get the message and back off. [3] This approach is blunt and straightforward. It may get the point across, but it may also offend your neighbor's pride. Bear in mind that nosy neighbors aren't always trying to be obnoxious. They might be asking questions out of genuine curiosity. They may not have the tact or the social skills to know which questions are too personal. Be empathetic, but do not put up with anything that violates your space. If you tell your neighbor to stop asking questions, but they continue, you may need to take more serious steps to address the problem. If your neighbors like to spy on you, catch them and say something that will embarrass them. Discreetly inform everyone who is with you, and then out of nowhere say something like, "Hey, Mrs. Jones, having fun there?" Watch as their face turns red. If they deny it, then just ignore them and give them a cold shoulder. If they do it again, get them alone and ask them nicely to stop. Make jokes about them nosing. Say things like, "Now don't you go spying on me!" and they may realize that they are being too nosy. It might even make them stop. Life coach Eze Sanchez recommends saying something like “No offense or anything. I really like my privacy, so could you check in with me before you come onto my property?” [4] If your neighbors get too nosy, you may find that your only option is to contact the local police or neighborhood watch force. If the neighbor just won't leave you alone, you may want to apply for a restraining order. If you find your neighbors snooping around on your property, stealing your things, or trying to break into your home, call the police so that you don't need to handle the situation on your own. Police captain Saul Jaeger, MS, notes you should “trust your instincts. You can actually put yourself in an unsafe situation because of societal norms and expectations. And it's really silly when you think about it.” He recommends taking steps that keep you feeling safe and secure in your home and your neighborhood. [5] Consider involving a neutral third party if you’re not ready to contact the authorities. A neighbor with whom you both get along is a good place to start if you’re looking for someone objective to mediate. What would you do about a nosy neighbor? Avoid them at all costs. Confront them about their nosy ways. Be nosy to them right back. Contact the authorities. Advertisement If you want your neighbors to stop peeking, consider putting up a fence between your properties. Check your local bylaws—if the fence lies between your properties, you may need to ask your neighbors' permission to construct it. Make sure that you don't build onto their property, or else you may give them even more reason to intrude. [6] Dogs or small children make a great excuse to build a large fence around your property. Simply say that you didn't want the dog running loose. Consider whether you want to feel penned in just because your neighbors are nosy. Building a fence may solve your problem, but it may just inspire your nosy neighbors to get creative. There are many window treatments you can use to protect your privacy against nosy neighbors. They include light-filtering blinds that keep out prying eyes but let in sunlight, screens that retract to help soundproof your home (a tapestry on the wall will also help here), or curtains for more privacy. You can go one step further by getting reflective window tints to avoid having to close your curtains or blinds. [7] If you don't like the idea of a fence, consider planting a hedge, a bush, or a stand of trees to block out their view . Bear in mind that these barriers will take years to grow into place. You can also try getting a trellis for flowers or other plants to climb, which helps protect your privacy when you’re in your backyard. [8] You can also use large potted plants placed on window sills to block their view into your home, or place larger potted trees like bamboo outside. This may be a wise choice if you think your neighbors are snooping around on your property. Keep your house locked. If you go on vacation, install a security system or video cameras. Ask another neighbor to keep an eye on your property while you're away, in case the nosy neighbor starts snooping around. [9] Bear in mind that, depending on the neighbor's situation, this approach may be bordering on paranoia. Perhaps your neighbors are actually sneaking onto your property while you're away; perhaps you are just giving them a bad rap. If you truly suspect your neighbors of entering your property without your consent, confront them and firmly ask them to stop. Warn them that the next time they do this, you will not hesitate to call the police. Advertisement Whether you notice your neighbors watching you from their front lawn, they’re likely nosy if you often spot them looking at you to see what you’re doing. It’s good to determine whether they’re nosy with all of their neighbors, or just you, and whether they seem to have general safety concerns or be more interested in what their neighbors are up to. [10] It’s also possible that you’re annoying your neighbors without even knowing you’re doing it—you may be dealing with a bad neighbor, but they may feel like they’re dealing with a noisy neighbor if you’re the one being loud late at night. You may be cornered into having a conversation with them or already speaking to your neighbor when they ask nosy questions. Asking invasive questions goes beyond making polite conversation; it feels invasive for the person being asked, especially if the questions never stop. [11] If you notice your neighbor hovering around while pretending to do things outside, they may be listening in on your conversations. This can also occur when neighbors listen in on their neighbor’s phone conversations, when they listen in through an open window, or by listening through the wall using a glass. [12] Even if you haven’t heard them speaking of you, if you hear your neighbors gossiping regularly about others, chances are they do the same when it comes to you. You might notice that, all of a sudden, the whole neighborhood seems to know something you only told them about. [13] If you see them peering through a hole in the fence when you’re having a barbecue or notice the curtains in their window jerk shut all of a sudden, they’re probably spying. They may also take advantage of times when they see you outside, like when you’re walking your dog or getting your mail. [14] Advertisement Most people feel some sense of curiosity when it comes to other people they live near. When dealing with over-friendly neighbors , you might find they may be just looking for friends they can depend on, and vice versa. If you’re unsure of their motivations, try asking yourself the following questions: [15] Are they new to the area and just trying to understand the culture of the neighborhood? Are they bored and just looking for entertainment or a way to pass the time? Are you doing something (suspicious, exciting, intriguing) to make them curious? Neighbors often experience a feeling of social comparison, which means they want to see how you live to gauge how well they’re doing. This stems from a sense of insecurity about themselves, where they live, or how much they have. It’ll be more apparent if they ask nosy questions about your finances, home worth, or possessions, and look frustrated or annoyed when you give them an answer. [16] Some people simply lack the knowledge and self-awareness to know when they’re being nosy. They may not be able to put themselves in your shoes to think about how their questions make you feel. They may also be super extroverted, which can prove difficult when their neighbors are introverts who value their privacy. [17] Some people like to feel as if they’re in total control of their environment. Where neighbors are concerned, this means they feel a need to know what you’re doing, what packages you get, the conversations you’re having, or who visits you. Their need for control may stem from fear or insecurity about their neighborhood and/or their safety within it. [18] Advertisement Search Add New Question Question Our neighbor's son throws dead frogs and papers, and watches us at night. What can we do? Community Answer Go talk to his parents. They should deal with him. If he still does not stop, tell his parents that throwing dead animals and items onto someone else's property is inappropriate and possibly breaking the law. Go talk to the police if this continues unabated. Question How do I deal with a mentally unstable neighbor who won't leave me alone? She keeps calling, ringing the doorbell, and banging on my front and back door. Community Answer Build a fence with a gate that locks and put a "no trespassing, no solicitations" sign on the front gate. If she violates that boundary, call the police. Question How do I deal with a neighbor who thinks I am listening to her private conversations when the problem is that she has a very loud voice? Community Answer Just be straightforward with her and let her know that you can't help but listen to her private conversations because she won't keep her voice down. If she's really that concerned about maintaining her privacy, she can speak quietly. See more answers Ask a Question 200 characters left Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Submit Advertisement Video Thanks for submitting a tip for review! References About This Article Article Summary X Nosy neighbors can be frustrating to deal with, but by playing it cool and knowing what to say, you may be able to stop their nosiness. If your neighbors ask you a lot of personal questions, give them a straight answer like, “I don’t want to talk about it, sorry.” If you just don’t want to interact with them at all, try pretending to be on the phone whenever you see them. Most nosy neighbors are harmless, but if you suspect yours may be trying to snoop around or possibly steal something, tell them directly to stop. You could say something like, “Look, I really don’t appreciate you snooping around, can you please stop?” For tips about how to be the stronger person, keep reading! Did this summary help you? Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 341,187 times. Reader Success Stories Lauren Bushner May 17, 2017 "Best advice ever! I did half of the things listed in the article and was running out of ideas. 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Saul Jaeger is a Police Officer and Captain of the Mountain View, California Police Department (MVPD). Saul has over 17 years of experience as a patrol officer, field training officer, traffic officer, detective, hostage negotiator, and as the traffic unit’s sergeant and Public Information Officer for the MVPD. At the MVPD, in addition to commanding the Field Operations Division, Saul has also led the Communications Center (dispatch) and the Crisis Negotiation Team. He earned an MS in Emergency Services Management from the California State University, Long Beach in 2008 and a BS in Administration of Justice from the University of Phoenix in 2006. He also earned a Corporate Innovation LEAD Certificate from the Stanford University Graduate School of Business in 2018. There are [10 references](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#References) cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been fact-checked, ensuring the accuracy of any cited facts and confirming the authority of its sources. This article has been viewed 341,187 times. Your home is your safe space, but what do you do if you end up stuck with nosy neighbors? Whether you live in an apartment in the city or a house in the suburbs, invasive neighbors can threaten your sense of privacy. Keep reading for the best ways to assess the situation and [talk to your neighbor kindly](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#Handling-Nosy-Neighbors-Politely), plus ways to [block them out of view](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#How-to-Block-Out-Nosy-Neighbors) (with tips from a life coach, an etiquette coach, and even a police captain). We’ll also explain how to tell if your neighbor is truly nosy and why they might be so curious to begin with. Keep scrolling to learn more\! ## Dealing With Nosy Neighbors: Overview Note patterns in your neighbor’s behavior. Try avoiding them, ignoring them, or putting up physical deterrents to block their view, like a fence or curtains. Speak openly and honestly to them about how they make you feel. Consider installing a security system or contacting the authorities if you feel threatened. ## Steps Section 1 of 4: ### Handling Nosy Neighbors Politely [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors) 1. [![Step 1 Begin by fully understanding the actual problem you’re facing.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/1/17/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-1-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-1-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-1-Version-4.jpg) 1 Begin by fully understanding the actual problem you’re facing. Look for patterns in your neighbors' nosy behavior. Are they often nosy at certain times, like weekends, weekdays, or evenings? Think about whether they’re nosy due to something going on in their lives or are curious about something going on in yours. When [dealing with nosy neighbors](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Annoying-Neighbors "Deal With Annoying Neighbors"), it’s important to ask yourself the following questions:[\[1\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-1) X Research source - How long has this been going on? - How many of your neighbors are nosy? - Do you live in a nosy neighborhood? - How long do you plan to stay in that area? 2. [![Step 2 Talk to your nosy neighbor to determine your next move.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/3/31/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-4-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-4-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-4-Version-4.jpg) 2 Talk to your nosy neighbor to determine your next move. First, try to learn as much about them as possible without getting too involved. This will help you to identify if there is any malice in their questions, if they are just being nosy to pass the time, or if they are new and need help making friends. Then, decide next steps on whether to confront, avoid, or befriend your neighbors. - If your neighbors seem lonely and bored, try talking to them, introducing them to other neighbors, and suggesting fun things for them to do. - If your neighbors are always confronting you and asking you personal questions, then consider how you can avoid talking to them. - If your neighbors are snooping around looking for trouble, including stealing your things or reporting your activities, consider upping your security. Ask them to stop intruding. If the situation becomes dangerous for your family or property, contact the authorities. Advertisement 3. [![Step 3 Try ignoring them and going about your day.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/1/1c/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-6-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-6-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-6-Version-4.jpg) 3 Try ignoring them and going about your day. Just get on with your business, nonchalantly and happily. If they have nothing better to do than watch you all day, then they have wasted their own time, not yours; it’s a good way to help yourself [stop worrying about a bad neighbor](https://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Worrying-About-Noisy-Neighbours "Stop Worrying About Noisy Neighbours"). - For example, if you're busy and you don't have time to tolerate nosiness, keep your headphones in your ears while passing through common areas like corridors, lifts, and parks—anywhere you might encounter your neighbor. - Another way to ignore them is to [fake a phone call](https://www.wikihow.com/Fake-a-Cell-Phone-Call "Fake a Cell Phone Call"). Whenever they approach you, put your phone to your ear and pretend to be in an important conversation. Don't forget to smile and nod at them when on the phone. 4. [![Step 4 Avoid hanging out in plain sight of your neighbors.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/6/6c/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-9-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-9-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-9-Version-2.jpg) 4 Avoid hanging out in plain sight of your neighbors. Move to your backyard, or choose another spot where they can't see you. This works for some activities—you can just as easily host a cookout or play catch in the backyard as you can in the front—but it is not a permanent fix. It is an avoidance technique. - If your neighbor is extremely nosy, they might find ways to snoop around despite your efforts to avoid it. Hiding in the backyard might work once or twice, but be prepared for more occurrences ahead. - If the problem is this bad, consider confronting or ignoring your neighbors. It can be exhausting to expend all of your mental energy on simply trying to escape someone. - Make a code name for them whenever you see them. For example, "activity" or "spiders." This will cue your family to behave accordingly, whether you all agree to retreat to the backyard or begin making loud noises. 5. [![Step 5 Act like you're not doing anything.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/c/c0/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-10-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-10-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-10-Version-2.jpg) 5 Act like you're not doing anything. If your neighbors are always asking questions about what you're doing and why you're doing it, an easy solution can be to simply do nothing. Try your best to seem uninteresting. Resume your activities when your neighbors go away. If they do still ask you questions, share a small piece of information and then ask them how they are. - If they say, "So, Frank, buddy, what's up?" ninety-seven times a day, it wouldn't hurt to respond once, "Oh, just walking the dog," or "I'm good." This isn't the most exciting reply, and it makes it hard to think up further questions. Then ask, "How about you?" This can unsettle nosy people who don't like the feeling that you are nosing around them. - Bear in mind that if you look like you have nothing to do, some neighbors take it as license to strike up a conversation. When in doubt, it’s best to avoid or confront your neighbors rather than wait for them to leave. - Keep in mind you don’t have to interact this way if you’re not sure of their intentions. Etiquette coach Tami Claytor suggests keeping things respectful unless you’re very uncomfortable by “just being very polite.”[\[2\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-2)X [Expert Source](https://www.wikihow.com/wikiHow:Delivering-a-Trustworthy-Experience) [![Tami Claytor](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/e/e9/Tami_Claytor.png/-crop-100-100-100px-Tami_Claytor.png)Tami Claytor Etiquette Coach](https://www.wikihow.com/Author/Tami-Claytor) Expert Interview 6. [![Step 6 Shut down their questions by being honest.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/6/61/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-2.jpg) 6 Shut down their questions by being honest. If you’re [dealing with bullying neighbors](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-with-Bullying-Neighbours "Deal with Bullying Neighbours") who ask you a lot of personal questions, tell them that it makes you uncomfortable. The next time they do it, give them a straight, upfront answer, like "That's not something I would like to share with you." Stare them down, and make it clear that you mean business. Then walk away. They'll hopefully get the message and back off.[\[3\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-3) X Research source - This approach is blunt and straightforward. It may get the point across, but it may also offend your neighbor's pride. - Bear in mind that nosy neighbors aren't always trying to be obnoxious. They might be asking questions out of genuine curiosity. They may not have the tact or the social skills to know which questions are too personal. Be empathetic, but do not put up with anything that violates your space. - If you tell your neighbor to stop asking questions, but they continue, you may need to take more serious steps to address the problem. 7. [![Step 7 Catch them in the act of spying.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/7/74/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-2.jpg) 7 Catch them in the act of spying. If your neighbors like to spy on you, catch them and say something that will embarrass them. Discreetly inform everyone who is with you, and then out of nowhere say something like, "Hey, Mrs. Jones, having fun there?" Watch as their face turns red. If they deny it, then just ignore them and give them a cold shoulder. If they do it again, get them alone and ask them nicely to stop. - Make jokes about them nosing. Say things like, "Now don't you go spying on me!" and they may realize that they are being too nosy. It might even make them stop. - Life coach Eze Sanchez recommends saying something like “No offense or anything. I really like my privacy, so could you check in with me before you come onto my property?”[\[4\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-4)X [Expert Source](https://www.wikihow.com/wikiHow:Delivering-a-Trustworthy-Experience) [![Eze Sanchez](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/4/4f/Eze_Sanchez.png/-crop-100-100-100px-Eze_Sanchez.png)Eze Sanchez Life & Relationship Coach](https://www.wikihow.com/Author/Eze-Sanchez) Expert Interview 8. [![Step 8 Consider informing the authorities.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/c/ca/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-2.jpg) 8 Consider informing the authorities. If your neighbors get too nosy, you may find that your only option is to contact the local police or neighborhood watch force. If the neighbor just won't leave you alone, you may want to apply for a restraining order. If you find your neighbors snooping around on your property, stealing your things, or trying to break into your home, call the police so that you don't need to handle the situation on your own. - Police captain Saul Jaeger, MS, notes you should “trust your instincts. You can actually put yourself in an unsafe situation because of societal norms and expectations. And it's really silly when you think about it.” He recommends taking steps that keep you feeling safe and secure in your home and your neighborhood.[\[5\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-5)X [Expert Source](https://www.wikihow.com/wikiHow:Delivering-a-Trustworthy-Experience) [![Saul Jaeger, MS](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/8/8d/Saul_Jaeger.png/-crop-100-100-100px-Saul_Jaeger.png)Saul Jaeger, MS Police Captain, Mountain View Police Department](https://www.wikihow.com/Author/Saul-Jaeger-MS) Expert Interview - Consider involving a neutral third party if you’re not ready to contact the authorities. A neighbor with whom you both get along is a good place to start if you’re looking for someone objective to mediate. TELL US WHAT YOU THINK What would you do about a nosy neighbor? Avoid them at all costs. Confront them about their nosy ways. Be nosy to them right back. Contact the authorities. 230 total votes. This poll was last updated on 04/10/26. Take Random Quiz ![](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/ReaderPoll/assets/poll_smile.svg) #### Thanks for answering our poll\! [Take Quiz](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors) [See More Quizzes](https://www.wikihow.com/Quizzes) Section 2 of 4: ### How to Block Out Nosy Neighbors [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors) 1. [![Step 1 Use physical deterrents like a fence.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/f/f7/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-2.jpg) 1 Use physical deterrents like a fence. If you want your neighbors to stop peeking, consider [putting up a fence](https://www.wikihow.com/Install-a-Privacy-Fence "Install a Privacy Fence") between your properties. Check your local bylaws—if the fence lies between your properties, you may need to ask your neighbors' permission to construct it. Make sure that you don't build onto their property, or else you may give them even more reason to intrude.[\[6\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-6) X Research source - Dogs or small children make a great excuse to build a large fence around your property. Simply say that you didn't want the dog running loose. - Consider whether you want to feel penned in just because your neighbors are nosy. Building a fence may solve your problem, but it may just inspire your nosy neighbors to get creative. 2. [![Step 2 Install light-filtering blinds, retractable screens, or curtains.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/8/8c/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-5-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-5-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-5-Version-4.jpg) 2 Install light-filtering blinds, retractable screens, or curtains. There are many window treatments you can use to protect your privacy against nosy neighbors. They include [light-filtering blinds](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=light+filtering+shades&crid=2KP0ZMSLYYUFZ&sprefix=light+filtering,aps,872&ref=nb_sb_ss_p13n-pd-dpltr-ranker_ci_sl-bn-left_2_15&tag=wikihow126189-20) that keep out prying eyes but let in sunlight, [screens that retract](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=retractable+screens+for+windows&crid=5LJY04LVMBST&sprefix=retractable+screens,aps,186&ref=nb_sb_ss_saint-en-prefix-candidate_2_19&tag=wikihow126189-20) to help soundproof your home (a tapestry on the wall will also help here), or curtains for more privacy. You can go one step further by getting [reflective window tints](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=reflective+window+tint+for+home&crid=3F1M0ZQU966U&sprefix=reflective+window+tin,aps,204&ref=nb_sb_ss_saint-en-prefix-candidate_2_21&tag=wikihow126189-20) to avoid having to close your curtains or blinds.[\[7\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-7) X Research source 3. [![Step 3 Add more landscaping to block their view.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/1/15/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-3.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-3.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-3.jpg) 3 Add more landscaping to block their view. If you don't like the idea of a fence, consider planting a hedge, a bush, or a stand of trees to [block out their view](https://www.wikihow.com/Block-Out-Neighbours-View "Block Out Neighbours View"). Bear in mind that these barriers will take years to grow into place. You can also try getting a trellis for flowers or other plants to climb, which helps protect your privacy when you’re in your backyard.[\[8\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-8) X Research source - You can also use large potted plants placed on window sills to block their view into your home, or place larger potted trees like bamboo outside. 4. [![Step 4 Install a security system.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/5/5b/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-2.jpg) 4 Install a security system. This may be a wise choice if you think your neighbors are snooping around on your property. Keep your house locked. If you go on vacation, install a security system or video cameras. Ask another neighbor to keep an eye on your property while you're away, in case the nosy neighbor starts snooping around.[\[9\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-9) X [Trustworthy Source](https://www.wikihow.com/wikiHow:Delivering-a-Trustworthy-Experience) Consumer Reports Nonprofit organization dedicated to consumer advocacy and product testing [Go to source](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors) - Bear in mind that, depending on the neighbor's situation, this approach may be bordering on paranoia. Perhaps your neighbors are actually sneaking onto your property while you're away; perhaps you are just giving them a bad rap. - If you truly suspect your neighbors of entering your property without your consent, confront them and firmly ask them to stop. Warn them that the next time they do this, you will not hesitate to call the police. Section 3 of 4: ### Signs Your Neighbor Is Nosy [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors) 1. [![Step 1 They stare at you or your home all the time.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/7/71/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-3.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-3.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-3.jpg) 1 They stare at you or your home all the time. Whether you notice your neighbors watching you from their front lawn, they’re likely nosy if you often spot them looking at you to see what you’re doing. It’s good to determine whether they’re nosy with all of their neighbors, or just you, and whether they seem to have general safety concerns or be more interested in what their neighbors are up to.[\[10\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-10) X Research source - It’s also possible that you’re [annoying your neighbors](https://www.wikihow.com/Annoy-Your-Neighbor "Annoy Your Neighbor") without even knowing you’re doing it—you may be dealing with a bad neighbor, but they may feel like they’re dealing with a noisy neighbor if you’re the one being loud late at night. 2. [![Step 2 They ask you invasive questions regularly.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/3/34/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-3.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-3.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-3.jpg) 2 They ask you invasive questions regularly. You may be cornered into having a conversation with them or already speaking to your neighbor when they ask nosy questions. Asking invasive questions goes beyond making polite conversation; it feels invasive for the person being asked, especially if the questions never stop.[\[11\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-11) X Research source 3. [![Step 3 They listen in on your conversations.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/1/16/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-3.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-3.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-3.jpg) 3 They listen in on your conversations. If you notice your neighbor hovering around while pretending to do things outside, they may be listening in on your conversations. This can also occur when neighbors listen in on their neighbor’s phone conversations, when they listen in through an open window, or by listening through the wall using a glass.[\[12\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-12) X Research source 4. [![Step 4 They enjoy gossiping about their neighbors.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/6/6a/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-16-Version-3.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-16-Version-3.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-16-Version-3.jpg) 4 They enjoy gossiping about their neighbors. Even if you haven’t heard them speaking of you, if you hear your neighbors gossiping regularly about others, chances are they do the same when it comes to you. You might notice that, all of a sudden, the whole neighborhood seems to know something you only told them about. [\[13\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-13) X Research source 5. [![Step 5 They like to peek out at you.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/7/7f/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-3.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-3.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-3.jpg) 5 They like to peek out at you. If you see them peering through a hole in the fence when you’re having a barbecue or notice the curtains in their window jerk shut all of a sudden, they’re probably spying. They may also take advantage of times when they see you outside, like when you’re walking your dog or getting your mail.[\[14\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-14) X Research source Section 4 of 4: ### Psychology Behind Nosy Neighbors [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors) 1. [![Step 1 They’re looking for social connection.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/4/46/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-3-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-3-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-3-Version-4.jpg) 1 They’re looking for social connection. Most people feel some sense of curiosity when it comes to other people they live near. When [dealing with over-friendly neighbors](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-with-an-Overly-Friendly-Neighbor "Deal with an Overly Friendly Neighbor"), you might find they may be just looking for friends they can depend on, and vice versa. If you’re unsure of their motivations, try asking yourself the following questions:[\[15\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-15) X Research source - Are they new to the area and just trying to understand the culture of the neighborhood? - Are they bored and just looking for entertainment or a way to pass the time? - Are you doing something (suspicious, exciting, intriguing) to make them curious? 2. [![Step 2 They’re feeling insecure about themselves.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/b/b2/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-19-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-19-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-19-Version-2.jpg) 2 They’re feeling insecure about themselves. Neighbors often experience a feeling of social comparison, which means they want to see how you live to gauge how well they’re doing. This stems from a sense of insecurity about themselves, where they live, or how much they have. It’ll be more apparent if they ask nosy questions about your finances, home worth, or possessions, and look frustrated or annoyed when you give them an answer.[\[16\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-16) X Research source 3. [![Step 3 They lack social skills (and basic empathy).](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/9/99/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-20.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-20.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-20.jpg) 3 They lack social skills (and basic empathy). Some people simply lack the knowledge and self-awareness to know when they’re being nosy. They may not be able to put themselves in your shoes to think about how their questions make you feel. They may also be super extroverted, which can prove difficult when their neighbors are introverts who value their privacy.[\[17\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-17) X Research source 4. [![Step 4 They have a need to control.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/4/4b/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-21.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-21.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-21.jpg) 4 They have a need to control. Some people like to feel as if they’re in total control of their environment. Where neighbors are concerned, this means they feel a need to know what you’re doing, what packages you get, the conversations you’re having, or who visits you. Their need for control may stem from fear or insecurity about their neighborhood and/or their safety within it.[\[18\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-18) X Research source ## Community Q\&A Search [Add New Question]() - Question Our neighbor's son throws dead frogs and papers, and watches us at night. What can we do? ![Community Answer](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/b/b0/CommunityAvatar2.png/-crop-104-104-104px-CommunityAvatar2.png) Community Answer Go talk to his parents. They should deal with him. If he still does not stop, tell his parents that throwing dead animals and items onto someone else's property is inappropriate and possibly breaking the law. Go talk to the police if this continues unabated. Thanks! We're glad this was helpful. Thank you for your feedback. If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. 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Readable Markdown	[![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors) Plus, the psychology behind why neighbors can be so intrusive [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors) - [Taking a Soft Approach](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#Handling-Nosy-Neighbors-Politely) - [Blocking Them Out](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#How-to-Block-Out-Nosy-Neighbors) - [Signs They’re Nosy](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#Signs-Your-Neighbor-Is-Nosy) - [Why are neighbors nosy?](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#Psychology-Behind-Nosy-Neighbors) - [Video](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#Video) - [Q\&A](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#qa_headline) Your home is your safe space, but what do you do if you end up stuck with nosy neighbors? Whether you live in an apartment in the city or a house in the suburbs, invasive neighbors can threaten your sense of privacy. Keep reading for the best ways to assess the situation and [talk to your neighbor kindly](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#Handling-Nosy-Neighbors-Politely), plus ways to [block them out of view](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#How-to-Block-Out-Nosy-Neighbors) (with tips from a life coach, an etiquette coach, and even a police captain). We’ll also explain how to tell if your neighbor is truly nosy and why they might be so curious to begin with. Keep scrolling to learn more\! ## Dealing With Nosy Neighbors: Overview Note patterns in your neighbor’s behavior. Try avoiding them, ignoring them, or putting up physical deterrents to block their view, like a fence or curtains. Speak openly and honestly to them about how they make you feel. Consider installing a security system or contacting the authorities if you feel threatened. 1. [![Step 1 Begin by fully understanding the actual problem you’re facing.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/1/17/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-1-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-1-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-1-Version-4.jpg) Look for patterns in your neighbors' nosy behavior. Are they often nosy at certain times, like weekends, weekdays, or evenings? Think about whether they’re nosy due to something going on in their lives or are curious about something going on in yours. When [dealing with nosy neighbors](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Annoying-Neighbors "Deal With Annoying Neighbors"), it’s important to ask yourself the following questions:[\[1\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-1) - How long has this been going on? - How many of your neighbors are nosy? - Do you live in a nosy neighborhood? - How long do you plan to stay in that area? 2. [![Step 2 Talk to your nosy neighbor to determine your next move.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/3/31/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-4-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-4-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-4-Version-4.jpg) First, try to learn as much about them as possible without getting too involved. This will help you to identify if there is any malice in their questions, if they are just being nosy to pass the time, or if they are new and need help making friends. Then, decide next steps on whether to confront, avoid, or befriend your neighbors. - If your neighbors seem lonely and bored, try talking to them, introducing them to other neighbors, and suggesting fun things for them to do. - If your neighbors are always confronting you and asking you personal questions, then consider how you can avoid talking to them. - If your neighbors are snooping around looking for trouble, including stealing your things or reporting your activities, consider upping your security. Ask them to stop intruding. If the situation becomes dangerous for your family or property, contact the authorities. Advertisement 3. [![Step 3 Try ignoring them and going about your day.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/1/1c/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-6-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-6-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-6-Version-4.jpg) Just get on with your business, nonchalantly and happily. If they have nothing better to do than watch you all day, then they have wasted their own time, not yours; it’s a good way to help yourself [stop worrying about a bad neighbor](https://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Worrying-About-Noisy-Neighbours "Stop Worrying About Noisy Neighbours"). - For example, if you're busy and you don't have time to tolerate nosiness, keep your headphones in your ears while passing through common areas like corridors, lifts, and parks—anywhere you might encounter your neighbor. - Another way to ignore them is to [fake a phone call](https://www.wikihow.com/Fake-a-Cell-Phone-Call "Fake a Cell Phone Call"). Whenever they approach you, put your phone to your ear and pretend to be in an important conversation. Don't forget to smile and nod at them when on the phone. 4. [![Step 4 Avoid hanging out in plain sight of your neighbors.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/6/6c/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-9-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-9-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-9-Version-2.jpg) Move to your backyard, or choose another spot where they can't see you. This works for some activities—you can just as easily host a cookout or play catch in the backyard as you can in the front—but it is not a permanent fix. It is an avoidance technique. - If your neighbor is extremely nosy, they might find ways to snoop around despite your efforts to avoid it. Hiding in the backyard might work once or twice, but be prepared for more occurrences ahead. - If the problem is this bad, consider confronting or ignoring your neighbors. It can be exhausting to expend all of your mental energy on simply trying to escape someone. - Make a code name for them whenever you see them. For example, "activity" or "spiders." This will cue your family to behave accordingly, whether you all agree to retreat to the backyard or begin making loud noises. 5. [![Step 5 Act like you're not doing anything.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/c/c0/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-10-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-10-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-10-Version-2.jpg) If your neighbors are always asking questions about what you're doing and why you're doing it, an easy solution can be to simply do nothing. Try your best to seem uninteresting. Resume your activities when your neighbors go away. If they do still ask you questions, share a small piece of information and then ask them how they are. - If they say, "So, Frank, buddy, what's up?" ninety-seven times a day, it wouldn't hurt to respond once, "Oh, just walking the dog," or "I'm good." This isn't the most exciting reply, and it makes it hard to think up further questions. Then ask, "How about you?" This can unsettle nosy people who don't like the feeling that you are nosing around them. - Bear in mind that if you look like you have nothing to do, some neighbors take it as license to strike up a conversation. When in doubt, it’s best to avoid or confront your neighbors rather than wait for them to leave. - Keep in mind you don’t have to interact this way if you’re not sure of their intentions. Etiquette coach Tami Claytor suggests keeping things respectful unless you’re very uncomfortable by “just being very polite.”[\[2\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-2) 6. [![Step 6 Shut down their questions by being honest.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/6/61/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-2.jpg) If you’re [dealing with bullying neighbors](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-with-Bullying-Neighbours "Deal with Bullying Neighbours") who ask you a lot of personal questions, tell them that it makes you uncomfortable. The next time they do it, give them a straight, upfront answer, like "That's not something I would like to share with you." Stare them down, and make it clear that you mean business. Then walk away. They'll hopefully get the message and back off.[\[3\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-3) - This approach is blunt and straightforward. It may get the point across, but it may also offend your neighbor's pride. - Bear in mind that nosy neighbors aren't always trying to be obnoxious. They might be asking questions out of genuine curiosity. They may not have the tact or the social skills to know which questions are too personal. Be empathetic, but do not put up with anything that violates your space. - If you tell your neighbor to stop asking questions, but they continue, you may need to take more serious steps to address the problem. 7. [![Step 7 Catch them in the act of spying.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/7/74/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-2.jpg) If your neighbors like to spy on you, catch them and say something that will embarrass them. Discreetly inform everyone who is with you, and then out of nowhere say something like, "Hey, Mrs. Jones, having fun there?" Watch as their face turns red. If they deny it, then just ignore them and give them a cold shoulder. If they do it again, get them alone and ask them nicely to stop. - Make jokes about them nosing. Say things like, "Now don't you go spying on me!" and they may realize that they are being too nosy. It might even make them stop. - Life coach Eze Sanchez recommends saying something like “No offense or anything. I really like my privacy, so could you check in with me before you come onto my property?”[\[4\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-4) 8. [![Step 8 Consider informing the authorities.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/c/ca/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-2.jpg) If your neighbors get too nosy, you may find that your only option is to contact the local police or neighborhood watch force. If the neighbor just won't leave you alone, you may want to apply for a restraining order. If you find your neighbors snooping around on your property, stealing your things, or trying to break into your home, call the police so that you don't need to handle the situation on your own. - Police captain Saul Jaeger, MS, notes you should “trust your instincts. You can actually put yourself in an unsafe situation because of societal norms and expectations. And it's really silly when you think about it.” He recommends taking steps that keep you feeling safe and secure in your home and your neighborhood.[\[5\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-5) - Consider involving a neutral third party if you’re not ready to contact the authorities. A neighbor with whom you both get along is a good place to start if you’re looking for someone objective to mediate. What would you do about a nosy neighbor? Avoid them at all costs. Confront them about their nosy ways. Be nosy to them right back. Contact the authorities. 1. [![Step 1 Use physical deterrents like a fence.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/f/f7/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-2.jpg) If you want your neighbors to stop peeking, consider [putting up a fence](https://www.wikihow.com/Install-a-Privacy-Fence "Install a Privacy Fence") between your properties. Check your local bylaws—if the fence lies between your properties, you may need to ask your neighbors' permission to construct it. Make sure that you don't build onto their property, or else you may give them even more reason to intrude.[\[6\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-6) - Dogs or small children make a great excuse to build a large fence around your property. Simply say that you didn't want the dog running loose. - Consider whether you want to feel penned in just because your neighbors are nosy. Building a fence may solve your problem, but it may just inspire your nosy neighbors to get creative. 2. [![Step 2 Install light-filtering blinds, retractable screens, or curtains.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/8/8c/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-5-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-5-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-5-Version-4.jpg) There are many window treatments you can use to protect your privacy against nosy neighbors. They include [light-filtering blinds](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=light+filtering+shades&crid=2KP0ZMSLYYUFZ&sprefix=light+filtering,aps,872&ref=nb_sb_ss_p13n-pd-dpltr-ranker_ci_sl-bn-left_2_15&tag=wikihow126189-20) that keep out prying eyes but let in sunlight, [screens that retract](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=retractable+screens+for+windows&crid=5LJY04LVMBST&sprefix=retractable+screens,aps,186&ref=nb_sb_ss_saint-en-prefix-candidate_2_19&tag=wikihow126189-20) to help soundproof your home (a tapestry on the wall will also help here), or curtains for more privacy. You can go one step further by getting [reflective window tints](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=reflective+window+tint+for+home&crid=3F1M0ZQU966U&sprefix=reflective+window+tin,aps,204&ref=nb_sb_ss_saint-en-prefix-candidate_2_21&tag=wikihow126189-20) to avoid having to close your curtains or blinds.[\[7\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-7) 3. [![Step 3 Add more landscaping to block their view.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/1/15/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-3.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-3.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-3.jpg) If you don't like the idea of a fence, consider planting a hedge, a bush, or a stand of trees to [block out their view](https://www.wikihow.com/Block-Out-Neighbours-View "Block Out Neighbours View"). Bear in mind that these barriers will take years to grow into place. You can also try getting a trellis for flowers or other plants to climb, which helps protect your privacy when you’re in your backyard.[\[8\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-8) - You can also use large potted plants placed on window sills to block their view into your home, or place larger potted trees like bamboo outside. 4. [![Step 4 Install a security system.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/5/5b/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-11-Version-2.jpg) This may be a wise choice if you think your neighbors are snooping around on your property. Keep your house locked. If you go on vacation, install a security system or video cameras. Ask another neighbor to keep an eye on your property while you're away, in case the nosy neighbor starts snooping around.[\[9\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-9) - Bear in mind that, depending on the neighbor's situation, this approach may be bordering on paranoia. Perhaps your neighbors are actually sneaking onto your property while you're away; perhaps you are just giving them a bad rap. - If you truly suspect your neighbors of entering your property without your consent, confront them and firmly ask them to stop. Warn them that the next time they do this, you will not hesitate to call the police. 1. [![Step 1 They stare at you or your home all the time.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/7/71/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-3.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-3.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-13-Version-3.jpg) Whether you notice your neighbors watching you from their front lawn, they’re likely nosy if you often spot them looking at you to see what you’re doing. It’s good to determine whether they’re nosy with all of their neighbors, or just you, and whether they seem to have general safety concerns or be more interested in what their neighbors are up to.[\[10\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-10) - It’s also possible that you’re [annoying your neighbors](https://www.wikihow.com/Annoy-Your-Neighbor "Annoy Your Neighbor") without even knowing you’re doing it—you may be dealing with a bad neighbor, but they may feel like they’re dealing with a noisy neighbor if you’re the one being loud late at night. 2. [![Step 2 They ask you invasive questions regularly.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/3/34/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-3.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-3.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-14-Version-3.jpg) You may be cornered into having a conversation with them or already speaking to your neighbor when they ask nosy questions. Asking invasive questions goes beyond making polite conversation; it feels invasive for the person being asked, especially if the questions never stop.[\[11\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-11) 3. [![Step 3 They listen in on your conversations.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/1/16/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-3.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-3.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-15-Version-3.jpg) If you notice your neighbor hovering around while pretending to do things outside, they may be listening in on your conversations. This can also occur when neighbors listen in on their neighbor’s phone conversations, when they listen in through an open window, or by listening through the wall using a glass.[\[12\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-12) 4. [![Step 4 They enjoy gossiping about their neighbors.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/6/6a/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-16-Version-3.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-16-Version-3.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-16-Version-3.jpg) Even if you haven’t heard them speaking of you, if you hear your neighbors gossiping regularly about others, chances are they do the same when it comes to you. You might notice that, all of a sudden, the whole neighborhood seems to know something you only told them about. [\[13\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-13) 5. [![Step 5 They like to peek out at you.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/7/7f/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-3.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-3.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-17-Version-3.jpg) If you see them peering through a hole in the fence when you’re having a barbecue or notice the curtains in their window jerk shut all of a sudden, they’re probably spying. They may also take advantage of times when they see you outside, like when you’re walking your dog or getting your mail.[\[14\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-14) 1. [![Step 1 They’re looking for social connection.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/4/46/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-3-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-3-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-3-Version-4.jpg) Most people feel some sense of curiosity when it comes to other people they live near. When [dealing with over-friendly neighbors](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-with-an-Overly-Friendly-Neighbor "Deal with an Overly Friendly Neighbor"), you might find they may be just looking for friends they can depend on, and vice versa. If you’re unsure of their motivations, try asking yourself the following questions:[\[15\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-15) - Are they new to the area and just trying to understand the culture of the neighborhood? - Are they bored and just looking for entertainment or a way to pass the time? - Are you doing something (suspicious, exciting, intriguing) to make them curious? 2. [![Step 2 They’re feeling insecure about themselves.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/b/b2/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-19-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-19-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-19-Version-2.jpg) Neighbors often experience a feeling of social comparison, which means they want to see how you live to gauge how well they’re doing. This stems from a sense of insecurity about themselves, where they live, or how much they have. It’ll be more apparent if they ask nosy questions about your finances, home worth, or possessions, and look frustrated or annoyed when you give them an answer.[\[16\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-16) 3. [![Step 3 They lack social skills (and basic empathy).](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/9/99/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-20.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-20.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-20.jpg) Some people simply lack the knowledge and self-awareness to know when they’re being nosy. They may not be able to put themselves in your shoes to think about how their questions make you feel. They may also be super extroverted, which can prove difficult when their neighbors are introverts who value their privacy.[\[17\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-17) 4. [![Step 4 They have a need to control.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/4/4b/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-21.jpg/v4-460px-Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-21.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#/Image:Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors-Step-21.jpg) Some people like to feel as if they’re in total control of their environment. Where neighbors are concerned, this means they feel a need to know what you’re doing, what packages you get, the conversations you’re having, or who visits you. Their need for control may stem from fear or insecurity about their neighborhood and/or their safety within it.[\[18\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#_note-18) Search [Add New Question]() - Question Our neighbor's son throws dead frogs and papers, and watches us at night. What can we do? ![Community Answer](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/b/b0/CommunityAvatar2.png/-crop-104-104-104px-CommunityAvatar2.png) Community Answer Go talk to his parents. They should deal with him. If he still does not stop, tell his parents that throwing dead animals and items onto someone else's property is inappropriate and possibly breaking the law. Go talk to the police if this continues unabated. - Question How do I deal with a mentally unstable neighbor who won't leave me alone? She keeps calling, ringing the doorbell, and banging on my front and back door. ![Community Answer](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/f/f5/CommunityAvatar4.png/-crop-104-104-104px-CommunityAvatar4.png) Community Answer Build a fence with a gate that locks and put a "no trespassing, no solicitations" sign on the front gate. If she violates that boundary, call the police. - Question How do I deal with a neighbor who thinks I am listening to her private conversations when the problem is that she has a very loud voice? ![Community Answer](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/b/b0/CommunityAvatar2.png/-crop-104-104-104px-CommunityAvatar2.png) Community Answer Just be straightforward with her and let her know that you can't help but listen to her private conversations because she won't keep her voice down. If she's really that concerned about maintaining her privacy, she can speak quietly. [See more answers](https://www.wikihow.com/Questions/Deal-With-Nosy-Neighbors#offset=3) Ask a Question 200 characters left Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. 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