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Download Article Download Article Confidence is all about harnessing your own unique, internal power. It's what allows you to wow friends, dazzle parties, excel in school and work, and ultimately, just feel great about yourself—but when you struggle to feel secure, how can you become the most confident you ? It's actually way easier than you'd think. Below, we've outlined the very best research-backed tips and tricks to help you on your journey. Ready to let that inner light shine through? Let's get started. If you notice a negative thought, question it to see if it’s actually true. When you start to question your negative self-talk, you can adjust your thinking over time. [1] For example, if you think something like, “My friends probably don’t like me,” try asking yourself, “Is that true? Didn’t my friend just invite me to hang out last week?” Or, if you think something like, “I’ll never pass this test,” ask yourself, “How do you know? Can you tell the future?” Advertisement Take a few moments before you go to work or school to look at yourself in the mirror and remind yourself of your positive characteristics. You can either say something that you believe about yourself or something that you would like to believe about yourself. Try saying things like: [2] “I am an intelligent person.” “I am a good father.” “I have accomplished many important things in my life.” “People enjoy spending time with me.” Everyone makes mistakes, and you’re no different! Try to forgive yourself for things you did in the past so you can move on. Don’t hold yourself to a higher standard than everyone else. [3] If you’re having trouble forgiving yourself for something, try asking if you’d forgive a friend for the same mistake. Then, use that forgiveness on yourself. Advertisement Being confident doesn’t mean overestimating your own abilities; instead, try to recognize where you might be slightly lacking, then work to improve that area. [4] For example, if you just started a new job, you probably don’t know everything about the company yet. Spend some time learning from your coworkers to do the best job that you can do. [5] Start with 5 things that you like about yourself and try to add something to the list every day. If you can’t think of anything, try asking your loved ones what they like about you to get you started. [6] For example, you could write, “I’m kind, I’m loving, I’m passionate about art, I’m creative, and I’m a good friend.” However, this confidence-boosting method doesn’t work for everyone. Some people struggle to take these statements seriously or feel embarrassed by them. Reader Poll: We asked 387 wikiHow readers, and only 10% prefer to reaffirm their self-worth by reflecting on their positive qualities and accomplishments . [Take Poll] Advertisement If you’re feeling overwhelmed and don’t want to take on another responsibility, say “no.” It will be tough at first, but once you practice it, it will become second nature. [7] Saying “no” can often feel like we’re disappointing friends or family members. However, overwhelming yourself with responsibilities will only make you feel worse, and it can lead to lower self-esteem. They’ll be able to find the root of your low confidence so you can challenge your thoughts and break any negative thought patterns. A mental health professional can also help you work toward other goals, like improving your relationships or making changes in your life. [8] If you’re a college student, check out the mental health resources on campus. You might be able to see a mental health professional for free. Advertisement Instead, spend time with friends and family members who inspire you and push you to be your best self. You’ll know someone is good to be around if you feel excited and happy to hang out with them. [9] People who lower your confidence might make disparaging remarks about you or tell you that your goals are dumb. It probably feels draining to hang out with them, and you might be subconsciously avoiding them. If you want to make a new group of friends, try joining a club to meet people interested in a hobby of yours. Which confidence-boosting activity do you find most effective for improving your self-esteem? Doing something I enjoy every day. Spending time with people who energize me. Wearing clean clothes and practicing good hygiene. Learning a new skill outside of my comfort zone. Exercising regularly. If you’ve never tried playing chess before, play a few online games to get the hang of it. If you aren’t the best cook, try making a dish you’ve never had. There are many ways to acquire a new skill . Build your confidence in smaller areas to improve your overall self-esteem. [10] Try to expand your comfort zone slowly and steadily over time. Advertisement Working a little exercise into your daily routine can do wonders for your mental health. Not only will it make you feel stronger and healthier, exercising releases chemicals in your brain that make you feel happier. It will boost your overall mood and it can break up your day if you're feeling stuck. [11] Exercising doesn’t have to mean going to a gym and getting your pump on. You could swim, jog, do yoga, jump rope, or do an at-home workout routine. It could be a craft, an art piece, a nature walk, a hike, a jog, or even reading a good book. Spend 15 minutes doing something that you like to boost your mood and improve your overall self-esteem. [12] Try taking a break from technology while you do this, too. It can be nice to step away from the screens for a while. Advertisement When you interact with others, be sure to keep your head and chin up, stand up straight, and look people in the eyes when you talk to them. Keep your hands out of your pockets and plant your feet in a wide stance. [13] If you’re listening to someone else talk, practice active listening skills by nodding your head and making eye contact. Try to shower every day, brush your hair, clean your teeth, and put on clean clothes. If you like makeup or jewelry, wear that too! Try to present yourself in a way that makes you feel confident. [14] If you’re itching for a new wardrobe but don’t want to break the bank, try hitting up a thrift store in your area. Advertisement Be Charismatic with this Expert Series Do you want to be the kind of person who lights up a room? Learn how to attract people to you and be the most charismatic version of yourself with this expert series. Ask a Question 200 characters left Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Submit Advertisement Improving your confidence takes time. Don’t give up! Thanks Thanks for submitting a tip for review! Advertisement References About This Article Article Summary X To become more confident, take a few moments every morning to look at yourself in the mirror and say something encouraging that you believe to be true about yourself or that you hope to be true someday. For example, tell yourself "I am an intelligent person." Also try writing confidence boosting notes to yourself that you will see throughout the day, like "You're doing a great job!" Finally, take good care of yourself by getting enough rest, eating a healthy diet, and surrounding yourself with positive people. If you want to learn more from our Licensed Counselor co-author, like how to identify times that affect your confidence, keep reading the article! Did this summary help you? Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 213,132 times. Reader Success Stories Kat Tolle May 3, 2021 "I regularly question my self shame like the first example shown, but I still feel like I shouldn't have those ..." more Did this article help you?
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[4 Be honest with yourself about your shortcomings](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#Be-honest-with-yourself-about-your-shortcomings) [5 Make a list of your positive qualities.](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#Make-a-list-of-your-positive-qualities.) [6 Learn to say “no.”](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#Learn-to-say-.E2.80.9Cno..E2.80.9D) [7 Get help from a mental health professional.](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#Get-help-from-a-mental-health-professional.) [8 Spend time with people who appreciate you](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#Spend-time-with-people-who-appreciate-you) [9 Learn a new skill.](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#Learn-a-new-skill.) [10 Exercise regularly.](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#Exercise-regularly.) [11 Do something you enjoy every day.](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#Do-something-you-enjoy-every-day.) [12 Stand up straight and make eye contact with people.](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#Stand-up-straight-and-make-eye-contact-with-people.) [13 Wear clean clothes and practice good hygiene.](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#Wear-clean-clothes-and-practice-good-hygiene.) [How Can You Build Self-Confidence?](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#questionmethod_How-Can-You-Build-Self-Confidence.3F) [\+ Show 11 more...](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) [\- Show less...](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) Other Sections [Tips and Warnings](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#tips) [Related Articles](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#relatedwikihows) [References](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#References) [Article Summary](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#summary_wrapper) **Co-authored by** [Guy Reichard](https://www.wikihow.com/Author/Guy-Reichard) and [Hannah Madden](https://www.wikihow.com/Author/Hannah-Madden) [Last Updated: August 7, 2024](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) [Approved](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) X This article was co-authored by [Guy Reichard](https://www.wikihow.com/Author/Guy-Reichard) and by wikiHow staff writer, [Hannah Madden](https://www.wikihow.com/Author/Hannah-Madden). Guy Reichard is a Self Leadership Coach and Executive Resilience Builder who empowers high-achieving professionals, executives, and business owners to lead authentically with calm, clarity, confidence, and compassion. He is the founder of HeartRich Self Leadership & Resilience Coaching, where he helps his clients navigate challenges, overcome fears and self-doubt, and grow into purposeful, values-driven leaders. With a heart-centered, science-backed, and trauma-informed approach, Guy guides his clients to connect with their Authentic Self, align with their core values, and create meaningful change in their lives and leadership. His work focuses on enhancing resilience, emotional intelligence, presence, and well-being while addressing barriers like perfectionism, impostor syndrome, people-pleasing, and tough inner critics. With over 15 years and 4000+ of coaching experience and 20 years in consulting and business development, Guy brings a unique blend of empathy, insight, and strategic perspective to help his clients thrive. He received his professional coaching certification from the International Coaching Federation and is an EZRAx Executive Leadership Coach. He received an MBA and a BA in Psychology from York University. There are [9 references](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#References) cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. wikiHow marks an article as reader-approved once it receives enough positive feedback. This article received 12 testimonials and 90% of readers who voted found it helpful, earning it our reader-approved status. This article has been viewed 213,132 times. Confidence is all about harnessing your own unique, internal power. It's what allows you to wow friends, dazzle parties, excel in school and work, and ultimately, just feel great about yourself—but when you struggle to feel secure, how can you become the most confident *you*? It's actually way easier than you'd think. Below, we've outlined the very best research-backed tips and tricks to help you on your journey. Ready to let that inner light shine through? Let's get started. ## Steps 1 ### Challenge your negative thoughts [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) 1. [![Try to catch yourself when you think bad things about yourself.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/2/25/Be-More-Confident-Step-1-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-1-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-1-Version-4.jpg) **Try to catch yourself when you think bad things about yourself.** If you notice a negative thought, question it to see if it’s actually true. When you start to question your negative self-talk, you can adjust your thinking over time.[\[1\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-1) X [Trustworthy Source](https://www.wikihow.com/wikiHow:Delivering-a-Trustworthy-Experience) Mayo Clinic Educational website from one of the world's leading hospitals [Go to source](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) - For example, if you think something like, “My friends probably don’t like me,” try asking yourself, “Is that true? Didn’t my friend just invite me to hang out last week?” - Or, if you think something like, “I’ll never pass this test,” ask yourself, “How do you know? Can you tell the future?” 2 ### Use positive self-talk [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) 1. [![Repeat phrases every day until you start to believe them.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/5/53/Be-More-Confident-Step-2-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-2-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-2-Version-4.jpg) **Repeat phrases every day until you start to believe them.** Take a few moments before you go to work or school to look at yourself in the mirror and remind yourself of your positive characteristics. You can either say something that you believe about yourself or something that you would like to believe about yourself. Try saying things like:[\[2\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-2)X [Expert Source](https://www.wikihow.com/wikiHow:Delivering-a-Trustworthy-Experience) [![Guy Reichard](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/3/38/Guy_Reichard.png/-crop-100-100-100px-Guy_Reichard.png)Guy Reichard Life Coach](https://www.wikihow.com/Author/Guy-Reichard) Expert Interview - “I am an intelligent person.” - “I am a good father.” - “I have accomplished many important things in my life.” - “People enjoy spending time with me.” 3 ### Forgive yourself for your mistakes. [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) 1. [![Try to remember that you’re only human.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/7/7e/Be-More-Confident-Step-10-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-10-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-10-Version-2.jpg) **Try to remember that you’re only human.** Everyone makes mistakes, and you’re no different! Try to [forgive yourself](https://www.wikihow.com/Forgive-Yourself "Forgive Yourself") for things you did in the past so you can move on. Don’t hold yourself to a higher standard than everyone else.[\[3\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-3) X [Trustworthy Source](https://www.wikihow.com/wikiHow:Delivering-a-Trustworthy-Experience) Mayo Clinic Educational website from one of the world's leading hospitals [Go to source](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) - If you’re having trouble forgiving yourself for something, try asking if you’d forgive a friend for the same mistake. Then, use that forgiveness on yourself. 4 ### Be honest with yourself about your shortcomings [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) 1. [![You might still have a lot to learn, but remind yourself that you're trying\!](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/3/37/Be-More-Confident-Step-5-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-5-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-5-Version-4.jpg) **You might still have a lot to learn, but remind yourself that you're trying\!** Being confident doesn’t mean overestimating your own abilities; instead, try to recognize where you might be slightly lacking, then work to improve that area.[\[4\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-4) X [Trustworthy Source](https://www.wikihow.com/wikiHow:Delivering-a-Trustworthy-Experience) Harvard Business Review Online and print journal covering topics related to business management practices [Go to source](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) - For example, if you just started a new job, you probably don’t know everything about the company yet. Spend some time learning from your coworkers to do the best job that you can do. 5 ### Make a list of your positive qualities. [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) 1. [![It might seem silly, but sit down and write out a list.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/a/ae/Be-More-Confident-Step-3-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-3-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-3-Version-4.jpg) **It might seem silly, but sit down and write out a list.**[\[5\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-5)X [Expert Source](https://www.wikihow.com/wikiHow:Delivering-a-Trustworthy-Experience) [![Guy Reichard](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/3/38/Guy_Reichard.png/-crop-100-100-100px-Guy_Reichard.png)Guy Reichard Life Coach](https://www.wikihow.com/Author/Guy-Reichard) Expert Interview Start with 5 things that you like about yourself and try to add something to the list every day. If you can’t think of anything, try asking your loved ones what they like about you to get you started.[\[6\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-6) X [Trustworthy Source](https://www.wikihow.com/wikiHow:Delivering-a-Trustworthy-Experience) National Health Service (UK) Public healthcare system of the UK [Go to source](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) - For example, you could write, “I’m kind, I’m loving, I’m passionate about art, I’m creative, and I’m a good friend.” - However, this confidence-boosting method doesn’t work for everyone. Some people struggle to take these statements seriously or feel embarrassed by them. - **Reader Poll:** We asked 387 wikiHow readers, and only **10%** prefer to reaffirm their self-worth by **reflecting on their positive qualities and accomplishments**. [\[Take Poll\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-Your-Boyfriend-Is-Being-Disrespectful-to-You#reader_poll_253) 6 ### Learn to say “no.” [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) 1. [![You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/8/8f/Be-More-Confident-Step-7-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-7-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-7-Version-2.jpg) **You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone.** If you’re feeling overwhelmed and don’t want to take on another responsibility, [say “no.”](https://www.wikihow.com/Say-No "Say No") It will be tough at first, but once you practice it, it will become second nature.[\[7\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-7) X [Trustworthy Source](https://www.wikihow.com/wikiHow:Delivering-a-Trustworthy-Experience) National Health Service (UK) Public healthcare system of the UK [Go to source](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) - Saying “no” can often feel like we’re disappointing friends or family members. However, overwhelming yourself with responsibilities will only make you feel worse, and it can lead to lower self-esteem. 7 ### Get help from a mental health professional. [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) 1. [![If you’re really struggling with your confidence, a professional can help.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/5/53/Be-More-Confident-Step-13-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-13-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-13-Version-2.jpg) **If you’re really struggling with your confidence, a professional can help.** They’ll be able to find the root of your low confidence so you can challenge your thoughts and break any negative thought patterns. A mental health professional can also help you work toward other goals, like improving your relationships or making changes in your life.[\[8\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-8) X [Trustworthy Source](https://www.wikihow.com/wikiHow:Delivering-a-Trustworthy-Experience) Harvard Medical School Harvard Medical School's Educational Site for the Public [Go to source](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) - If you’re a college student, check out the mental health resources on campus. You might be able to see a mental health professional for free. 8 ### Spend time with people who appreciate you [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) 1. [![Negative people tend to lower your confidence.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/9/92/Be-More-Confident-Step-6-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-6-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-6-Version-2.jpg) **Negative people tend to lower your confidence.** Instead, spend time with friends and family members who inspire you and push you to be your best self. You’ll know someone is good to be around if you feel excited and happy to hang out with them.[\[9\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-9) X [Trustworthy Source](https://www.wikihow.com/wikiHow:Delivering-a-Trustworthy-Experience) National Health Service (UK) Public healthcare system of the UK [Go to source](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) - People who lower your confidence might make disparaging remarks about you or tell you that your goals are dumb. It probably feels draining to hang out with them, and you might be subconsciously avoiding them. - If you want to make a new group of friends, try joining a club to meet people interested in a hobby of yours. TELL US WHAT YOU THINK Which confidence-boosting activity do you find most effective for improving your self-esteem? Doing something I enjoy every day. Spending time with people who energize me. Wearing clean clothes and practicing good hygiene. Learning a new skill outside of my comfort zone. Exercising regularly. 481 total votes. This poll was last updated on 04/07/26. Take Random Quiz ![](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/ReaderPoll/assets/poll_smile.svg) #### Thanks for answering our poll\! [Take Quiz](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) [See More Quizzes](https://www.wikihow.com/Quizzes) 9 ### Learn a new skill. [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) 1. [![Do something outside of your own comfort zone.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/f/f1/Be-More-Confident-Step-12-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-12-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-12-Version-2.jpg) **Do something outside of your own comfort zone.** If you’ve never tried playing chess before, play a few online games to get the hang of it. If you aren’t the best cook, try making a dish you’ve never had. There are many ways to [acquire a new skill](https://www.wikihow.com/Acquire-New-Skills "Acquire New Skills"). Build your confidence in smaller areas to improve your overall self-esteem.[\[10\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-10) X Research source - Try to expand your comfort zone slowly and steadily over time. 10 ### Exercise regularly. [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) 1. [![Try to get 30 minutes of moderate exercise per day.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/1/1c/Be-More-Confident-Step-11-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-11-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-11-Version-2.jpg) **Try to get 30 minutes of moderate exercise per day.** Working a little exercise into your daily routine can do wonders for your mental health. Not only will it make you feel stronger and healthier, exercising releases chemicals in your brain that make you feel happier. It will boost your overall mood and it can break up your day if you're feeling stuck.[\[11\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-11) X [Trustworthy Source](https://www.wikihow.com/wikiHow:Delivering-a-Trustworthy-Experience) PubMed Central Journal archive from the U.S. National Institutes of Health [Go to source](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) - Exercising doesn’t have to mean going to a gym and getting your pump on. You could swim, jog, do yoga, jump rope, or do an at-home workout routine. 11 ### Do something you enjoy every day. [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) 1. [![Make yourself happy by doing something fun.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/b/b5/Be-More-Confident-Step-9-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-9-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-9-Version-2.jpg) **Make yourself happy by doing something fun.** It could be a craft, an art piece, a nature walk, a hike, a jog, or even reading a good book. Spend 15 minutes doing something that you like to boost your mood and improve your overall self-esteem.[\[12\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-12) X Research source - Try taking a break from technology while you do this, too. It can be nice to step away from the screens for a while. 12 ### Stand up straight and make eye contact with people. [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) 1. [![Body language is a huge indicator of confidence.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/c/cb/Be-More-Confident-Step-4-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-4-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-4-Version-4.jpg) **Body language is a huge indicator of confidence.** When you interact with others, be sure to keep your head and chin up, stand up straight, and [look people in the eyes](https://www.wikihow.com/Make-Eye-Contact "Make Eye Contact") when you talk to them. Keep your hands out of your pockets and plant your feet in a wide stance.[\[13\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-13) X Research source - If you’re listening to someone else talk, practice active listening skills by nodding your head and making eye contact. 13 ### Wear clean clothes and practice good hygiene. [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) 1. [![When you look good, you feel good, too.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/c/c5/Be-More-Confident-Step-8-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-8-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-8-Version-2.jpg) **When you look good, you feel good, too.** Try to shower every day, brush your hair, clean your teeth, and put on clean clothes. If you like makeup or jewelry, wear that too! Try to present yourself in a way that makes you feel confident.[\[14\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-14) X Research source - If you’re itching for a new wardrobe but don’t want to break the bank, try hitting up a thrift store in your area. ### How Can You Build Self-Confidence? ## Be Charismatic with this Expert Series Do you want to be the kind of person who lights up a room? 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[↑](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_ref-14) <https://www.nytimes.com/2019/06/03/smarter-living/how-to-improve-self-confidence.html> ## About This Article ![Guy Reichard](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/3/38/Guy_Reichard.png/-crop-100-100-100px-Guy_Reichard.png) Co-authored by: [Guy Reichard](https://www.wikihow.com/Author/Guy-Reichard) Life Coach This article was co-authored by [Guy Reichard](https://www.wikihow.com/Author/Guy-Reichard) and by wikiHow staff writer, [Hannah Madden](https://www.wikihow.com/Author/Hannah-Madden). Guy Reichard is a Self Leadership Coach and Executive Resilience Builder who empowers high-achieving professionals, executives, and business owners to lead authentically with calm, clarity, confidence, and compassion. He is the founder of HeartRich Self Leadership & Resilience Coaching, where he helps his clients navigate challenges, overcome fears and self-doubt, and grow into purposeful, values-driven leaders. With a heart-centered, science-backed, and trauma-informed approach, Guy guides his clients to connect with their Authentic Self, align with their core values, and create meaningful change in their lives and leadership. His work focuses on enhancing resilience, emotional intelligence, presence, and well-being while addressing barriers like perfectionism, impostor syndrome, people-pleasing, and tough inner critics. With over 15 years and 4000+ of coaching experience and 20 years in consulting and business development, Guy brings a unique blend of empathy, insight, and strategic perspective to help his clients thrive. He received his professional coaching certification from the International Coaching Federation and is an EZRAx Executive Leadership Coach. He received an MBA and a BA in Psychology from York University. This article has been viewed 213,132 times. 31 votes - 90% Co-authors: 26 Updated: August 7, 2024 Views: 213,132 Categories: [Featured Articles](https://www.wikihow.com/Category:Featured-Articles "Category:Featured Articles") \| [Confidence](https://www.wikihow.com/Category:Confidence "Category:Confidence") [Article SummaryX](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#summary_wrapper) To become more confident, take a few moments every morning to look at yourself in the mirror and say something encouraging that you believe to be true about yourself or that you hope to be true someday. For example, tell yourself "I am an intelligent person." Also try writing confidence boosting notes to yourself that you will see throughout the day, like "You're doing a great job!" Finally, take good care of yourself by getting enough rest, eating a healthy diet, and surrounding yourself with positive people. 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[![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) [![PDF download](https://www.wikihow.com/extensions/wikihow/socialstamp/images/icon-pdf.svg) Download Article](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident) Confidence is all about harnessing your own unique, internal power. It's what allows you to wow friends, dazzle parties, excel in school and work, and ultimately, just feel great about yourself—but when you struggle to feel secure, how can you become the most confident *you*? It's actually way easier than you'd think. Below, we've outlined the very best research-backed tips and tricks to help you on your journey. Ready to let that inner light shine through? Let's get started. 1. [![Try to catch yourself when you think bad things about yourself.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/2/25/Be-More-Confident-Step-1-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-1-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-1-Version-4.jpg) If you notice a negative thought, question it to see if it’s actually true. When you start to question your negative self-talk, you can adjust your thinking over time.[\[1\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-1) - For example, if you think something like, “My friends probably don’t like me,” try asking yourself, “Is that true? Didn’t my friend just invite me to hang out last week?” - Or, if you think something like, “I’ll never pass this test,” ask yourself, “How do you know? Can you tell the future?” 1. [![Repeat phrases every day until you start to believe them.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/5/53/Be-More-Confident-Step-2-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-2-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-2-Version-4.jpg) Take a few moments before you go to work or school to look at yourself in the mirror and remind yourself of your positive characteristics. You can either say something that you believe about yourself or something that you would like to believe about yourself. Try saying things like:[\[2\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-2) - “I am an intelligent person.” - “I am a good father.” - “I have accomplished many important things in my life.” - “People enjoy spending time with me.” 1. [![Try to remember that you’re only human.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/7/7e/Be-More-Confident-Step-10-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-10-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-10-Version-2.jpg) Everyone makes mistakes, and you’re no different! Try to [forgive yourself](https://www.wikihow.com/Forgive-Yourself "Forgive Yourself") for things you did in the past so you can move on. Don’t hold yourself to a higher standard than everyone else.[\[3\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-3) - If you’re having trouble forgiving yourself for something, try asking if you’d forgive a friend for the same mistake. Then, use that forgiveness on yourself. 1. [![You might still have a lot to learn, but remind yourself that you're trying\!](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/3/37/Be-More-Confident-Step-5-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-5-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-5-Version-4.jpg) Being confident doesn’t mean overestimating your own abilities; instead, try to recognize where you might be slightly lacking, then work to improve that area.[\[4\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-4) - For example, if you just started a new job, you probably don’t know everything about the company yet. Spend some time learning from your coworkers to do the best job that you can do. 1. [![It might seem silly, but sit down and write out a list.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/a/ae/Be-More-Confident-Step-3-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-3-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-3-Version-4.jpg) [\[5\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-5) Start with 5 things that you like about yourself and try to add something to the list every day. If you can’t think of anything, try asking your loved ones what they like about you to get you started.[\[6\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-6) - For example, you could write, “I’m kind, I’m loving, I’m passionate about art, I’m creative, and I’m a good friend.” - However, this confidence-boosting method doesn’t work for everyone. Some people struggle to take these statements seriously or feel embarrassed by them. - **Reader Poll:** We asked 387 wikiHow readers, and only **10%** prefer to reaffirm their self-worth by **reflecting on their positive qualities and accomplishments**. [\[Take Poll\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-Your-Boyfriend-Is-Being-Disrespectful-to-You#reader_poll_253) 1. [![You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/8/8f/Be-More-Confident-Step-7-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-7-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-7-Version-2.jpg) If you’re feeling overwhelmed and don’t want to take on another responsibility, [say “no.”](https://www.wikihow.com/Say-No "Say No") It will be tough at first, but once you practice it, it will become second nature.[\[7\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-7) - Saying “no” can often feel like we’re disappointing friends or family members. However, overwhelming yourself with responsibilities will only make you feel worse, and it can lead to lower self-esteem. 1. [![If you’re really struggling with your confidence, a professional can help.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/5/53/Be-More-Confident-Step-13-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-13-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-13-Version-2.jpg) They’ll be able to find the root of your low confidence so you can challenge your thoughts and break any negative thought patterns. A mental health professional can also help you work toward other goals, like improving your relationships or making changes in your life.[\[8\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-8) - If you’re a college student, check out the mental health resources on campus. You might be able to see a mental health professional for free. 1. [![Negative people tend to lower your confidence.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/9/92/Be-More-Confident-Step-6-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-6-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-6-Version-2.jpg) Instead, spend time with friends and family members who inspire you and push you to be your best self. You’ll know someone is good to be around if you feel excited and happy to hang out with them.[\[9\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-9) - People who lower your confidence might make disparaging remarks about you or tell you that your goals are dumb. It probably feels draining to hang out with them, and you might be subconsciously avoiding them. - If you want to make a new group of friends, try joining a club to meet people interested in a hobby of yours. Which confidence-boosting activity do you find most effective for improving your self-esteem? Doing something I enjoy every day. Spending time with people who energize me. Wearing clean clothes and practicing good hygiene. Learning a new skill outside of my comfort zone. Exercising regularly. 1. [![Do something outside of your own comfort zone.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/f/f1/Be-More-Confident-Step-12-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-12-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-12-Version-2.jpg) If you’ve never tried playing chess before, play a few online games to get the hang of it. If you aren’t the best cook, try making a dish you’ve never had. There are many ways to [acquire a new skill](https://www.wikihow.com/Acquire-New-Skills "Acquire New Skills"). Build your confidence in smaller areas to improve your overall self-esteem.[\[10\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-10) - Try to expand your comfort zone slowly and steadily over time. 1. [![Try to get 30 minutes of moderate exercise per day.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/1/1c/Be-More-Confident-Step-11-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-11-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-11-Version-2.jpg) Working a little exercise into your daily routine can do wonders for your mental health. Not only will it make you feel stronger and healthier, exercising releases chemicals in your brain that make you feel happier. It will boost your overall mood and it can break up your day if you're feeling stuck.[\[11\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-11) - Exercising doesn’t have to mean going to a gym and getting your pump on. You could swim, jog, do yoga, jump rope, or do an at-home workout routine. 1. [![Make yourself happy by doing something fun.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/b/b5/Be-More-Confident-Step-9-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-9-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-9-Version-2.jpg) It could be a craft, an art piece, a nature walk, a hike, a jog, or even reading a good book. Spend 15 minutes doing something that you like to boost your mood and improve your overall self-esteem.[\[12\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-12) - Try taking a break from technology while you do this, too. It can be nice to step away from the screens for a while. 1. [![Body language is a huge indicator of confidence.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/c/cb/Be-More-Confident-Step-4-Version-4.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-4-Version-4.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-4-Version-4.jpg) When you interact with others, be sure to keep your head and chin up, stand up straight, and [look people in the eyes](https://www.wikihow.com/Make-Eye-Contact "Make Eye Contact") when you talk to them. Keep your hands out of your pockets and plant your feet in a wide stance.[\[13\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-13) - If you’re listening to someone else talk, practice active listening skills by nodding your head and making eye contact. 1. [![When you look good, you feel good, too.](https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/c/c5/Be-More-Confident-Step-8-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Be-More-Confident-Step-8-Version-2.jpg)](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#/Image:Be-More-Confident-Step-8-Version-2.jpg) Try to shower every day, brush your hair, clean your teeth, and put on clean clothes. If you like makeup or jewelry, wear that too! Try to present yourself in a way that makes you feel confident.[\[14\]](https://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Confident#_note-14) - If you’re itching for a new wardrobe but don’t want to break the bank, try hitting up a thrift store in your area. Be Charismatic with this Expert Series Do you want to be the kind of person who lights up a room? Learn how to attract people to you and be the most charismatic version of yourself with this expert series. Ask a Question 200 characters left Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. 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