ℹ️ Skipped - page is already crawled
| Filter | Status | Condition | Details |
|---|---|---|---|
| HTTP status | PASS | download_http_code = 200 | HTTP 200 |
| Age cutoff | PASS | download_stamp > now() - 6 MONTH | 0 months ago |
| History drop | PASS | isNull(history_drop_reason) | No drop reason |
| Spam/ban | PASS | fh_dont_index != 1 AND ml_spam_score = 0 | ml_spam_score=0 |
| Canonical | PASS | meta_canonical IS NULL OR = '' OR = src_unparsed | Not set |
| Property | Value |
|---|---|
| URL | https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/our-baby-wont-sleep/ |
| Last Crawled | 2026-04-17 18:13:24 (13 hours ago) |
| First Indexed | 2017-12-20 02:34:17 (8 years ago) |
| HTTP Status Code | 200 |
| Meta Title | 8 Reasons Your Baby Is Fighting Sleep |
| Meta Description | Does it seem like your baby is fighting sleep? Experts share the most common reasons that babies fight sleep and tips on how to finally get your baby to sleep. |
| Meta Canonical | null |
| Boilerpipe Text | There are many reasons behind babies' erratic sleep schedules, and it's not usually because they're not tired. Babies sometimes seemingly fight sleep, resulting in night wakings, napless afternoons, pre-bedtime battles, and ultimately
sleep deprivation
for everyone in the family.
Read on to discover why babies fight sleep and what you can do to help everyone get a little more shut-eye.
Photo:
Parents / Getty Images
They're Overstimulated
One reason your baby might fight sleep is that they have
high energy levels
and are still excited from their day. Activities like being tossed in the air, watching videos, or playing in the tub can keep them overly stimulated even when it's time to wind down. This makes bedtime feel like they're missing out on more fun and can lead to overtiredness.
When this happens,
Jodi Mindell, PhD
, author of
Sleeping Through the Night
, says it's actually much harder for them to fall asleep. As a result, they may fight sleep or wake up more often during the night.
So, instead of activities that wind them up, try giving your baby's nap and bedtime routines a makeover with more soothing activities. Ditch the tickle-fests and replace them with calming activities like a massage, lullaby, or story.
Skip the Screens
Screens are stimulating and make it harder to fall asleep. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) and the American Academy of Sleep Medicine (AASM) recommend turning off screens at least 30 minutes before bedtime.
1
Better yet, delay introducing screen time entirely until toddlerhood. The AAP advises against all screen use in infants under 18 months.
2
They're Uncomfortable
Your baby could be struggling to sleep because they are uncomfortable with their environment. "Some babies are very sensitive to their external and internal environment," says
Harvey Karp, MD
, creator of
The Happiest Baby on the Block
.
"They may be bothered by the phone ringing, the feeling of a clothing label, or even sensations in their body like food digesting," he adds. Babies can sometimes ignore these sensations during the day when there is activity, but it becomes much harder at night.
Making your baby's environment as soothing as possible is one way to help when your baby won't sleep. If you're not sure what's bothering them, start with the following:
Clothing
: Remove pajama tags and check that their clothing fits comfortably.
Bedding
: Opt for a soft, breathable fitted sheet on their mattress.
Light
: Make their room darker.
Temperature
: Check the
room's temperature
and remove blankets or clothing if it's too warm
On the other hand, your baby may be bothered by an overly quiet room, especially if they're under 4 months old. "Babies were constantly held, rocked, and touched in the uterus, and there was always white noise," says Dr. Karp. "Many babies can't relax because they miss that rhythmic calmness." Try wrapping them in a tight swaddle and playing a white noise machine to help recreate that womblike feeling.
When Teething Causes Nighttime Awakenings
Your baby's first teeth usually appear around 6 months old, although signs often begin sooner. Teething can cause sleep regression, so if you're baby wakes more often all of a sudden, this may be the cause. If they don't fall back asleep quickly, try to comfort them briefly but avoid temporarily adding overnight feedings.
They're Not Getting Enough Light During the Day
If your baby doesn't get enough light during the day, it could cause them to fight sleep at night. "Infants who get more exposure to light during the day sleep better," says Dr. Mindell.
The key is exposure to morning light. "It suppresses melatonin—a hormone that regulates the sleep-wake cycle—so that it peaks at the right time," says Dr. Mindell. Your newborn's circadian rhythm (the natural cycle of your body that responds to light and dark) is undeveloped.
3
Researchers recommend daytime light exposure and nighttime light avoidance to promote the development of the circadian rhythm in infants.
4
Here are strategies that can help you promote your baby's circadian rhythm development:
Move your baby's high chair or nursing pillow to the sunniest spot in the house and feed them there.
Take your baby on a morning walk, even on a cloudy day.
Turn on a bunch of lamps first thing in the morning if you can't get outside in the morning.
Dim the lights an hour or two before bedtime. "You want your baby to associate light and activity with the day and darkness and inactivity with nighttime," says Dr. Karp.
The Effects of Travel and Routine Disruptions
Have patience if you've been recently traveling with your baby. Time away from their crib or a temporary shift in bedtime schedule and routine can cause them to fight sleep once they return home.
They're Hungry (Or Just Used To Eating Before Sleep)
"This is probably the number one reason why babies have trouble falling asleep," says
Cathryn Tobin, MD
, author of
The Lull-A-Baby Sleep Plan
.
When you feed your baby immediately before putting them in the crib, they'll associate feeding with sleeping, especially if they regularly fall asleep on your chest or with a bottle. That may not be a problem at 7 p.m., but it can become one when they wake up at 3 a.m. and need to eat to drift off again.
Eventually, your baby will learn to
soothe themselves
when they wake up at night. But if they aren't getting the hang of it, they may actually be hungry. The following suggestions may help:
Move the
pre-bedtime feeding
.
Try feeding earlier in the nap or bedtime routine, such as before a diaper change or a lullaby, so you can put them down when they're still awake.
Try feeding your baby in a different room.
Feeding in another room or space can help reinforce that their nursery is just for sleeping.
Feed them more often before bedtime.
Pack in extra calories by feeding your baby every hour or two in the evening so they're not hungry at night. If bedtime is at 8 p.m., for example, try offering feedings on the hour starting at 5 p.m.
Do a "
dream feed
."
Put your baby down for the night at the usual time, then gently wake them for a sleepy nighttime feeding before you go to sleep.
What Sleeping Through the Night Really Means
"Sleeping through the night" is defined as sleeping at least six consecutive hours. So, if you put your baby down at 8 p.m. and they wake up at 2 a.m., it's technically considered "through the night." According to a study in
Pediatrics
, 38% of 6-month-olds and 28% of 12-month-olds do not sleep through the night.
5
They're Overtired
Babies who won't sleep at nap time cost you more than some free time during the day. "A child who misses a nap or only takes a short one has a harder time falling asleep and will wake more often during the night," says Dr. Mindell.
"For babies under 12 months, it's typically a timing issue," says Dr. Tobin. "You have to hit that exact moment—the beginning of the yawn, the heavy eyes—or you often miss the opportunity for a nap." At that point, they're overtired and too wired to fall asleep. Watch for your baby's sleepy signs and put them down as soon as you notice them.
It can also help to be consistent. If your bedtime routine is a lullaby and a story, do the same before nap time. If they sleep, great. If they spend an hour cooing, fine—restorative downtime is still better than nothing.
Newborns sleep whenever they feel like it, but by 4 months, babies typically fall into a
nap schedule
consisting of two longer naps a day (one in the morning and another in the afternoon) or three shorter ones.
How Do I Know How Much Sleep Is Enough?
Unsure if your baby is getting adequate daytime and nighttime sleep? Add up the total hours they sleep in 24 hours. According to the AAP, infants 4 to 12 months require 12 to 16 total hours of sleep a day (including naps).
6
They Rely on You
Whether you rock them or pat their back until they drift off, your baby may not fall asleep because they've become dependent on your presence and help. So, when they wake and you're not there to help them drift off, they may not be able to fall back to sleep on their own.
Don't abandon them entirely. Instead, gradually spend less time in their room each night. As long as they're old enough, you can also use a transitional object, such as a blanket or stuffed animal, to make the process easier. It's important to remember that a baby must be around 1 year old before they sleep with a lovey; before that, anything loose in the crib increases the
risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS)
.
For newborns, you can start
swaddling them
with the blanket that will eventually become their lovey, says Dr. Tobin. Or, follow your child's lead. If your baby gravitates toward their fuzzy lamb, for example, incorporate it into their bedtime routine until they're old enough to cuddle with it in the crib.
They're Struggling To Give Up Co-Sleeping
You're finally ready to reclaim your bedroom, but your mini roommate isn't interested in their lonely crib. And the longer
you've co-slept
, the harder this process will be.
"This takes a while, so make the break gradually," says Dr. Mindell. Here's how to stop co-sleeping with your baby in three simple steps:
Have them nap by themselves.
Shift the bedtime routine to their own room once they're used to napping alone.
Move their crib into your room or put them down in their room, but continue to bring them into your room if they wake up at night.
Keep in mind that the AAP supports room-sharing but not bed-sharing due to the increased risk of infant injury or death in shared sleep spaces.
7
If you bring them back to your room, make sure they have a separate safe sleep space, like an age-appropriate crib or
bassinet
.
If they can't make the final transition to spending the whole night alone, you may choose to let them fuss in their room for a while. Over time and with consistency, they'll learn to soothe themselves.
They're Still Learning To Self-Soothe (And You're Still Learning To Let Them)
Think about it: Do you fall asleep the minute you get into bed? Probably not. Well, neither does your baby. So when you burst into their room at the slightest whimper, you may distract them from falling asleep or even wake them up.
If listening to your baby fuss is too hard and they are old enough, considerÂ
sleep training
. Begin with small intervals of checking on them and fight the urge to go to them for just a few minutes. The goal is to let them fuss without immediately running to their room, in the hopes that they will soothe themselves back to sleep.
If you don't give your baby a chance to calm themselves, says Dr. Tobin, they won't learn to do it as quickly. Turn down the baby monitor just enough so you hear their cries, but not
all the little noises
they naturally make in their sleep.
Key Takeaways
There are several possible reasons why babies fight sleep, including being overstimulated or overtired, sensitivity to their environment, and reliance on sleep crutches like being rocked or fed to sleep. To help your baby get more sleep, consider adjusting their bedtime routine, avoiding co-sleeping, and adjusting their environment. If you're still struggling to get your infant to go to sleep, consider consulting a pediatric health care provider. |
| Markdown | ​
[Skip to content](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/our-baby-wont-sleep/#main)
[Parents](https://www.parents.com/)
- Please fill out this field.
- [Newsletters](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/our-baby-wont-sleep/)
- [Sweepstakes](https://www.parents.com/sweepstakes)
Please fill out this field.
- [Starting a Family](https://www.parents.com/starting-a-family-5282670)
Starting a Family
- [Trying to Conceive](https://www.parents.com/getting-pregnant/trying-to-conceive/)
- [Ovulation](https://www.parents.com/getting-pregnant/ovulation/)
- [Ovulation Calculator](https://www.parents.com/ovulation-calculator-8399023)
- [Infertility](https://www.parents.com/getting-pregnant/infertility/)
- [View All](https://www.parents.com/starting-a-family-5282670)
- [Pregnancy](https://www.parents.com/pregnancy-postpartum-5282488)
Pregnancy
- [Pregnancy Week-by-Week](https://www.parents.com/your-pregnancy-week-by-week-7562232)
- [Baby Names](https://www.parents.com/baby-names/)
- [Due Date Calculator](https://www.parents.com/due-date-calculator-8400109)
- [Pregnancy Conditions & Complications](https://www.parents.com/pregnancy-conditions-complications-5283122)
- [Labor & Delivery](https://www.parents.com/labor-delivery-5283271)
- [View All](https://www.parents.com/pregnancy-postpartum-5282488)
- [Baby Names](https://www.parents.com/baby-names/)
Baby Names
- [Top Girl Names](https://www.parents.com/top-1000-baby-girl-names-2757832)
- [Top Boy Names](https://www.parents.com/top-1000-baby-boy-names-2757618)
- [Trending Names](https://www.parents.com/top-10-baby-naming-trends-for-2025-8721379)
- [Gender-Neutral Names](https://www.parents.com/gender-neutral-baby-names-7506107)
- [Nicknames](https://www.parents.com/baby-names/ideas/200-baby-nicknames-that-are-as-cute-as-your-new-baby/)
- [View All](https://www.parents.com/baby-names/)
- [Parenting](https://www.parents.com/parenting/)
Parenting
- [Babies](https://www.parents.com/baby/)
- [Toddlers](https://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/)
- [Big Kids](https://www.parents.com/kids/)
- [Tweens & Teens](https://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/teenagers/)
- [Health & Safety](https://www.parents.com/health-safety-5282915)
- [View All](https://www.parents.com/parenting/)
- [Life With Kids](https://www.parents.com/lifestyle-5282764)
Life With Kids
- [Travel](https://www.parents.com/family-travel-5282287)
- [Entertainment](https://www.parents.com/fun/entertainment/)
- [Food](https://www.parents.com/food-5283342)
- [Familia](https://www.parents.com/familia-by-parents-8650612)
- [Kindred](https://www.parents.com/kindred-5283212)
- [View All](https://www.parents.com/lifestyle-5282764)
- [What to Buy](https://www.parents.com/what-to-buy-7507577)
What to Buy
- [Toys & Gifts](https://www.parents.com/best-toys-gifts-7507583)
- [Amazon Deals](https://www.parents.com/amazon-prime-day-deals-7547372)
- [Tech & Gadgets](https://www.parents.com/tech-gadgets-8735253)
- [Car Seats](https://www.parents.com/car-seats-8735235)
- [Strollers](https://www.parents.com/strollers-8735227)
- [News](https://www.parents.com/news/)
- [About Us](https://www.parents.com/about-us-5271079)
About Us
- [Editorial Guidelines](https://www.parents.com/parents-editorial-guidelines-5270847)
- [Expert Review Board](https://www.parents.com/meet-our-expert-review-board-5270846)
- [Read More](https://www.parents.com/about-us-5271079)
- [Newsletters](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/our-baby-wont-sleep/)
- [Sweepstakes](https://www.parents.com/sweepstakes)
Follow Us
- [Starting a Family](https://www.parents.com/starting-a-family-5282670)
- [Ovulation](https://www.parents.com/getting-pregnant/ovulation/)
- [Trying to Conceive](https://www.parents.com/getting-pregnant/trying-to-conceive/)
- [Adoption & Foster Care](https://www.parents.com/parenting/adoption/)
- [Fertility](https://www.parents.com/getting-pregnant/fertility/)
- [View All](https://www.parents.com/starting-a-family-5282670)
- [Pregnancy](https://www.parents.com/pregnancy-postpartum-5282488)
- [Pregnancy Week-by-Week](https://www.parents.com/your-pregnancy-week-by-week-7562232)
- [Baby Names](https://www.parents.com/baby-names/)
- [Due Date Calculator](https://www.parents.com/due-date-calculator-8400109)
- [Pregnancy Conditions & Complications](https://www.parents.com/pregnancy-conditions-complications-5283122)
- [Labor & Delivery](https://www.parents.com/labor-delivery-5283271)
- [View All](https://www.parents.com/pregnancy-postpartum-5282488)
- [Baby Names](https://www.parents.com/baby-names/)
- [Top Girl Names](https://www.parents.com/top-1000-baby-girl-names-2757832)
- [Top Boy Names](https://www.parents.com/top-1000-baby-boy-names-2757618)
- [Trending Names](https://www.parents.com/top-10-baby-naming-trends-for-2025-8721379)
- [Gender-Neutral Names](https://www.parents.com/gender-neutral-baby-names-7506107)
- [Nicknames](https://www.parents.com/baby-names/ideas/200-baby-nicknames-that-are-as-cute-as-your-new-baby/)
- [View All](https://www.parents.com/baby-names/)
- [Parenting](https://www.parents.com/parenting/)
- [Babies](https://www.parents.com/baby/)
- [Toddlers](https://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/)
- [Big Kids](https://www.parents.com/kids/)
- [Tween & Teens](https://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/teenagers/)
- [Health & Safety](https://www.parents.com/health-safety-5282915)
- [View All](https://www.parents.com/parenting/)
- [Life With Kids](https://www.parents.com/lifestyle-5282764)
- [Travel](https://www.parents.com/family-travel-5282287)
- [Entertainment](https://www.parents.com/fun/entertainment/)
- [Food](https://www.parents.com/food-5283342)
- [Familia](https://www.parents.com/familia-by-parents-8650612)
- [Kindred](https://www.parents.com/kindred-5283212)
- [View All](https://www.parents.com/lifestyle-5282764)
- [What to Buy](https://www.parents.com/what-to-buy-7507577)
- [Toys & Gifts](https://www.parents.com/best-toys-gifts-7507583)
- [Amazon Deals](https://www.parents.com/amazon-prime-day-deals-7547372)
- [Tech & Gadgets](https://www.parents.com/tech-gadgets-8735253)
- [Car Seats](https://www.parents.com/car-seats-8735235)
- [Strollers](https://www.parents.com/strollers-8735227)
- [News](https://www.parents.com/news/)
[About Us](https://www.parents.com/about-us-5271079)
- [Our Editorial Guidelines](https://www.parents.com/parents-editorial-guidelines-5270847)
- [Parents Awards](https://www.parents.com/parents-awards-submission-dates-guidelines-faqs-8717098)
- [Expert Review Board](https://www.parents.com/meet-our-expert-review-board-5270846)
[Get real stories & solutions in a space made for Moms. (Paid Partnership)](https://www.parents.com/featured/premium/likeamother?utm_source=editorial&utm_campaign=sitewidebanner&utm_content=parents)
# 8 Reasons Your Baby Is Fighting Sleep
By Jana Banin
Updated on June 4, 2025
Medically reviewed by [Wendy L. Hunter, M.D.](https://www.parents.com/author/wendy-hunter/)
In This Article
View All
In This Article
- [Overstimulation](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/our-baby-wont-sleep/#toc-theyre-overstimulated)
- [Discomfort](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/our-baby-wont-sleep/#toc-theyre-uncomfortable)
- [Circadian Rhythm](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/our-baby-wont-sleep/#toc-theyre-not-getting-enough-light-during-the-day)
- [Hunger](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/our-baby-wont-sleep/#toc-theyre-hungry-or-just-used-to-eating-before-sleep)
- [Overtiredness](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/our-baby-wont-sleep/#toc-theyre-overtired)
- [Sleep Crutches](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/our-baby-wont-sleep/#toc-they-rely-on-you)
- [Co-Sleeping Transition](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/our-baby-wont-sleep/#toc-theyre-struggling-to-give-up-co-sleeping)
- [Learning To Self-Soothe](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/our-baby-wont-sleep/#toc-theyre-still-learning-to-self-soothe-and-youre-still-learning-to-let-them)
There are many reasons behind babies' erratic sleep schedules, and it's not usually because they're not tired. Babies sometimes seemingly fight sleep, resulting in night wakings, napless afternoons, pre-bedtime battles, and ultimately [sleep deprivation](https://www.parents.com/baby/new-parent/sleep-deprivation/how-to-get-sleep/) for everyone in the family.
Read on to discover why babies fight sleep and what you can do to help everyone get a little more shut-eye.
:max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/Parents-Why-Babies-Fight-Sleep-d21279c3e0b5468eb14cb17f5f39bc1b.jpg)
:max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/Parents-Why-Babies-Fight-Sleep-d21279c3e0b5468eb14cb17f5f39bc1b.jpg)
Photo:
Parents / Getty Images
## They're Overstimulated
One reason your baby might fight sleep is that they have [high energy levels](https://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/development/behavioral/your-high-energy-toddler-explained/) and are still excited from their day. Activities like being tossed in the air, watching videos, or playing in the tub can keep them overly stimulated even when it's time to wind down. This makes bedtime feel like they're missing out on more fun and can lead to overtiredness.
When this happens, [Jodi Mindell, PhD](https://directory.sju.edu/jodi-mindell), author of *Sleeping Through the Night*, says it's actually much harder for them to fall asleep. As a result, they may fight sleep or wake up more often during the night.
So, instead of activities that wind them up, try giving your baby's nap and bedtime routines a makeover with more soothing activities. Ditch the tickle-fests and replace them with calming activities like a massage, lullaby, or story.
### Skip the Screens
Screens are stimulating and make it harder to fall asleep. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) and the American Academy of Sleep Medicine (AASM) recommend turning off screens at least 30 minutes before bedtime.1 Better yet, delay introducing screen time entirely until toddlerhood. The AAP advises against all screen use in infants under 18 months.2
## They're Uncomfortable
Your baby could be struggling to sleep because they are uncomfortable with their environment. "Some babies are very sensitive to their external and internal environment," says [Harvey Karp, MD](https://www.happiestbaby.eu/mission-and-founders), creator of *The Happiest Baby on the Block*.
"They may be bothered by the phone ringing, the feeling of a clothing label, or even sensations in their body like food digesting," he adds. Babies can sometimes ignore these sensations during the day when there is activity, but it becomes much harder at night.
Making your baby's environment as soothing as possible is one way to help when your baby won't sleep. If you're not sure what's bothering them, start with the following:
- **Clothing**: Remove pajama tags and check that their clothing fits comfortably.
- **Bedding**: Opt for a soft, breathable fitted sheet on their mattress.
- **Light**: Make their room darker.
- **Temperature**: Check the [room's temperature](https://www.parents.com/room-temperature-for-newborn-8630954) and remove blankets or clothing if it's too warm
On the other hand, your baby may be bothered by an overly quiet room, especially if they're under 4 months old. "Babies were constantly held, rocked, and touched in the uterus, and there was always white noise," says Dr. Karp. "Many babies can't relax because they miss that rhythmic calmness." Try wrapping them in a tight swaddle and playing a white noise machine to help recreate that womblike feeling.
### When Teething Causes Nighttime Awakenings
Your baby's first teeth usually appear around 6 months old, although signs often begin sooner. Teething can cause sleep regression, so if you're baby wakes more often all of a sudden, this may be the cause. If they don't fall back asleep quickly, try to comfort them briefly but avoid temporarily adding overnight feedings.
## They're Not Getting Enough Light During the Day
If your baby doesn't get enough light during the day, it could cause them to fight sleep at night. "Infants who get more exposure to light during the day sleep better," says Dr. Mindell.
The key is exposure to morning light. "It suppresses melatonin—a hormone that regulates the sleep-wake cycle—so that it peaks at the right time," says Dr. Mindell. Your newborn's circadian rhythm (the natural cycle of your body that responds to light and dark) is undeveloped.3
Researchers recommend daytime light exposure and nighttime light avoidance to promote the development of the circadian rhythm in infants.4 Here are strategies that can help you promote your baby's circadian rhythm development:
- Move your baby's high chair or nursing pillow to the sunniest spot in the house and feed them there.
- Take your baby on a morning walk, even on a cloudy day.
- Turn on a bunch of lamps first thing in the morning if you can't get outside in the morning.
- Dim the lights an hour or two before bedtime. "You want your baby to associate light and activity with the day and darkness and inactivity with nighttime," says Dr. Karp.
### The Effects of Travel and Routine Disruptions
Have patience if you've been recently traveling with your baby. Time away from their crib or a temporary shift in bedtime schedule and routine can cause them to fight sleep once they return home.
## They're Hungry (Or Just Used To Eating Before Sleep)
"This is probably the number one reason why babies have trouble falling asleep," says [Cathryn Tobin, MD](https://www.healthiest-baby.com/pages/about-us), author of *The Lull-A-Baby Sleep Plan*.
When you feed your baby immediately before putting them in the crib, they'll associate feeding with sleeping, especially if they regularly fall asleep on your chest or with a bottle. That may not be a problem at 7 p.m., but it can become one when they wake up at 3 a.m. and need to eat to drift off again.
Eventually, your baby will learn to [soothe themselves](https://www.parents.com/baby/all-about-babies/this-mom-found-a-brilliant-pacifier-trick-to-help-her-baby-self-soothe-back-to/) when they wake up at night. But if they aren't getting the hang of it, they may actually be hungry. The following suggestions may help:
- **Move the [pre-bedtime feeding](https://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/sleep/at-what-age-and-how-do-i-break-the-habit-of-giving-a-bottle-at-bedtime/).** Try feeding earlier in the nap or bedtime routine, such as before a diaper change or a lullaby, so you can put them down when they're still awake.
- **Try feeding your baby in a different room.** Feeding in another room or space can help reinforce that their nursery is just for sleeping.
- **Feed them more often before bedtime.** Pack in extra calories by feeding your baby every hour or two in the evening so they're not hungry at night. If bedtime is at 8 p.m., for example, try offering feedings on the hour starting at 5 p.m.
- **Do a "[dream feed](https://www.parents.com/dream-feeding-how-does-it-work-7565109)."** Put your baby down for the night at the usual time, then gently wake them for a sleepy nighttime feeding before you go to sleep.
### What Sleeping Through the Night Really Means
"Sleeping through the night" is defined as sleeping at least six consecutive hours. So, if you put your baby down at 8 p.m. and they wake up at 2 a.m., it's technically considered "through the night." According to a study in *Pediatrics*, 38% of 6-month-olds and 28% of 12-month-olds do not sleep through the night.5
## They're Overtired
Babies who won't sleep at nap time cost you more than some free time during the day. "A child who misses a nap or only takes a short one has a harder time falling asleep and will wake more often during the night," says Dr. Mindell.
"For babies under 12 months, it's typically a timing issue," says Dr. Tobin. "You have to hit that exact moment—the beginning of the yawn, the heavy eyes—or you often miss the opportunity for a nap." At that point, they're overtired and too wired to fall asleep. Watch for your baby's sleepy signs and put them down as soon as you notice them.
It can also help to be consistent. If your bedtime routine is a lullaby and a story, do the same before nap time. If they sleep, great. If they spend an hour cooing, fine—restorative downtime is still better than nothing.
Newborns sleep whenever they feel like it, but by 4 months, babies typically fall into a [nap schedule](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/naps/get-your-baby-to-nap/) consisting of two longer naps a day (one in the morning and another in the afternoon) or three shorter ones.
### How Do I Know How Much Sleep Is Enough?
Unsure if your baby is getting adequate daytime and nighttime sleep? Add up the total hours they sleep in 24 hours. According to the AAP, infants 4 to 12 months require 12 to 16 total hours of sleep a day (including naps).6
## They Rely on You
Whether you rock them or pat their back until they drift off, your baby may not fall asleep because they've become dependent on your presence and help. So, when they wake and you're not there to help them drift off, they may not be able to fall back to sleep on their own.
Don't abandon them entirely. Instead, gradually spend less time in their room each night. As long as they're old enough, you can also use a transitional object, such as a blanket or stuffed animal, to make the process easier. It's important to remember that a baby must be around 1 year old before they sleep with a lovey; before that, anything loose in the crib increases the [risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS)](https://www.parents.com/baby/health/sids/new-ways-to-reduce-the-risk-of-sids/).
For newborns, you can start [swaddling them](https://www.parents.com/best-swaddles-for-newborns-7966632) with the blanket that will eventually become their lovey, says Dr. Tobin. Or, follow your child's lead. If your baby gravitates toward their fuzzy lamb, for example, incorporate it into their bedtime routine until they're old enough to cuddle with it in the crib.
## They're Struggling To Give Up Co-Sleeping
You're finally ready to reclaim your bedroom, but your mini roommate isn't interested in their lonely crib. And the longer [you've co-slept](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/co-sleeping/the-pros-and-cons-of-the-family-bed/), the harder this process will be.
"This takes a while, so make the break gradually," says Dr. Mindell. Here's how to stop co-sleeping with your baby in three simple steps:
1. Have them nap by themselves.
2. Shift the bedtime routine to their own room once they're used to napping alone.
3. Move their crib into your room or put them down in their room, but continue to bring them into your room if they wake up at night.
Keep in mind that the AAP supports room-sharing but not bed-sharing due to the increased risk of infant injury or death in shared sleep spaces.7 If you bring them back to your room, make sure they have a separate safe sleep space, like an age-appropriate crib or [bassinet](https://www.parents.com/how-to-choose-a-bassinet-for-baby-8407089).
If they can't make the final transition to spending the whole night alone, you may choose to let them fuss in their room for a while. Over time and with consistency, they'll learn to soothe themselves.
## They're Still Learning To Self-Soothe (And You're Still Learning To Let Them)
Think about it: Do you fall asleep the minute you get into bed? Probably not. Well, neither does your baby. So when you burst into their room at the slightest whimper, you may distract them from falling asleep or even wake them up.
If listening to your baby fuss is too hard and they are old enough, consider [sleep training](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/teach-your-baby-to-sleep-in-just-7-days/). Begin with small intervals of checking on them and fight the urge to go to them for just a few minutes. The goal is to let them fuss without immediately running to their room, in the hopes that they will soothe themselves back to sleep.
If you don't give your baby a chance to calm themselves, says Dr. Tobin, they won't learn to do it as quickly. Turn down the baby monitor just enough so you hear their cries, but not [all the little noises](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/why-does-my-baby-make-noises-while-he-sleeps/) they naturally make in their sleep.
### Key Takeaways
There are several possible reasons why babies fight sleep, including being overstimulated or overtired, sensitivity to their environment, and reliance on sleep crutches like being rocked or fed to sleep. To help your baby get more sleep, consider adjusting their bedtime routine, avoiding co-sleeping, and adjusting their environment. If you're still struggling to get your infant to go to sleep, consider consulting a pediatric health care provider.
Was this page helpful?
Thanks for your feedback\!
Tell us why\!
Other
Sources
Parents uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read our [editorial process](https://www.parents.com/parents-editorial-guidelines-5270847) to learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.
1. [Youth screen media habits and sleep: Sleep-friendly screen behavior recommendations for clinicians, educators, and parents](https://doi.org/10.1016/j.chc.2017.11.014). *Child Adolesc Psychiatr Clin N Am*. 2018.
2. [Media and young minds](https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.2016-2591). *Pediatrics*. 2016.
3. [Development of the circadian system in early life: maternal and environmental factors](https://doi.org/10.1186/s40101-022-00294-0). *J Physiol Anthropol*. 2022.
4. [The long-term effects of light exposure on establishment of newborn circadian rhythm](https://doi.org/10.5664/jcsm.7426). *J Clin Sleep Med*. 2018.
5. [Uninterrupted infant sleep, development, and maternal mood](https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.2017-4330). *Pediatrics*. 2018.
6. [AAP endorses new recommendations on sleep times](https://publications.aap.org/aapnews/news/6630/AAP-endorses-new-recommendations-on-sleep-times). *American Academy of Pediatrics.* 2016\.
7. [American Academy of Pediatrics updates safe sleep recommendations - Back is best](https://www.aap.org/en/news-room/news-releases/aap/2022/american-academy-of-pediatrics-updates-safe-sleep-recommendations-back-is-best/). *American Academy of Pediatrics*. 2022.
Read more:
- [Parenting](https://www.parents.com/parenting/)
- [Babies & Newborns](https://www.parents.com/baby/)
- [Baby Sleep](https://www.parents.com/baby-sleep-5282298)
## Related Articles
[:max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/GettyImages-670930656-00630aa8bedf4003aaff6490281a91a8.jpg) :max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/GettyImages-670930656-00630aa8bedf4003aaff6490281a91a8.jpg) 9 Tips for Putting Your Baby To Sleep and Helping Them Sleep Better](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/tips/five-ways-to-help-baby-sleep/)
[:max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/PARENTS-baby-sleeping-in-crib-d39449d52f75492d8fd2e10bc0b46d8a.jpg) :max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/PARENTS-baby-sleeping-in-crib-d39449d52f75492d8fd2e10bc0b46d8a.jpg) Baby Sleep Schedule: What to Expect From 4 to 6 Months](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/basics/understanding-baby-sleep-4-6-months/)
[:max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/GettyImages-1279298470-2000-e94fa443dbf24816b3bc96b408541115.jpg) :max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/GettyImages-1279298470-2000-e94fa443dbf24816b3bc96b408541115.jpg) How To Sleep Train Your Baby](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/teach-your-baby-to-sleep-in-just-7-days/)
[:max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/shutterstock_599937758-e8500da5be2a4a6c8290750f1e691ff9.jpg) :max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/shutterstock_599937758-e8500da5be2a4a6c8290750f1e691ff9.jpg) An Age-by-Age Guide to Sleep Training](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/basics/sleep-training/)
[:max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/GettyImages-1024302838-3ee4fda81bdc4254aaee013da2a7d71f.jpg) :max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/GettyImages-1024302838-3ee4fda81bdc4254aaee013da2a7d71f.jpg) The 5 Best Sleep Training Methods (Plus Tips From Parents)](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/basics/sleep-training-methods/)
[:max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/cGettyImages-812478876-2469461c9e20457183f0247a518ec727.jpg) :max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/cGettyImages-812478876-2469461c9e20457183f0247a518ec727.jpg) 9 Tips for Better Sleep for 7- to 12-Month-Olds](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/basics/understanding-baby-sleep-7-12-months/)
[:max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/Parents-GettyImages-1126430140-93312b9ce91647d0be494432635cc6f8.jpg) :max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/Parents-GettyImages-1126430140-93312b9ce91647d0be494432635cc6f8.jpg) ​What Should a Baby Wear While Sleeping? ​](https://www.parents.com/how-to-dress-baby-for-sleep-7561063)
[:max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/Sleep-Training-GettyImages-748342543-2000-43ea5b8b7b824c0e96b0cdfef8103f51.jpg) :max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/Sleep-Training-GettyImages-748342543-2000-43ea5b8b7b824c0e96b0cdfef8103f51.jpg) Sleep Training Nearly Broke Me But Changed My Life for the Better](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/sleep-training-nearly-broke-me-but-changed-my-life/)
[:max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/cGettyImages-625892192-2000-37e1c1d0aec64ceba1299ef2543b3e42.jpg) :max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/cGettyImages-625892192-2000-37e1c1d0aec64ceba1299ef2543b3e42.jpg) Do Babies Dream While They're Sleeping?](https://www.parents.com/baby/development/what-do-babies-dream-about/)
[:max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/sleeping_baby_ferber_method_cry_it_out-3c0f7c2496094bb7a9f9b1511de114df.jpg) :max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/sleeping_baby_ferber_method_cry_it_out-3c0f7c2496094bb7a9f9b1511de114df.jpg) When Do Babies Sleep Through the Night?](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/schedule/when-do-babies-sleep-through-the-night/)
[:max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/Parents-GettyImages-1465950984-fd2596f7032a46c08dbaa351c79227aa.jpg) :max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/Parents-GettyImages-1465950984-fd2596f7032a46c08dbaa351c79227aa.jpg) How to Get Your Baby to Sleep in the Crib](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/3-ways-to-get-baby-to-sleep-in-the-crib/)
[:max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/GettyImages-522789340-2000-f4cc6209e06b41f292364145ea1c1538.jpg) :max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/GettyImages-522789340-2000-f4cc6209e06b41f292364145ea1c1538.jpg) How to Get Your Baby to Nap](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/naps/get-your-baby-to-nap/)
[:max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/GettyImages-522789340-2000-f4cc6209e06b41f292364145ea1c1538.jpg) :max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/GettyImages-522789340-2000-f4cc6209e06b41f292364145ea1c1538.jpg) The Best Baby Sleep Tips Ever](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/tips/the-best-baby-sleep-tips-ever/)
[:max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/JwcnZoNDE6Ncmrwtqh9fXQE-5-xf1-Q-2f5741d18f764fc89d41be14da72cdd2.jpg) :max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/JwcnZoNDE6Ncmrwtqh9fXQE-5-xf1-Q-2f5741d18f764fc89d41be14da72cdd2.jpg) Newborn Sleep: What to Expect Between Birth and 3 Months](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/basics/understanding-baby-sleep-1-3-months/)
[:max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/shutterstock_599937758-e8500da5be2a4a6c8290750f1e691ff9.jpg) :max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/shutterstock_599937758-e8500da5be2a4a6c8290750f1e691ff9.jpg) 5 Things to Avoid When Sleep Training Your Baby](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/how-to-get-your-baby-to-sleep/)
[:max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/gettyimages-184312235-58b91413bdef45bcb53fa6c643c13ae0.jpg) :max_bytes\(150000\):strip_icc\(\)/gettyimages-184312235-58b91413bdef45bcb53fa6c643c13ae0.jpg) 7 Unsafe Sleep Products To Keep Out of the Crib](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/unsafe-sleep-products-to-keep-out-of-the-crib/)
[Parents](https://www.parents.com/)
[Newsletters](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/our-baby-wont-sleep/)
Follow Us
- [Starting a Family](https://www.parents.com/starting-a-family-5282670)
- [Pregnancy](https://www.parents.com/pregnancy-postpartum-5282488)
- [Baby Names](https://www.parents.com/baby-names/)
- [Parenting](https://www.parents.com/parenting/)
- [Life With Kids](https://www.parents.com/lifestyle-5282764)
- [Products & Gear](https://www.parents.com/what-to-buy-7507577)
- [News](https://www.parents.com/news/)
- [About Us](https://www.parents.com/about-us-5271079)
- [Expert Review Board](https://www.parents.com/meet-our-expert-review-board-5270846)
- [Editorial Guidelines](https://www.parents.com/parents-editorial-guidelines-5270847)
- [Product Review Guidelines](https://www.parents.com/parents-product-review-guidelines-5271118)
- [Careers](https://www.people.inc/careers)
- [Privacy Policy](https://www.people.inc/brands-privacy)
- [Contact](https://www.parents.com/about-us-5271079#toc-contact-us)
- [Terms of Service](https://www.people.inc/brands-termsofservice)
- [Advertise](https://www.people.inc/advertising)
Parents is part of the [People Inc.](https://www.people.inc/) publishing family.
Newsletter Sign Up
Newsletter Sign Up
![]() |
| Readable Markdown | There are many reasons behind babies' erratic sleep schedules, and it's not usually because they're not tired. Babies sometimes seemingly fight sleep, resulting in night wakings, napless afternoons, pre-bedtime battles, and ultimately [sleep deprivation](https://www.parents.com/baby/new-parent/sleep-deprivation/how-to-get-sleep/) for everyone in the family.
Read on to discover why babies fight sleep and what you can do to help everyone get a little more shut-eye.
Photo:
Parents / Getty Images
## They're Overstimulated
One reason your baby might fight sleep is that they have [high energy levels](https://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/development/behavioral/your-high-energy-toddler-explained/) and are still excited from their day. Activities like being tossed in the air, watching videos, or playing in the tub can keep them overly stimulated even when it's time to wind down. This makes bedtime feel like they're missing out on more fun and can lead to overtiredness.
When this happens, [Jodi Mindell, PhD](https://directory.sju.edu/jodi-mindell), author of *Sleeping Through the Night*, says it's actually much harder for them to fall asleep. As a result, they may fight sleep or wake up more often during the night.
So, instead of activities that wind them up, try giving your baby's nap and bedtime routines a makeover with more soothing activities. Ditch the tickle-fests and replace them with calming activities like a massage, lullaby, or story.
### Skip the Screens
Screens are stimulating and make it harder to fall asleep. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) and the American Academy of Sleep Medicine (AASM) recommend turning off screens at least 30 minutes before bedtime.1 Better yet, delay introducing screen time entirely until toddlerhood. The AAP advises against all screen use in infants under 18 months.2
## They're Uncomfortable
Your baby could be struggling to sleep because they are uncomfortable with their environment. "Some babies are very sensitive to their external and internal environment," says [Harvey Karp, MD](https://www.happiestbaby.eu/mission-and-founders), creator of *The Happiest Baby on the Block*.
"They may be bothered by the phone ringing, the feeling of a clothing label, or even sensations in their body like food digesting," he adds. Babies can sometimes ignore these sensations during the day when there is activity, but it becomes much harder at night.
Making your baby's environment as soothing as possible is one way to help when your baby won't sleep. If you're not sure what's bothering them, start with the following:
- **Clothing**: Remove pajama tags and check that their clothing fits comfortably.
- **Bedding**: Opt for a soft, breathable fitted sheet on their mattress.
- **Light**: Make their room darker.
- **Temperature**: Check the [room's temperature](https://www.parents.com/room-temperature-for-newborn-8630954) and remove blankets or clothing if it's too warm
On the other hand, your baby may be bothered by an overly quiet room, especially if they're under 4 months old. "Babies were constantly held, rocked, and touched in the uterus, and there was always white noise," says Dr. Karp. "Many babies can't relax because they miss that rhythmic calmness." Try wrapping them in a tight swaddle and playing a white noise machine to help recreate that womblike feeling.
### When Teething Causes Nighttime Awakenings
Your baby's first teeth usually appear around 6 months old, although signs often begin sooner. Teething can cause sleep regression, so if you're baby wakes more often all of a sudden, this may be the cause. If they don't fall back asleep quickly, try to comfort them briefly but avoid temporarily adding overnight feedings.
## They're Not Getting Enough Light During the Day
If your baby doesn't get enough light during the day, it could cause them to fight sleep at night. "Infants who get more exposure to light during the day sleep better," says Dr. Mindell.
The key is exposure to morning light. "It suppresses melatonin—a hormone that regulates the sleep-wake cycle—so that it peaks at the right time," says Dr. Mindell. Your newborn's circadian rhythm (the natural cycle of your body that responds to light and dark) is undeveloped.3
Researchers recommend daytime light exposure and nighttime light avoidance to promote the development of the circadian rhythm in infants.4 Here are strategies that can help you promote your baby's circadian rhythm development:
- Move your baby's high chair or nursing pillow to the sunniest spot in the house and feed them there.
- Take your baby on a morning walk, even on a cloudy day.
- Turn on a bunch of lamps first thing in the morning if you can't get outside in the morning.
- Dim the lights an hour or two before bedtime. "You want your baby to associate light and activity with the day and darkness and inactivity with nighttime," says Dr. Karp.
### The Effects of Travel and Routine Disruptions
Have patience if you've been recently traveling with your baby. Time away from their crib or a temporary shift in bedtime schedule and routine can cause them to fight sleep once they return home.
## They're Hungry (Or Just Used To Eating Before Sleep)
"This is probably the number one reason why babies have trouble falling asleep," says [Cathryn Tobin, MD](https://www.healthiest-baby.com/pages/about-us), author of *The Lull-A-Baby Sleep Plan*.
When you feed your baby immediately before putting them in the crib, they'll associate feeding with sleeping, especially if they regularly fall asleep on your chest or with a bottle. That may not be a problem at 7 p.m., but it can become one when they wake up at 3 a.m. and need to eat to drift off again.
Eventually, your baby will learn to [soothe themselves](https://www.parents.com/baby/all-about-babies/this-mom-found-a-brilliant-pacifier-trick-to-help-her-baby-self-soothe-back-to/) when they wake up at night. But if they aren't getting the hang of it, they may actually be hungry. The following suggestions may help:
- **Move the [pre-bedtime feeding](https://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/sleep/at-what-age-and-how-do-i-break-the-habit-of-giving-a-bottle-at-bedtime/).** Try feeding earlier in the nap or bedtime routine, such as before a diaper change or a lullaby, so you can put them down when they're still awake.
- **Try feeding your baby in a different room.** Feeding in another room or space can help reinforce that their nursery is just for sleeping.
- **Feed them more often before bedtime.** Pack in extra calories by feeding your baby every hour or two in the evening so they're not hungry at night. If bedtime is at 8 p.m., for example, try offering feedings on the hour starting at 5 p.m.
- **Do a "[dream feed](https://www.parents.com/dream-feeding-how-does-it-work-7565109)."** Put your baby down for the night at the usual time, then gently wake them for a sleepy nighttime feeding before you go to sleep.
### What Sleeping Through the Night Really Means
"Sleeping through the night" is defined as sleeping at least six consecutive hours. So, if you put your baby down at 8 p.m. and they wake up at 2 a.m., it's technically considered "through the night." According to a study in *Pediatrics*, 38% of 6-month-olds and 28% of 12-month-olds do not sleep through the night.5
## They're Overtired
Babies who won't sleep at nap time cost you more than some free time during the day. "A child who misses a nap or only takes a short one has a harder time falling asleep and will wake more often during the night," says Dr. Mindell.
"For babies under 12 months, it's typically a timing issue," says Dr. Tobin. "You have to hit that exact moment—the beginning of the yawn, the heavy eyes—or you often miss the opportunity for a nap." At that point, they're overtired and too wired to fall asleep. Watch for your baby's sleepy signs and put them down as soon as you notice them.
It can also help to be consistent. If your bedtime routine is a lullaby and a story, do the same before nap time. If they sleep, great. If they spend an hour cooing, fine—restorative downtime is still better than nothing.
Newborns sleep whenever they feel like it, but by 4 months, babies typically fall into a [nap schedule](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/naps/get-your-baby-to-nap/) consisting of two longer naps a day (one in the morning and another in the afternoon) or three shorter ones.
### How Do I Know How Much Sleep Is Enough?
Unsure if your baby is getting adequate daytime and nighttime sleep? Add up the total hours they sleep in 24 hours. According to the AAP, infants 4 to 12 months require 12 to 16 total hours of sleep a day (including naps).6
## They Rely on You
Whether you rock them or pat their back until they drift off, your baby may not fall asleep because they've become dependent on your presence and help. So, when they wake and you're not there to help them drift off, they may not be able to fall back to sleep on their own.
Don't abandon them entirely. Instead, gradually spend less time in their room each night. As long as they're old enough, you can also use a transitional object, such as a blanket or stuffed animal, to make the process easier. It's important to remember that a baby must be around 1 year old before they sleep with a lovey; before that, anything loose in the crib increases the [risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS)](https://www.parents.com/baby/health/sids/new-ways-to-reduce-the-risk-of-sids/).
For newborns, you can start [swaddling them](https://www.parents.com/best-swaddles-for-newborns-7966632) with the blanket that will eventually become their lovey, says Dr. Tobin. Or, follow your child's lead. If your baby gravitates toward their fuzzy lamb, for example, incorporate it into their bedtime routine until they're old enough to cuddle with it in the crib.
## They're Struggling To Give Up Co-Sleeping
You're finally ready to reclaim your bedroom, but your mini roommate isn't interested in their lonely crib. And the longer [you've co-slept](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/co-sleeping/the-pros-and-cons-of-the-family-bed/), the harder this process will be.
"This takes a while, so make the break gradually," says Dr. Mindell. Here's how to stop co-sleeping with your baby in three simple steps:
1. Have them nap by themselves.
2. Shift the bedtime routine to their own room once they're used to napping alone.
3. Move their crib into your room or put them down in their room, but continue to bring them into your room if they wake up at night.
Keep in mind that the AAP supports room-sharing but not bed-sharing due to the increased risk of infant injury or death in shared sleep spaces.7 If you bring them back to your room, make sure they have a separate safe sleep space, like an age-appropriate crib or [bassinet](https://www.parents.com/how-to-choose-a-bassinet-for-baby-8407089).
If they can't make the final transition to spending the whole night alone, you may choose to let them fuss in their room for a while. Over time and with consistency, they'll learn to soothe themselves.
## They're Still Learning To Self-Soothe (And You're Still Learning To Let Them)
Think about it: Do you fall asleep the minute you get into bed? Probably not. Well, neither does your baby. So when you burst into their room at the slightest whimper, you may distract them from falling asleep or even wake them up.
If listening to your baby fuss is too hard and they are old enough, consider [sleep training](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/teach-your-baby-to-sleep-in-just-7-days/). Begin with small intervals of checking on them and fight the urge to go to them for just a few minutes. The goal is to let them fuss without immediately running to their room, in the hopes that they will soothe themselves back to sleep.
If you don't give your baby a chance to calm themselves, says Dr. Tobin, they won't learn to do it as quickly. Turn down the baby monitor just enough so you hear their cries, but not [all the little noises](https://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/why-does-my-baby-make-noises-while-he-sleeps/) they naturally make in their sleep.
### Key Takeaways
There are several possible reasons why babies fight sleep, including being overstimulated or overtired, sensitivity to their environment, and reliance on sleep crutches like being rocked or fed to sleep. To help your baby get more sleep, consider adjusting their bedtime routine, avoiding co-sleeping, and adjusting their environment. If you're still struggling to get your infant to go to sleep, consider consulting a pediatric health care provider. |
| Shard | 147 (laksa) |
| Root Hash | 11366054843429160947 |
| Unparsed URL | com,parents!www,/baby/sleep/issues/our-baby-wont-sleep/ s443 |