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X This article was reviewed by a subject matter expert to guarantee accuracy and depth. Content is reviewed and updated as needed to ensure it remains current and comprehensive. February 27, 2025 \- 17 MIN READ  **Jump to section** Self-esteem can shift from moment to moment, and day-to-day. Sometimes, your sense of self-worth is high — you may feel like nothing can bring you down. Shortly afterward, your mind may become flooded with negative thoughts. Maybe you start scrolling through social media with ample self-confidence after a great post. You feel good, to begin with, but soon after, you sense it plummet. You can feel this change in your self-esteem several times a day, even within the same hour. Having high self-esteem takes energy every single day. It can be exhausting. And research shows that the constant pursuit of high self-esteem isn't healthy. You can commit to improving your well-being by learning how to improve self-esteem without making it your top priority. ## What is self-esteem? Before you can care for your self-esteem, it helps to define the term. According to Kristin Neff, who writes and talks extensively about her research on self-compassion as an alternative to self-esteem, the way self-esteem can fluctuate is a big part of its problem. So, too, is how it focuses on judgment of ourselves and others. > Self-esteem refers to the degree to which we evaluate ourselves positively. It represents how much we like or value ourselves, and is often based on comparisons with others. > > Dr. Kristin Neff Self-esteem revolves around your opinion of yourself and what you have accomplished. When we’re surrounded by social media and inundated with lifestyle content, our opinion of ourselves can't help but be relative. Self-esteem can take a hit every time you open your newsfeed. Self-esteem can affect how you practice "self-talk." If you assess yourself and find yourself lacking, you may focus on negative thoughts and [self-criticism](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-criticism?hsLang=en). However, the opposite can happen for people too concerned about preserving their self-esteem. They might focus on building themselves up and putting others down to feel better. While [saying positive things](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-talk?hsLang=en) to yourself helps counter [automatic negative thoughts](https://www.betterup.com/blog/automatic-thoughts?hsLang=en), check in on whether that interior voice is constantly comparing, whether favorably or not. If you constantly think you aren't good enough, it can affect your relationships, physical health, and how well you do your job. While the terms are sometimes used interchangeably, there's a difference between self-esteem and confidence. Your self-esteem affects how you see yourself your self-worth, and your value overall. In contrast, your self-confidence dictates how you perceive your own skills and talents. Your self-esteem results from your life experiences, beginning in childhood. [Any trauma](https://www.betterup.com/blog/trauma) you've experienced, dramatic life changes, and your environment impact your self-esteem. Even at a young age, your self-esteem begins to fluctuate and develop. You [build self-confidence](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-build-confidence?hsLang=en) in a specific situation by developing and using your own skills and prior experiences related to the task. Believing in your abilities to complete a task while [doubting your self-worth](https://www.betterup.com/blog/overcoming-self-doubt?hsLang=en) is an example of having high self-confidence but low self-esteem. ## Why is it important to build self-esteem? Building self-esteem is important because it directly impacts how you view and care for yourself, influencing your overall well-being. Low self-esteem can signal underlying issues affecting your mental health, while high self-esteem often reflects [healthy self-care practices](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-care-practices). Taking time to reflect on how you speak to yourself can help you identify areas for improvement, as self-esteem issues can develop gradually. Supporting others who struggle with self-esteem is equally important, as encouragement and understanding can make a meaningful difference in their self-esteem. ## What can lower self-esteem? [Low self-esteem often arises from a combination of factors](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/inside-out-outside-in/202206/low-self-esteem-in-adolescents-what-are-the-root-causes), including negative childhood experiences, bullying, trauma, and societal pressures. Critical environments, mental health issues, physical health challenges, and unhealthy relationships can further contribute to feelings of inadequacy. It's important to note that low self-esteem often results from a combination of these factors rather than a single cause. Understanding these root causes is the first step in addressing and improving self-esteem. Here's a more expansive list of things that can cause your self-esteem to lower: - **Abuse:** Abusive and difficult relationships with your parents, either during childhood or adulthood, can harm your self-esteem. Research has found that [physical and emotional abuse by parents or other adults is a major factor in low self-esteem](https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2019.00698/full#:~:text=High%20educational%20stress%20and%20physical,esteem%20was%20attending%20supplementary%20classes) - **Mindset:** A pessimistic attitude and fixed mindset lower self-esteem because they flood your mind with negative thoughts. You're reminded that you aren't good enough or that nothing positive will happen to you, and your confidence suffers. - **Life events:** While some life events uplift you, others lower your self-esteem. An example is if you're taking a hard course at school and have failed a few assignments. You start criticizing yourself and may build the opinion that your accomplishments are poor. Graduating from school, changing jobs, or moving cities could all affect you personally. - **Social standards:** One survey of college freshmen found that [65% of them said they base their self-worth on their appearance](https://www.apa.org/monitor/dec02/selfesteem). External sources like approval of others and body image cause your self-esteem to lower at any time, and it might be difficult to regain it. - **Goal setting:** Setting goals is great if you know how to set them properly. When you set goals that are unattainable and unrealistic, it makes you think poorly of yourself when you don't achieve them. Even if those goals weren't achievable in the first place, your self-esteem takes a hit. ## What are the effects of low self-esteem? When you have low self-esteem, your mental health can suffer. Frequent negative self-talk can harm your mental health. People with poor self-esteem are very [critical of themselves](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-compassion?hsLang=en) and can hold harsh (and untrue) beliefs about themselves.They have difficulty moving past challenges and [mistakes](https://www.betterup.com/blog/learning-from-your-mistakes?hsLang=en). It may lead to people isolating themselves because they want to protect their self-esteem. They neglect [standing up for themselves](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-stand-up-for-yourself) because they'd rather stay quiet and put space between themselves and their challenges. In reality, self-imposed [social isolation](https://www.betterup.com/blog/social-isolation-symptoms) only hurts them more. It keeps people deep within their comfort zones instead of seeking new opportunities or hobbies. Low self-esteem can also contribute to depression, [anxiety](https://www.betterup.com/blog/anxiety?hsLang=en), and other mental health issues. Negative ways of thinking can halt efforts to build confidence or self-worth, and negative thoughts also hinder efforts to develop a [growth mindset](https://www.betterup.com/blog/fixed-mindset?hsLang=en). ## 12 tactics to improve your self-esteem It's no easy task to build self-esteem, but achieving a healthy level of self-esteem can make a difference to your well-being and confidence. Take a look at these 12 tactics to help bolster your self-esteem. Think about which ones you'd like to start implementing in your daily life. But don't stop there: remember that the best way to achieve healthy self-esteem is to focus less on esteem and more on [practicing self-compassion](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-compassion?hsLang=en) and [improving self-confidence](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-overcome-insecurities?hsLang=en). ### 1\. Write out a list of things you admire about yourself The goal is to change or challenge your negative beliefs about yourself. It can be challenging to sit down and [think about our admirable traits](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-esteem-journal-prompts) — even awkward. But, acknowledging your skills or things you like about yourself can improve your self-talk. Try [keeping a journal of things](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-start-journaling?hsLang=en) you've done that you enjoyed or admired. Gratitude journals also work wonders for improving your outlook on life and recognizing what you have to be thankful for. Don't just write down any [positive affirmation](https://www.betterup.com/blog/positive-affirmations) you come across. Instead, look for relevant affirmations and consider how to [accept yourself](https://www.betterup.com/blog/Self-acceptance?hsLang=en). What is it that you appreciate and admire? Remember these attributes when you notice your mind fills with negative thoughts. Avoid generic mantras and focus on phrases meaningful to you. ### 2\. Stop being a people pleaser People with poor self-esteem can feel obligated to say yes to requests. They often put helping others before their own mental health. This can lead to being [easily overwhelmed or burning out](https://www.betterup.com/blog/why-i-am-easily-overwhelmed), whether that’s at work or in your personal life. That, in turn, causes a lot of stress. It's nice to be helpful and supportive when you can, but your self-esteem eventually suffers when you tie your self-worth to how much you do for others. Learn [how to say no to others](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-say-no?hsLang=en). ### 3\. Step outside your comfort zone Those with low self-esteem tend to avoid challenges and new opportunities. This can be due to fears or self-doubt. But when you succeed in any big or small way, you show yourself that you can persevere through life's rough moments. [Stepping outside your comfort zone](https://www.betterup.com/blog/get-comfortable-being-uncomfortable?hsLang=en) doesn't mean that you have to throw yourself into highly uncomfortable or dangerous situations. It means you're willing to try new things even if you enter difficult situations. ### 4\. Embrace physical exercise Physical activity is a powerful tool for boosting self-esteem. Regular exercise [releases endorphins,](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-release-endorphins) improves body image, and provides a sense of accomplishment. Whether it's a short walk, yoga, or intense training, [moving your body helps you feel stronger and more confident](https://www.betterup.com/blog/exercise-benefits). Set realistic [fitness goals](https://www.betterup.com/blog/fitness-goals) and celebrate each milestone, no matter how small. ### 5\. Stop comparing yourself to others Your progress and self-worth shouldn’t be connected to how well other people are doing. There will nearly always be someone better at something than you, but that doesn’t mean you’re not good at what you do, or good enough. It's not easy to [stop comparing yourself to others](https://www.betterup.com/blog/comparing-yourself-to-others?hsLang=en). But staying away from social media can help this effort. If you do scroll, remind yourself that people only share the best, most flattering parts of their life online. Don't let likes on a photo dictate your self-worth. This cycle of diminishing beliefs can hurt your self-esteem over time. Instead, try establishing a healthy sense of self, independent of others. Practice an occasional [digital detox](https://www.betterup.com/blog/digital-detox) to reduce your exposure. Appreciate your differences compared to others, but remember that you’re not in competition with anyone else’s progress. ### 6\. Forgive yourself for your past thoughts As you work to build your self-esteem and become more confident, consider forgiving yourself for how you treated yourself before. You can't move forward with your progress without accepting that you used to judge yourself (or others) harshly. It's a hard habit to break. Acknowledging this weakness exercises [self-compassion and resilience](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-self-compassion-strengthens-resilience?hsLang=en) by helping you see yourself clearly. You’re building a more solid foundation when you choose to have a healthier relationship with yourself. ### 7\. Set boundaries in your relationships Think about what your boundaries are in your personal and professional life. To have higher self-esteem, you need to understand what your boundaries look like and how they align with your values. Plus, you'll need to think about how you'll respond when people cross them because that'll happen — intentionally or not. [Setting boundaries](https://www.betterup.com/blog/healthy-boundaries-in-relationships) is a way of not letting others control or take advantage of you and practicing assertiveness. Learning how to set boundaries at work may look different than in your personal life. You can mute notifications when the workday ends to maintain your work-life balance, but you can’t avoid your friends when you don’t know how to be firm with them. Be patient, and be honest. ### 8\. Give back through volunteering [Volunteering offers a unique opportunity to build self-esteem](https://www.betterup.com/blog/the-science-behind-doing-good) by connecting with others and making a meaningful difference. When you [contribute to your community](https://www.betterup.com/blog/importance-of-community), you gain a sense of purpose and perspective. Choose causes that resonate with you, whether it's supporting local charities, helping at animal shelters, or mentoring youth. These experiences remind you of your inherent value and capacity to create [positive change](https://www.betterup.com/blog/embrace-change). ### 9\. Practice kindness towards others Doing something nice for someone else can significantly boost your self-esteem. [Small acts of kindness](https://www.betterup.com/blog/12-days-of-kindness-challenge) — like helping a neighbor, sending a thoughtful message, or offering genuine compliments — create a ripple effect of positivity. These actions not only make others feel good but also reinforce your own sense of worth and capability. ### 10\. Celebrate your wins Victories come in all sizes, and you should celebrate them all. Did you practice some positive self-talk today? Did you banish some negative beliefs or face one of your fears? Acknowledge those feelings of confidence and pride, and [embrace them](https://www.betterup.com/blog/reward-yourself). It'll help your self-confidence grow and show you that building self-esteem helps you feel more comfortable with yourself. ### 11\. Let go of negative people It's one thing to let go of negative thoughts, but have you thought about letting negative people go? The people you surround yourself with have a big impact on your mood and level of self-esteem. If people constantly remind you of your flaws, make fun of your mistakes, or fill you with self-doubt, you'll have poor self-esteem. But letting those influences go will allow more positive encouragement and kinder thoughts to help grow your self-esteem. And once you identify someone’s [toxic traits](https://www.betterup.com/blog/toxic-traits), it’s hard to see past them. ### 12\. Be mindful of the quality of positivity Authentic encouragement differs from [toxic positivity](https://www.betterup.com/blog/toxic-positivity). Genuine support doesn’t only feel good. It also acknowledges challenges while maintaining hope and believing in your ability to grow. Seek out voices that offer realistic, [compassionate guidance](https://www.betterup.com/blog/compassion-vs-empathy) rather than unrealistic or dismissive platitudes. ### 13\. Regularly audit your information sources Just as you would [declutter a physical space](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-organize-your-life), periodically review the media, relationships, and content you allow into your mental space. Ask yourself: "Does this source make me feel empowered or diminished?" ## Get support on improving your self-esteem While you’re learning how to improve your self-esteem, you’re likely to experience setbacks. You’ll have days where your poor self-esteem seems overpowering. Be patient with yourself. Progress doesn’t happen overnight and isn’t always linear. Celebrate that small stuff. If you find even just one tactic that makes a difference in your well-being, that’s something to be proud of. At BetterUp, we’re all about finding ways that make you [feel proud of yourself](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-feel-better-about-yourself) and your accomplishments. This helps you feel more motivated to guide your progress forward. Plus, it builds your self-confidence when you encounter any challenges. . For personalized guidance, partner with a [BetterUp Coach](https://www.betterup.com/for-individuals) to help cultivate self-esteem and self-compassion. ### The Human Transformation Platform Process doesn't change your business. People do. Our platform removes the guesswork from developing your people at scale and delivers growth that's proven, predictable, and precise. [See it in action](https://www.betterup.com/platform) ### The Human Transformation Platform Process doesn't change your business. People do. Our platform removes the guesswork from developing your people at scale and delivers growth that's proven, predictable, and precise. [See it in action](https://www.betterup.com/platform) SHARE THIS ARTICLE ## About the author  [Dawid Wiącek](https://www.betterup.com/blog/author/dawid-wiacek) Nicknamed “A Ted Lasso for your career,” Dawid Wiacek is a tough-but-kind executive coach, career coach, and communication coach. Having traveled to 35+ countries, he brings a global perspective to help his clients get out of their own way, conquer doubts and excuses, embed innovation and creativity into their daily work, and bring their best selves forward. Dawid works with executives and emerging leaders to optimize their collaboration, communication, public speaking, leadership and management skills. He has worked successfully across all functions and industries, with a particular affinity for creative, marketing, tech, healthcare, consumer goods, and nonprofit sectors. Offering a consultative approach to coaching, he harnesses the benefits of emotional intelligence but crafts his practice around action-based, forward-thinking momentum. Dawid’s work has been featured on Entrepreneur, MSNBC, FOX Business, AARP, U.S. News & World Report, and more. 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Self-esteem can shift from moment to moment, and day-to-day. Sometimes, your sense of self-worth is high — you may feel like nothing can bring you down. Shortly afterward, your mind may become flooded with negative thoughts. Maybe you start scrolling through social media with ample self-confidence after a great post. You feel good, to begin with, but soon after, you sense it plummet. You can feel this change in your self-esteem several times a day, even within the same hour. Having high self-esteem takes energy every single day. It can be exhausting. And research shows that the constant pursuit of high self-esteem isn't healthy. You can commit to improving your well-being by learning how to improve self-esteem without making it your top priority. What is self-esteem? Before you can care for your self-esteem, it helps to define the term. According to Kristin Neff, who writes and talks extensively about her research on self-compassion as an alternative to self-esteem, the way self-esteem can fluctuate is a big part of its problem. So, too, is how it focuses on judgment of ourselves and others. Self-esteem refers to the degree to which we evaluate ourselves positively. It represents how much we like or value ourselves, and is often based on comparisons with others. Dr. Kristin Neff Self-esteem revolves around your opinion of yourself and what you have accomplished. When we’re surrounded by social media and inundated with lifestyle content, our opinion of ourselves can't help but be relative. Self-esteem can take a hit every time you open your newsfeed. Self-esteem can affect how you practice "self-talk." If you assess yourself and find yourself lacking, you may focus on negative thoughts and [self-criticism](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-criticism?hsLang=en). However, the opposite can happen for people too concerned about preserving their self-esteem. They might focus on building themselves up and putting others down to feel better. While [saying positive things](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-talk?hsLang=en) to yourself helps counter [automatic negative thoughts](https://www.betterup.com/blog/automatic-thoughts?hsLang=en), check in on whether that interior voice is constantly comparing, whether favorably or not. If you constantly think you aren't good enough, it can affect your relationships, physical health, and how well you do your job. While the terms are sometimes used interchangeably, there's a difference between self-esteem and confidence. Your self-esteem affects how you see yourself your self-worth, and your value overall. In contrast, your self-confidence dictates how you perceive your own skills and talents. Your self-esteem results from your life experiences, beginning in childhood. [Any trauma](https://www.betterup.com/blog/trauma) you've experienced, dramatic life changes, and your environment impact your self-esteem. Even at a young age, your self-esteem begins to fluctuate and develop. You [build self-confidence](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-build-confidence?hsLang=en) in a specific situation by developing and using your own skills and prior experiences related to the task. Believing in your abilities to complete a task while [doubting your self-worth](https://www.betterup.com/blog/overcoming-self-doubt?hsLang=en) is an example of having high self-confidence but low self-esteem. Why is it important to build self-esteem? Building self-esteem is important because it directly impacts how you view and care for yourself, influencing your overall well-being. Low self-esteem can signal underlying issues affecting your mental health, while high self-esteem often reflects [healthy self-care practices](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-care-practices). Taking time to reflect on how you speak to yourself can help you identify areas for improvement, as self-esteem issues can develop gradually. Supporting others who struggle with self-esteem is equally important, as encouragement and understanding can make a meaningful difference in their self-esteem. What can lower self-esteem? [Low self-esteem often arises from a combination of factors](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/inside-out-outside-in/202206/low-self-esteem-in-adolescents-what-are-the-root-causes), including negative childhood experiences, bullying, trauma, and societal pressures. Critical environments, mental health issues, physical health challenges, and unhealthy relationships can further contribute to feelings of inadequacy. It's important to note that low self-esteem often results from a combination of these factors rather than a single cause. Understanding these root causes is the first step in addressing and improving self-esteem. Here's a more expansive list of things that can cause your self-esteem to lower: **Abuse:** Abusive and difficult relationships with your parents, either during childhood or adulthood, can harm your self-esteem. Research has found that [physical and emotional abuse by parents or other adults is a major factor in low self-esteem](https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2019.00698/full#:~:text=High%20educational%20stress%20and%20physical,esteem%20was%20attending%20supplementary%20classes) **Mindset:** A pessimistic attitude and fixed mindset lower self-esteem because they flood your mind with negative thoughts. You're reminded that you aren't good enough or that nothing positive will happen to you, and your confidence suffers. **Life events:** While some life events uplift you, others lower your self-esteem. An example is if you're taking a hard course at school and have failed a few assignments. You start criticizing yourself and may build the opinion that your accomplishments are poor. Graduating from school, changing jobs, or moving cities could all affect you personally. **Social standards:** One survey of college freshmen found that [65% of them said they base their self-worth on their appearance](https://www.apa.org/monitor/dec02/selfesteem). External sources like approval of others and body image cause your self-esteem to lower at any time, and it might be difficult to regain it. **Goal setting:** Setting goals is great if you know how to set them properly. When you set goals that are unattainable and unrealistic, it makes you think poorly of yourself when you don't achieve them. Even if those goals weren't achievable in the first place, your self-esteem takes a hit. What are the effects of low self-esteem? When you have low self-esteem, your mental health can suffer. Frequent negative self-talk can harm your mental health. People with poor self-esteem are very [critical of themselves](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-compassion?hsLang=en) and can hold harsh (and untrue) beliefs about themselves.They have difficulty moving past challenges and [mistakes](https://www.betterup.com/blog/learning-from-your-mistakes?hsLang=en). It may lead to people isolating themselves because they want to protect their self-esteem. They neglect [standing up for themselves](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-stand-up-for-yourself) because they'd rather stay quiet and put space between themselves and their challenges. In reality, self-imposed [social isolation](https://www.betterup.com/blog/social-isolation-symptoms) only hurts them more. It keeps people deep within their comfort zones instead of seeking new opportunities or hobbies. Low self-esteem can also contribute to depression, [anxiety](https://www.betterup.com/blog/anxiety?hsLang=en), and other mental health issues. Negative ways of thinking can halt efforts to build confidence or self-worth, and negative thoughts also hinder efforts to develop a [growth mindset](https://www.betterup.com/blog/fixed-mindset?hsLang=en). 12 tactics to improve your self-esteem It's no easy task to build self-esteem, but achieving a healthy level of self-esteem can make a difference to your well-being and confidence. Take a look at these 12 tactics to help bolster your self-esteem. Think about which ones you'd like to start implementing in your daily life. But don't stop there: remember that the best way to achieve healthy self-esteem is to focus less on esteem and more on [practicing self-compassion](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-compassion?hsLang=en) and [improving self-confidence](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-overcome-insecurities?hsLang=en). 1\. Write out a list of things you admire about yourself The goal is to change or challenge your negative beliefs about yourself. It can be challenging to sit down and [think about our admirable traits](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-esteem-journal-prompts) — even awkward. But, acknowledging your skills or things you like about yourself can improve your self-talk. Try [keeping a journal of things](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-start-journaling?hsLang=en) you've done that you enjoyed or admired. Gratitude journals also work wonders for improving your outlook on life and recognizing what you have to be thankful for. Don't just write down any [positive affirmation](https://www.betterup.com/blog/positive-affirmations) you come across. Instead, look for relevant affirmations and consider how to [accept yourself](https://www.betterup.com/blog/Self-acceptance?hsLang=en). What is it that you appreciate and admire? Remember these attributes when you notice your mind fills with negative thoughts. Avoid generic mantras and focus on phrases meaningful to you. 2\. Stop being a people pleaser People with poor self-esteem can feel obligated to say yes to requests. They often put helping others before their own mental health. This can lead to being [easily overwhelmed or burning out](https://www.betterup.com/blog/why-i-am-easily-overwhelmed), whether that’s at work or in your personal life. That, in turn, causes a lot of stress. It's nice to be helpful and supportive when you can, but your self-esteem eventually suffers when you tie your self-worth to how much you do for others. Learn [how to say no to others](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-say-no?hsLang=en). 3\. Step outside your comfort zone Those with low self-esteem tend to avoid challenges and new opportunities. This can be due to fears or self-doubt. But when you succeed in any big or small way, you show yourself that you can persevere through life's rough moments. [Stepping outside your comfort zone](https://www.betterup.com/blog/get-comfortable-being-uncomfortable?hsLang=en) doesn't mean that you have to throw yourself into highly uncomfortable or dangerous situations. It means you're willing to try new things even if you enter difficult situations. 4\. Embrace physical exercise Physical activity is a powerful tool for boosting self-esteem. Regular exercise [releases endorphins,](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-release-endorphins) improves body image, and provides a sense of accomplishment. Whether it's a short walk, yoga, or intense training, [moving your body helps you feel stronger and more confident](https://www.betterup.com/blog/exercise-benefits). Set realistic [fitness goals](https://www.betterup.com/blog/fitness-goals) and celebrate each milestone, no matter how small. 5\. Stop comparing yourself to others Your progress and self-worth shouldn’t be connected to how well other people are doing. There will nearly always be someone better at something than you, but that doesn’t mean you’re not good at what you do, or good enough. It's not easy to [stop comparing yourself to others](https://www.betterup.com/blog/comparing-yourself-to-others?hsLang=en). But staying away from social media can help this effort. If you do scroll, remind yourself that people only share the best, most flattering parts of their life online. Don't let likes on a photo dictate your self-worth. This cycle of diminishing beliefs can hurt your self-esteem over time. Instead, try establishing a healthy sense of self, independent of others. Practice an occasional [digital detox](https://www.betterup.com/blog/digital-detox) to reduce your exposure. Appreciate your differences compared to others, but remember that you’re not in competition with anyone else’s progress. 6\. Forgive yourself for your past thoughts As you work to build your self-esteem and become more confident, consider forgiving yourself for how you treated yourself before. You can't move forward with your progress without accepting that you used to judge yourself (or others) harshly. It's a hard habit to break. Acknowledging this weakness exercises [self-compassion and resilience](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-self-compassion-strengthens-resilience?hsLang=en) by helping you see yourself clearly. You’re building a more solid foundation when you choose to have a healthier relationship with yourself. 7\. Set boundaries in your relationships Think about what your boundaries are in your personal and professional life. To have higher self-esteem, you need to understand what your boundaries look like and how they align with your values. Plus, you'll need to think about how you'll respond when people cross them because that'll happen — intentionally or not. [Setting boundaries](https://www.betterup.com/blog/healthy-boundaries-in-relationships) is a way of not letting others control or take advantage of you and practicing assertiveness. Learning how to set boundaries at work may look different than in your personal life. You can mute notifications when the workday ends to maintain your work-life balance, but you can’t avoid your friends when you don’t know how to be firm with them. Be patient, and be honest. 8\. Give back through volunteering [Volunteering offers a unique opportunity to build self-esteem](https://www.betterup.com/blog/the-science-behind-doing-good) by connecting with others and making a meaningful difference. When you [contribute to your community](https://www.betterup.com/blog/importance-of-community), you gain a sense of purpose and perspective. Choose causes that resonate with you, whether it's supporting local charities, helping at animal shelters, or mentoring youth. These experiences remind you of your inherent value and capacity to create [positive change](https://www.betterup.com/blog/embrace-change). 9\. Practice kindness towards others Doing something nice for someone else can significantly boost your self-esteem. [Small acts of kindness](https://www.betterup.com/blog/12-days-of-kindness-challenge) — like helping a neighbor, sending a thoughtful message, or offering genuine compliments — create a ripple effect of positivity. These actions not only make others feel good but also reinforce your own sense of worth and capability. 10\. Celebrate your wins Victories come in all sizes, and you should celebrate them all. Did you practice some positive self-talk today? Did you banish some negative beliefs or face one of your fears? Acknowledge those feelings of confidence and pride, and [embrace them](https://www.betterup.com/blog/reward-yourself). It'll help your self-confidence grow and show you that building self-esteem helps you feel more comfortable with yourself. 11\. Let go of negative people It's one thing to let go of negative thoughts, but have you thought about letting negative people go? The people you surround yourself with have a big impact on your mood and level of self-esteem. If people constantly remind you of your flaws, make fun of your mistakes, or fill you with self-doubt, you'll have poor self-esteem. But letting those influences go will allow more positive encouragement and kinder thoughts to help grow your self-esteem. And once you identify someone’s [toxic traits](https://www.betterup.com/blog/toxic-traits), it’s hard to see past them. 12\. Be mindful of the quality of positivity Authentic encouragement differs from [toxic positivity](https://www.betterup.com/blog/toxic-positivity). Genuine support doesn’t only feel good. It also acknowledges challenges while maintaining hope and believing in your ability to grow. Seek out voices that offer realistic, [compassionate guidance](https://www.betterup.com/blog/compassion-vs-empathy) rather than unrealistic or dismissive platitudes. 13\. Regularly audit your information sources Just as you would [declutter a physical space](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-organize-your-life), periodically review the media, relationships, and content you allow into your mental space. Ask yourself: "Does this source make me feel empowered or diminished?" Get support on improving your self-esteem While you’re learning how to improve your self-esteem, you’re likely to experience setbacks. You’ll have days where your poor self-esteem seems overpowering. Be patient with yourself. Progress doesn’t happen overnight and isn’t always linear. Celebrate that small stuff. If you find even just one tactic that makes a difference in your well-being, that’s something to be proud of. At BetterUp, we’re all about finding ways that make you [feel proud of yourself](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-feel-better-about-yourself) and your accomplishments. This helps you feel more motivated to guide your progress forward. Plus, it builds your self-confidence when you encounter any challenges. . For personalized guidance, partner with a [BetterUp Coach](https://www.betterup.com/for-individuals) to help cultivate self-esteem and self-compassion. Process doesn't change your business. People do. Our platform removes the guesswork from developing your people at scale and delivers growth that's proven, predictable, and precise. Process doesn't change your business. People do. Our platform removes the guesswork from developing your people at scale and delivers growth that's proven, predictable, and precise.