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She uses strategic engagement strategies to cultivate a learning community across a global network of Coaches through in-person and virtual experiences, technology-enabled platforms, and strategic coaching industry partnerships. With over 3 years of coaching experience and a certification in transformative leadership and life coaching from Sofia University, Elizabeth leverages transpersonal psychology expertise to help coaches and clients gain awareness of their behavioral and thought patterns, discover their purpose and passions, and elevate their potential. She is a lifelong student of psychology, personal growth, and human potential as well as an ICF-certified ACC transpersonal life and leadership Coach. March 14, 2023 \- 13 MIN READ  **Jump to section** Self-confidence is easy to spot but hard to develop. Everyone wants to be self-confident. But many don't know how to start building it. It takes effort and a willingness to [move outside your comfort zone](https://www.betterup.com/blog/get-comfortable-being-uncomfortable?hsLang=en) to gain confidence. You build it piece by piece, starting with noticing what you already have and appreciating your wins, no matter how small. It doesn’t happen overnight. You may not realize it, but people want to see you succeed. And more than ever, there are resources to help you become the most authentically confident version of yourself. We’ll discuss what self-confidence is, how to build confidence, and tips for improving your self-improvement journey. ## What is self-confidence, anyway? Confidence is hard to define, but [self-confidence generally refers to a sense of comfort](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-feel-better-about-yourself) with yourself and your instincts and a belief that you can trust your own abilities, knowledge, and judgment. Confident people welcome new challenges because they know that they are reasonably up to the challenge. And their self-worth doesn’t hinge on the outcome. They'll try their best and are motivated to pursue their goals without overthinking or internalizing too much. They approach things in life without uncertainty and nerves. Rather than being judgmental or hostile toward other people's success, confident people celebrate others and feel genuine happiness for them rather than envy or comparison. They are inspired to learn what they can about how others succeed. They don’t rationalize others’ successes or their own failures. They may not be positive all the time, but they do [keep a growth mindset](https://www.betterup.com/blog/growth-mindset?hsLang=en). When they make a mistake, they usually can see the humor and are more likely to respond with laughter and easily [overcome insecurity](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-overcome-insecurities) or shame. People can be confident in specific areas of their lives, too. Some are more confident in their athletic abilities than their cooking expertise. Others could be confronted with a lack of confidence in certain academic subjects. The areas where people feel self-confident often represent what they’re most [passionate about in life](https://www.betterup.com/blog/benefits-of-coaching?hsLang=en). ## What are the benefits of developing self-confidence? Building self-confidence promotes personal growth that positively influences both your professional and personal life. Here are four benefits that self-confidence can bring: ### Healthier relationships Self-confidence is infectious. It makes those around you feel more confident and comfortable when communicating with you. Self-confidence is about appreciating and trusting yourself. When you know and accept your strengths and weaknesses, you can better appreciate and support the people around you. While confidence is great for loving others, it also helps you show love to yourself. Your confidence could encourage you to [leave a toxic relationship](https://www.betterup.com/blog/red-flags-in-a-relationship) that hurts your [well-being](https://www.betterup.com/blog/health-and-well-being) or to take up a new hobby that’s just for you. In the end, you're improving your wellness and [practicing self-care](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-care-practices?hsLang=en).  ### More professional success With any job or task you must tackle, your self-confidence will hype you up for the big moments. Self-confidence flexes your [sense of self-efficacy](https://www.betterup.com/blog/building-resilience-part-6-what-is-self-efficacy), which is the mark of both a good leader and a worker. Self-efficacy [impacts your choices, perseverance during unexpected challenges, and trust in your knowledge and intuition](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8535319/). You won't waste time going back and forth worrying over your abilities or what others think of you. Your self-confidence will project strength to those around you, who may perceive the ease with which you perform. ### Easier transitions Life is full of new beginnings, and they aren’t as daunting when you're confident in yourself. You can better believe in your abilities when testing your limits and trying new things, which will help you [discover new things about yourself](https://www.betterup.com/blog/what-is-self-discovery). Confident people also make life decisions more easily. Their confidence spills over into their [decision-making process](https://www.betterup.com/blog/decision-making-process-in-management), making new adventures exciting, not scary. ### Greater resilience Even confident people can't avoid mistakes or failure. It's part of life, and no matter how much your confidence encourages you, you aren't immune. Instead, your self-confidence will help you accept responsibility and understand that you're constantly learning throughout life, an essential part of [self-improvement](https://www.betterup.com/blog/goals-for-self-improvement). Self-confidence doesn’t come from one action and persists despite the bad moments. After acknowledging that you make mistakes, your self-confidence will help you bounce back faster. You’ll know you've done your best and can view it as a learning opportunity. ###  ## 3 downsides of excessive self-confidence As the adage goes, “Everything in moderation.” An excessive level of confidence could create the following problems: ### Missed opportunities You may turn down projects that could build connections with colleagues, co-workers, or managers because the work seems too simple or beneath your skill level. You might miss out on skill-enhancing opportunities because you don’t want to admit you also have room to grow. ### Burnout You may feel so self-assured in your ability to take on numerous tasks that you spread yourself too thin and make a habit of [overworking](https://www.betterup.com/blog/overworked-symptoms). When you overload your schedule, you’ll likely interrupt your workflow, [burn yourself out](https://www.betterup.com/blog/signs-of-burnout-at-work), or deplete the quality of your finished work, which could cause problems at work. ### Relationship issues You may lack self-awareness and the [emotional intelligence](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-improve-emotional-intelligence) to read cues from those around you, like [body language](https://www.betterup.com/blog/types-of-nonverbal-communication) or verbal cues, making you appear arrogant or conceited. Too much self-confidence could distract you from appreciating the value of your partner or colleagues. ## Are self-confidence and self-esteem the same? We often use self-confidence and self-esteem interchangeably because they’re closely related. Self-confidence is most genuine and durable when it derives from healthy self-esteem. While they share similarities, there are distinct differences between the two. Self-confidence is outward-facing. It's what you put out to the world and what people around you see. Self-esteem is inward-facing and only sometimes noticeable from the outside. Your confidence can come from knowledge and experience, whereas self-esteem is more about knowing yourself and valuing your self-worth. Low self-esteem or low self-confidence can cause self-doubt and unhealthy self-talk and negatively impact your mental health, [well-being](https://www.betterup.com/blog/health-and-well-being), and performance. Our increasingly virtual world also affects our self-esteem. The image you present to the world online demonstrates your self-confidence, whereas the way you feel about yourself inwardly is a more accurate reflection of your self-esteem. When the image and the reality don’t align, [this can adversely affect both self-confidence and self-esteem](https://deliverypdf.ssrn.com/delivery.php?ID=776114008100075122085093001099125014038018014015006038127117109011069091076119012007106099010022103035124021029124009104081029126008014016039098081009115116101109123041011057120102126096076115005026067127094122082070106006127006103097121075074119117069&EXT=pdf&INDEX=TRUE), especially when comparing yourself to what others post on social media. Often, people tend to rely on their self-confidence for happiness in life. Instead of working on their self-esteem, which is about knowing and loving yourself, strengths and weaknesses, and developing an internal sense of worth, people work on their projected image and how others perceive them. This focus on projected confidence in order to seem successful can backfire without also developing self-esteem. People may not realize you have low self-esteem, but eventually, those you connect with will see through your self-confidence. It’s crucial to note that self-confidence won’t endure without healthy self-esteem. It’ll be shaken when you find yourself in unfamiliar terrain. But with both, you’ll thrive. When your self-esteem is steady and your well-being is good, your self-confidence shines brighter. If you love and value yourself, you’ll embrace your strengths and weaknesses in any situation, and your self-esteem will motivate you to be a more confident person. ## How to build confidence Everyone can learn how to be more confident in different, powerful ways. What may work for some may not work for all, and that's okay. Remember that you can always start small with little steps before taking bold strides. Here are eleven ways to help build self-confidence: 1. Stop comparing yourself to others 2. Celebrate and reflect on your wins 3. Embrace your failures and view them as learning opportunities 4. Step out of your comfort zone 5. Treat yourself with respect 6. Have [positive self-talk](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-talk) or affirmation sessions 7. Track your progress 8. Pursue passions that make you happy 9. Allow yourself to be curious 10. Think about your big goals 11. [Stand up](https://www.betterup.com/blog/speaking-up-for-yourself) for yourself 12. Read books, follow people on social media, or listen to podcasts that encourage self-confidence ## What are some tips to be more confident? Building your confidence takes time and involves plenty of ups and downs. As you put in the work toward being confident, here are a few tips to keep in mind: ### Be proud of yourself Hard work deserves to be recognized. Maybe one of the ways that you're becoming more confident is by [making more eye contact with people](https://www.betterup.com/blog/why-is-eye-contact-important). You should also celebrate your smallest victories, however you'd like. If a big bowl of ice cream will do that for you, go for it. As you track your progress, make sure to think back to where you started. Think about how that version of you would be proud of where you are today.  ### Don't be afraid to open up It can be scary to be vulnerable with new people and within your surroundings. But as you're learning new things and stepping outside of your [comfort zone](https://www.betterup.com/blog/comfort-zone), don't be afraid to let yourself open up. Be present with where you are and what you're doing. As you grow, you can acknowledge your fear and worries, but don't let that prevent you from exposing yourself to new things. ### Be specific You have to hone in on yourself to figure out what aspects you want to be more confident in. Where do you lack confidence? Where are you super confident? Identifying these aspects will help you be specific with your goals. Once you have a plan, you [won't feel as overwhelmed](https://www.betterup.com/blog/why-i-am-easily-overwhelmed). Discover what would give you confidence and start making purposeful actions towards obtaining it. ## Go forth with confidence Even though self-confidence comes from within, your community can help you build it. Reach out to friends and family for words of affirmation and encouragement to boost your self-esteem. You can also ask someone you trust to act as an accountability partner. They’ll point out when you’re being self-defeating and check in on your progress regarding confidence-oriented goals. And when you start meeting those goals, you’ll better understand how to build the confidence you need to be a better version of yourself. ### The Human Transformation Platform Process doesn't change your business. People do. Our platform removes the guesswork from developing your people at scale and delivers growth that's proven, predictable, and precise. [See it in action](https://www.betterup.com/platform) ### The Human Transformation Platform Process doesn't change your business. People do. Our platform removes the guesswork from developing your people at scale and delivers growth that's proven, predictable, and precise. [See it in action](https://www.betterup.com/platform) SHARE THIS ARTICLE ## About the author  [Elizabeth Perry, ACC](https://www.betterup.com/blog/author/elizabeth-perry) Elizabeth Perry is a Coach Community Manager at BetterUp. She uses strategic engagement strategies to cultivate a learning community across a global network of Coaches through in-person and virtual experiences, technology-enabled platforms, and strategic coaching industry partnerships. With over 3 years of coaching experience and a certification in transformative leadership and life coaching from Sofia University, Elizabeth leverages transpersonal psychology expertise to help coaches and clients gain awareness of their behavioral and thought patterns, discover their purpose and passions, and elevate their potential. She is a lifelong student of psychology, personal growth, and human potential as well as an ICF-certified ACC transpersonal life and leadership Coach. ##### Related Articles [Explore topic](https://www.betterup.com/blog/tag/well-being) [ How to believe in yourself: 6 ways to build confidence](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-believe-yourself) [ The subtle, but important, difference between confidence and arrogance](https://www.betterup.com/blog/confidence-vs-arrogance) [ How to feel better about yourself and improve your self-esteem](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-feel-better-about-yourself) [ Main character syndrome explained: is it good or bad?](https://www.betterup.com/blog/main-character-syndrome) [ Tune in to the self discovery channel with 10 tips for finding yourself](https://www.betterup.com/blog/what-is-self-discovery) [ What self-love truly means and ways to cultivate it](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-love) [ 7 Tips on how to deal with rejection](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-deal-with-rejection) [ How to stop being self-conscious: Strategies to feel more confident](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-stop-being-self-conscious) [ Become confident at work thanks to 9 proven tips and strategies](https://www.betterup.com/blog/confident-at-work) [How to ask for time off in 7 steps](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-ask-for-time-off) [Stop being insecure: how to overcome insecurities and thrive](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-overcome-insecurities) [Life skills for adults: 5 types to help you settle into adulthood](https://www.betterup.com/blog/life-skills-for-adults) [Stop feeling so anxious about your new job with these 12 tips](https://www.betterup.com/blog/new-job-anxiety) [Fake it till you make it: How to use what you don’t know to grow](https://www.betterup.com/blog/fake-it-till-you-make-it) [33 Self-Esteem Journal Prompts for Confidence & Self-Compassion](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-esteem-journal-prompts) [6 networking tips to help you make a lasting impression](https://www.betterup.com/blog/networking-tips) [Building resilience part 6: what is self-efficacy?](https://www.betterup.com/blog/building-resilience-part-6-what-is-self-efficacy) [Power poses: How to feel more confident with body language](https://www.betterup.com/blog/power-poses) ## Take BetterUp for a spin to see how it can supercharge your organization's performance. 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Self-confidence is easy to spot but hard to develop. Everyone wants to be self-confident. But many don't know how to start building it. It takes effort and a willingness to [move outside your comfort zone](https://www.betterup.com/blog/get-comfortable-being-uncomfortable?hsLang=en) to gain confidence. You build it piece by piece, starting with noticing what you already have and appreciating your wins, no matter how small. It doesn’t happen overnight. You may not realize it, but people want to see you succeed. And more than ever, there are resources to help you become the most authentically confident version of yourself. We’ll discuss what self-confidence is, how to build confidence, and tips for improving your self-improvement journey. What is self-confidence, anyway? Confidence is hard to define, but [self-confidence generally refers to a sense of comfort](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-feel-better-about-yourself) with yourself and your instincts and a belief that you can trust your own abilities, knowledge, and judgment. Confident people welcome new challenges because they know that they are reasonably up to the challenge. And their self-worth doesn’t hinge on the outcome. They'll try their best and are motivated to pursue their goals without overthinking or internalizing too much. They approach things in life without uncertainty and nerves. Rather than being judgmental or hostile toward other people's success, confident people celebrate others and feel genuine happiness for them rather than envy or comparison. They are inspired to learn what they can about how others succeed. They don’t rationalize others’ successes or their own failures. They may not be positive all the time, but they do [keep a growth mindset](https://www.betterup.com/blog/growth-mindset?hsLang=en). When they make a mistake, they usually can see the humor and are more likely to respond with laughter and easily [overcome insecurity](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-overcome-insecurities) or shame. People can be confident in specific areas of their lives, too. Some are more confident in their athletic abilities than their cooking expertise. Others could be confronted with a lack of confidence in certain academic subjects. The areas where people feel self-confident often represent what they’re most [passionate about in life](https://www.betterup.com/blog/benefits-of-coaching?hsLang=en). What are the benefits of developing self-confidence? Building self-confidence promotes personal growth that positively influences both your professional and personal life. Here are four benefits that self-confidence can bring: Healthier relationships Self-confidence is infectious. It makes those around you feel more confident and comfortable when communicating with you. Self-confidence is about appreciating and trusting yourself. When you know and accept your strengths and weaknesses, you can better appreciate and support the people around you. While confidence is great for loving others, it also helps you show love to yourself. Your confidence could encourage you to [leave a toxic relationship](https://www.betterup.com/blog/red-flags-in-a-relationship) that hurts your [well-being](https://www.betterup.com/blog/health-and-well-being) or to take up a new hobby that’s just for you. In the end, you're improving your wellness and [practicing self-care](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-care-practices?hsLang=en).  More professional success With any job or task you must tackle, your self-confidence will hype you up for the big moments. Self-confidence flexes your [sense of self-efficacy](https://www.betterup.com/blog/building-resilience-part-6-what-is-self-efficacy), which is the mark of both a good leader and a worker. Self-efficacy [impacts your choices, perseverance during unexpected challenges, and trust in your knowledge and intuition](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8535319/). You won't waste time going back and forth worrying over your abilities or what others think of you. Your self-confidence will project strength to those around you, who may perceive the ease with which you perform. Easier transitions Life is full of new beginnings, and they aren’t as daunting when you're confident in yourself. You can better believe in your abilities when testing your limits and trying new things, which will help you [discover new things about yourself](https://www.betterup.com/blog/what-is-self-discovery). Confident people also make life decisions more easily. Their confidence spills over into their [decision-making process](https://www.betterup.com/blog/decision-making-process-in-management), making new adventures exciting, not scary. Greater resilience Even confident people can't avoid mistakes or failure. It's part of life, and no matter how much your confidence encourages you, you aren't immune. Instead, your self-confidence will help you accept responsibility and understand that you're constantly learning throughout life, an essential part of [self-improvement](https://www.betterup.com/blog/goals-for-self-improvement). Self-confidence doesn’t come from one action and persists despite the bad moments. After acknowledging that you make mistakes, your self-confidence will help you bounce back faster. You’ll know you've done your best and can view it as a learning opportunity.  3 downsides of excessive self-confidence As the adage goes, “Everything in moderation.” An excessive level of confidence could create the following problems: Missed opportunities You may turn down projects that could build connections with colleagues, co-workers, or managers because the work seems too simple or beneath your skill level. You might miss out on skill-enhancing opportunities because you don’t want to admit you also have room to grow. Burnout You may feel so self-assured in your ability to take on numerous tasks that you spread yourself too thin and make a habit of [overworking](https://www.betterup.com/blog/overworked-symptoms). When you overload your schedule, you’ll likely interrupt your workflow, [burn yourself out](https://www.betterup.com/blog/signs-of-burnout-at-work), or deplete the quality of your finished work, which could cause problems at work. Relationship issues You may lack self-awareness and the [emotional intelligence](https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-improve-emotional-intelligence) to read cues from those around you, like [body language](https://www.betterup.com/blog/types-of-nonverbal-communication) or verbal cues, making you appear arrogant or conceited. Too much self-confidence could distract you from appreciating the value of your partner or colleagues. Are self-confidence and self-esteem the same? We often use self-confidence and self-esteem interchangeably because they’re closely related. Self-confidence is most genuine and durable when it derives from healthy self-esteem. While they share similarities, there are distinct differences between the two. Self-confidence is outward-facing. It's what you put out to the world and what people around you see. Self-esteem is inward-facing and only sometimes noticeable from the outside. Your confidence can come from knowledge and experience, whereas self-esteem is more about knowing yourself and valuing your self-worth. Low self-esteem or low self-confidence can cause self-doubt and unhealthy self-talk and negatively impact your mental health, [well-being](https://www.betterup.com/blog/health-and-well-being), and performance. Our increasingly virtual world also affects our self-esteem. The image you present to the world online demonstrates your self-confidence, whereas the way you feel about yourself inwardly is a more accurate reflection of your self-esteem. When the image and the reality don’t align, [this can adversely affect both self-confidence and self-esteem](https://deliverypdf.ssrn.com/delivery.php?ID=776114008100075122085093001099125014038018014015006038127117109011069091076119012007106099010022103035124021029124009104081029126008014016039098081009115116101109123041011057120102126096076115005026067127094122082070106006127006103097121075074119117069&EXT=pdf&INDEX=TRUE), especially when comparing yourself to what others post on social media. Often, people tend to rely on their self-confidence for happiness in life. Instead of working on their self-esteem, which is about knowing and loving yourself, strengths and weaknesses, and developing an internal sense of worth, people work on their projected image and how others perceive them. This focus on projected confidence in order to seem successful can backfire without also developing self-esteem. People may not realize you have low self-esteem, but eventually, those you connect with will see through your self-confidence. It’s crucial to note that self-confidence won’t endure without healthy self-esteem. It’ll be shaken when you find yourself in unfamiliar terrain. But with both, you’ll thrive. When your self-esteem is steady and your well-being is good, your self-confidence shines brighter. If you love and value yourself, you’ll embrace your strengths and weaknesses in any situation, and your self-esteem will motivate you to be a more confident person. Everyone can learn how to be more confident in different, powerful ways. What may work for some may not work for all, and that's okay. Remember that you can always start small with little steps before taking bold strides. Here are eleven ways to help build self-confidence: Stop comparing yourself to others Celebrate and reflect on your wins Embrace your failures and view them as learning opportunities Step out of your comfort zone Treat yourself with respect Have [positive self-talk](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-talk) or affirmation sessions Track your progress Pursue passions that make you happy Allow yourself to be curious Think about your big goals [Stand up](https://www.betterup.com/blog/speaking-up-for-yourself) for yourself Read books, follow people on social media, or listen to podcasts that encourage self-confidence What are some tips to be more confident? Building your confidence takes time and involves plenty of ups and downs. As you put in the work toward being confident, here are a few tips to keep in mind: Be proud of yourself Hard work deserves to be recognized. Maybe one of the ways that you're becoming more confident is by [making more eye contact with people](https://www.betterup.com/blog/why-is-eye-contact-important). You should also celebrate your smallest victories, however you'd like. If a big bowl of ice cream will do that for you, go for it. As you track your progress, make sure to think back to where you started. Think about how that version of you would be proud of where you are today.  Don't be afraid to open up It can be scary to be vulnerable with new people and within your surroundings. But as you're learning new things and stepping outside of your [comfort zone](https://www.betterup.com/blog/comfort-zone), don't be afraid to let yourself open up. Be present with where you are and what you're doing. As you grow, you can acknowledge your fear and worries, but don't let that prevent you from exposing yourself to new things. Be specific You have to hone in on yourself to figure out what aspects you want to be more confident in. Where do you lack confidence? Where are you super confident? Identifying these aspects will help you be specific with your goals. Once you have a plan, you [won't feel as overwhelmed](https://www.betterup.com/blog/why-i-am-easily-overwhelmed). Discover what would give you confidence and start making purposeful actions towards obtaining it. Go forth with confidence Even though self-confidence comes from within, your community can help you build it. Reach out to friends and family for words of affirmation and encouragement to boost your self-esteem. You can also ask someone you trust to act as an accountability partner. They’ll point out when you’re being self-defeating and check in on your progress regarding confidence-oriented goals. And when you start meeting those goals, you’ll better understand how to build the confidence you need to be a better version of yourself. Process doesn't change your business. People do. 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