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curl -X POST \
  'http://laksa005.int.ahrefs:8124/' \
  -H 'Content-Type: text/plain' \
  -H 'X-ClickHouse-Database: crawler3' \
  -H 'Authorization: Basic YXBpOg==' \
  -d 'SELECT getAhrefsURLFromUnparsed(src_unparsed) AS found_url, ifNull(toUnixTimestamp(download_stamp), 0) AS crawl_time, ifNull(toUnixTimestamp(props_url_first_seen), 0) AS first_indexed_time, download_http_code AS http_code, src_unparsed AS src_unparsed, src_root_hash AS src_root_hash, history_drop_reason AS history_drop_reason, meta_title AS meta_title, meta_descriptions AS meta_descriptions, attrs_boilerpipe_text AS attrs_boilerpipe_text, attrs_markdown AS attrs_markdown, attrs_readable_markdown AS attrs_readable_markdown, meta_canonical AS meta_canonical FROM crawler3.page_info_local FINAL PREWHERE (src_root_hash, src_unparsed) IN ((getAhrefsRootHashFromUnparsed(getAhrefsUnparsedNoserviceFromURL(\'https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_your_purpose_in_life\')), getAhrefsUnparsedNoserviceFromURL(\'https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_your_purpose_in_life\'))) FORMAT JSONEachRow'

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{"found_url":"https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/how_to_find_your_purpose_in_life","crawl_time":1775158426,"first_indexed_time":1517744690,"http_code":200,"src_unparsed":"edu,berkeley!greatergood,\/article\/item\/how_to_find_your_purpose_in_life s443","src_root_hash":"12957858574685170805","history_drop_reason":null,"meta_title":"How to Find Your Purpose in Life","meta_descriptions":["Are you struggling to discover your purpose? That may be because you feel isolated from other people. Here's how you can overcome that."],"attrs_boilerpipe_text":"Do you have a sense of purpose?\nFor decades, psychologists have studied how long-term, meaningful goals develop over the span of our lives. The goals that foster a sense of purpose are ones that can potentially change the lives of other people, like launching an organization, researching disease, or teaching kids to read.\nIndeed, a sense of purpose appears to have evolved in humans so that we can accomplish big things together—which may be why it’s associated with better\nphysical\nand\nmental\nhealth. Purpose is adaptive, in an evolutionary sense. It\nhelps\nboth individuals and the species to survive.\nAdvertisement\nX\nMany seem to believe that purpose arises from your special gifts and sets you apart from other people—but that’s only part of the truth. It also grows from our connection to others, which is why a crisis of purpose is often a symptom of isolation. Once you find your path, you’ll almost certainly find others traveling along with you, hoping to reach the same destination—a community.\nHere are six ways to overcome isolation and discover your purpose in life.\n1. Read\nReading connects us to people we’ll never know, across time and space—an experience that research says is linked to a sense of meaning and purpose. (Note: “Meaning” and “purpose” are related but separate social-scientific constructs. Purpose is a part of meaning; meaning is a much broader concept that usually also includes value, efficacy, and self-worth.)\nIn a\n2010 paper\n, for example, Leslie Francis studied a group of nearly 26,000 teenagers throughout England and Wales—and found that those who read the Bible more tended to have a stronger sense of purpose. Secular reading seems to make a difference, as well. In a\nsurvey of empirical studies\n, Raymond A. Mar and colleagues found a link between reading poetry and fiction and a sense of purpose among adolescents.\n“Reading fiction might allow adolescents to reason about the whole lives of characters, giving them specific insight into an entire lifespan without having to have fully lived most of their own lives,” they suggest. By seeing purpose in the lives of other people, teens are more likely to see it in their own lives. In this sense, purpose is an act of the imagination.\nMany people I interviewed for this article mentioned pivotal books or ideas they found in books.\nThe writing of historian W.E.B. Du Bois pushed social-justice activist Art McGee to embrace a specific vision of African-American identity and liberation. Journalist Michael Stoll found inspiration in the “social responsibility theory of journalism,” which he read about at Stanford University. “Basically, reporters and editors have not just the ability but also the duty to improve their community by being independent arbiters of problems that need solving,” he says. “It’s been my professional North Star ever since.” Spurred by this idea, Michael went on to launch an award-winning nonprofit news agency called\nThe San Francisco Public Press\n.\nSo, if you’re feeling a crisis of purpose in your life, go to the bookstore or library or university. Find books that matter to you—and they might help you to see what matters in your own life.\n2. Turn hurts into healing for others\nOf course, finding purpose is not just an intellectual pursuit; it’s something we need to feel. That’s why it can grow out of suffering, both our own and others’.\nKezia Willingham was raised in poverty in Corvallis, Oregon, her family riven by domestic violence. “No one at school intervened or helped or supported my mother, myself, or my brother when I was growing up poor, ashamed, and sure that my existence was a mistake,” she says. “I was running the streets, skipping school, having sex with strangers, and abusing every drug I could get my hands on.”\nWhen she was 16, Kezia enrolled at an alternative high school that “led me to believe I had options and a path out of poverty.” She made her way to college and was especially “drawn to the kids with ‘issues’”—kids like the one she had once been. She says:\nI want the kids out there who grew up like me, to know they have futures ahead of them. I want them to know they are smart, even if they may not meet state academic standards. I want them to know that they are just as good and valuable as any other human who happens to be born into more privileged circumstances. Because they are. And there are so damn many messages telling them otherwise.\nSometimes, another person’s pain can lead us to purpose. When Christopher Pepper was a senior in high school, a “trembling, tearful friend” told him that she had been raped by a classmate. “I comforted as well as I could, and left that conversation vowing that I would do something to keep this from happening to others,” says Christopher. He kept that promise by becoming a Peer Rape Educator in college—and then a sex educator in San Francisco public schools.\nWhy do people like Kezia and Christopher seem to find purpose in suffering—while others are crushed by it? Part of the answer, as we’ll see next, might have to do with the emotions and behaviors we cultivate in ourselves.\n3. Cultivate awe, gratitude, and altruism\nCertain\nemotions and behaviors\nthat promote health and well-being can also foster a sense of purpose—specifically,\nawe\n,\ngratitude\n, and\naltruism\n.\nSeveral studies\nconducted by the Greater Good Science Center’s Dacher Keltner have shown that the experience of awe makes us\nfeel connected\nto something larger than ourselves—and so can provide the\nemotional foundation\nfor a sense of purpose.\nOf course, awe all by itself won’t give you a purpose in life. It’s not enough to just feel like you’re a small part of something big; you also need to feel driven to make a positive impact on the world. That’s where gratitude and generosity come into play.\n“It may seem counterintuitive to foster purpose by cultivating a grateful mindset, but it works,”\nwrites psychologist Kendall Bronk\n, a leading expert on purpose. As research by William Damon, Robert Emmons, and others has found, children and adults who are able to count their blessings are much more likely to try to “contribute to the world beyond themselves.” This is probably because, if we can see how others make our world a better place, we’ll be more motivated to give something back.\nHere we arrive at altruism. There’s little question, at this point, that\nhelping others\nis associated with a meaningful, purposeful life. In one study, for example, Daryl Van Tongeren and colleagues found that people who engage in more altruistic behaviors, like volunteering or donating money, tend to have a\ngreater sense of purpose in their lives\n.\nInterestingly, gratitude and altruism seem to work together to generate meaning and purpose. In a second experiment, the researchers randomly assigned some participants to write letters of gratitude—and those people later reported a stronger sense of purpose. More\nrecent work by Christina Karns and colleagues\nfound that altruism and gratitude are neurologically linked, activating the same reward circuits in the brain.\n4. Listen to what other people appreciate about you\nShawn Taylor with his family\nGiving thanks can help you find your purpose. But you can also find purpose in what people thank you for.\nLike Kezia Willingham, Shawn Taylor had a tough childhood—and he was also drawn to working with kids who had severe behavioral problems. Unlike her, however, he often felt like the work was a dead-end. “I thought I sucked at my chosen profession,” he says. Then, one day, a girl he’d worked with five years before contacted him.\n“She detailed how I helped to change her life,” says Shawn—and she asked him to walk her down the aisle when she got married. Shawn hadn’t even thought about her, in all that time. “Something clicked and I knew this was my path. No specifics, but youth work was my purpose.”\nThe artists, writers, and musicians I interviewed often described how appreciation from others fueled their work. Dani Burlison never lacked a sense of purpose, and she toiled for years as a writer and social-justice activist in Santa Rosa, California. But when wildfires swept through her community, Dani discovered that her strengths were needed in a new way: “I’ve found that my networking and emergency response skills have been really helpful to my community, my students, and to firefighters!”\nAlthough there is no research that directly explores how being thanked might fuel a sense of purpose, we do know that gratitude\nstrengthens relationships\n—and those are often the source of our purpose, as many of these stories suggest.\n5. Find and build community\nAs we see in Dani’s case, we can often find our sense of purpose in the people around us.\nMany people told me about finding purpose in family. In tandem with his reading, Art McGee found purpose—working for social and racial justice—in “love and respect for my hardworking father,” he says. “Working people like him deserved so much better.”\nEnvironmental and social-justice organizer Jodi Sugerman-Brozan feels driven “to leave the world in a better place than I found it.” Becoming a mom “strengthened that purpose (it’s going to be their world, and their kids’ world),” she says. It “definitely influences how I parent (wanting to raise anti-racist, feminist, radical kids who will want to continue the fight and be leaders).”\nOf course, our kids may not embrace our purpose. Amber Cantorna was raised by purpose-driven parents who were right-wing Christians. “My mom had us involved in stuff all the time, all within that conservative Christian bubble,” she says. This family and community fueled a strong sense of purpose in Amber: “To be a good Christian and role model. To be a blessing to other people.”\nThe trouble is that this underlying purpose involved making other people more like them. When she came out as a lesbian at age 27, Amber’s family and community swiftly and suddenly cast her out. This triggered a deep crisis of purpose—one that she resolved by finding a new faith community “that helped shape me and gave me a sense of belonging,” she says.\nOften, the nobility of our purpose reflects the company we keep. The purpose that came from Amber’s parents was based on exclusion, as she discovered. There was no place—and no purpose—for her in that community once she embraced an identity they couldn’t accept. A new sense of purpose came with the new community and identity she helped to build, of gay and lesbian Christians.\nIf you’re having trouble remembering your purpose, take a look at the people around you. What do you have in common with them? What are they trying to be? What impact do you see them having on the world? Is that impact a positive one? Can you join with them in making that impact? What do they need? Can you give it them?\nIf the answers to those questions don’t inspire you, then you might need to find a new community—and with that, a new purpose may come.\n6. Tell your story\nAmber Cantorna\nReading can help you find your purpose—but so can writing,\nPurpose often arises from curiosity about your own life. What obstacles have you encountered? What strengths helped you to overcome them? How did other people help you? How did your strengths help make life better for others?\n“We all have the ability to\nmake a narrative\nout of our own lives,”\nsays Emily Esfahani Smith\n, author of the 2017 book\nThe Power of Meaning\n. “It gives us clarity on our own lives, how to understand ourselves, and gives us a framework that goes beyond the day-to-day and basically helps us make sense of our experiences.”\nThat’s why Amber Cantorna wrote her memoir,\nRefocusing My Family: Coming Out, Being Cast Out, and Discovering the True Love of God\n. At first depressed after losing everyone she loved, Amber soon discovered new strengths in herself—and she is using her book to help build a nonprofit organization called Beyond to support gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender Christians in their coming-out process.\nOne\n2008 study\nfound that those who see meaning and purpose in their lives are able to tell a story of change and growth, where they managed to overcome the obstacles they encountered. In other words,\ncreating a narrative\nlike Amber’s can help us to see our own strengths and how applying those strengths can make a difference in the world, which increases our sense of self-efficacy.\nThis is a valuable reflective process to all people, but Amber took it one step further, by publishing her autobiography and turning it into a tool for social change. Today, Amber’s purpose is to help people like her feel less alone.\n“My sense of purpose has grown a lot with my desire to share my story—and the realization that so many other people have shared my journey.”","attrs_markdown":"![](https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/tr?id=881392575322432&ev=PageView%0A&noscript=1)\n\n#### Help keep Greater Good resources free for everyone.\nTo share the “science of a meaningful life” we rely on readers like you. 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That may be because you feel isolated from other people. Here's how you can overcome that.\n\nBy [Jeremy Adam Smith](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/profile\/jeremy_smith) \\| January 10, 2018\n\n[Facebook](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/#facebook)\n\n[Bluesky](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/#bluesky)\n\n[LinkedIn](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/#linkedin)\n\n[Email](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/#email)\n\n[Share](https:\/\/www.addtoany.com\/share#url=https%3A%2F%2Fgreatergood.berkeley.edu%2Farticle%2Fitem%2Fhow_to_find_your_purpose_in_life&title=How%20to%20Find%20Your%20Purpose%20in%20Life)\n\n[Facebook](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/#facebook)\n\n[Bluesky](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/#bluesky)\n\n[LinkedIn](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/#linkedin)\n\n[Email](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/#email)\n\n[Share](https:\/\/www.addtoany.com\/share#url=https%3A%2F%2Fgreatergood.berkeley.edu%2Farticle%2Fitem%2Fhow_to_find_your_purpose_in_life&title=How%20to%20Find%20Your%20Purpose%20in%20Life)\n\n- [*Print*](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/how_to_find_your_purpose_in_life)\n- *Bookmark*\n\nDo you have a sense of purpose?\n\nFor decades, psychologists have studied how long-term, meaningful goals develop over the span of our lives. The goals that foster a sense of purpose are ones that can potentially change the lives of other people, like launching an organization, researching disease, or teaching kids to read.\n\nIndeed, a sense of purpose appears to have evolved in humans so that we can accomplish big things together—which may be why it’s associated with better [physical](http:\/\/www.ucl.ac.uk\/news\/news-articles\/1114\/061114-longer-lifespan \"News article on how a sense of purpose enhances longevity\") and [mental](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/living_with_a_purpose_changes_everything \"Article about research into how purpose improves mental health\") health. Purpose is adaptive, in an evolutionary sense. It [helps](https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pubmed\/22359156) both individuals and the species to survive.\n\nAdvertisement X\n\n[![](https:\/\/ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com\/assets\/images\/ggsc_happiness_calendar_apr_2026_-_abcdef_-_4f40627156999ff67452b2ecdb6a2d5158e32b5d.jpg)](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/your_happiness_calendar_for_april_2026)\n\n[Keep Up with the GGSC Happiness Calendar Care for yourself in tough times this month](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/your_happiness_calendar_for_april_2026)\n\nMany seem to believe that purpose arises from your special gifts and sets you apart from other people—but that’s only part of the truth. It also grows from our connection to others, which is why a crisis of purpose is often a symptom of isolation. Once you find your path, you’ll almost certainly find others traveling along with you, hoping to reach the same destination—a community.\n\nHere are six ways to overcome isolation and discover your purpose in life.\n\n## 1\\. Read\n![Man intently reading book](https:\/\/ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com\/assets\/images\/man-reading-smaller-1x_-_abcdef_-_17a46d79eb5ed7dd269e9126740882c1a2cac088.jpg)\n\nReading connects us to people we’ll never know, across time and space—an experience that research says is linked to a sense of meaning and purpose. (Note: “Meaning” and “purpose” are related but separate social-scientific constructs. Purpose is a part of meaning; meaning is a much broader concept that usually also includes value, efficacy, and self-worth.)\n\nIn a [2010 paper](http:\/\/www.tandfonline.com\/doi\/pdf\/10.1080\/13674670050002072 \"Scientific paper on how reading the Bible enhances meaning and purpose\"), for example, Leslie Francis studied a group of nearly 26,000 teenagers throughout England and Wales—and found that those who read the Bible more tended to have a stronger sense of purpose. Secular reading seems to make a difference, as well. In a [survey of empirical studies](http:\/\/onlinelibrary.wiley.com\/wol1\/doi\/10.1002\/cd.290\/abstract \"Scientific paper on studies of link between reading and a sense of purpose\"), Raymond A. Mar and colleagues found a link between reading poetry and fiction and a sense of purpose among adolescents.\n\n“Reading fiction might allow adolescents to reason about the whole lives of characters, giving them specific insight into an entire lifespan without having to have fully lived most of their own lives,” they suggest. By seeing purpose in the lives of other people, teens are more likely to see it in their own lives. In this sense, purpose is an act of the imagination.\n\nMany people I interviewed for this article mentioned pivotal books or ideas they found in books.\n\nThe writing of historian W.E.B. Du Bois pushed social-justice activist Art McGee to embrace a specific vision of African-American identity and liberation. Journalist Michael Stoll found inspiration in the “social responsibility theory of journalism,” which he read about at Stanford University. “Basically, reporters and editors have not just the ability but also the duty to improve their community by being independent arbiters of problems that need solving,” he says. “It’s been my professional North Star ever since.” Spurred by this idea, Michael went on to launch an award-winning nonprofit news agency called *[The San Francisco Public Press](http:\/\/sfpublicpress.org\/ \"Homepage of the San Francisco Public Press\")*.\n\nSo, if you’re feeling a crisis of purpose in your life, go to the bookstore or library or university. Find books that matter to you—and they might help you to see what matters in your own life.\n\n## 2\\. Turn hurts into healing for others\nOf course, finding purpose is not just an intellectual pursuit; it’s something we need to feel. That’s why it can grow out of suffering, both our own and others’.\n\nKezia Willingham was raised in poverty in Corvallis, Oregon, her family riven by domestic violence. “No one at school intervened or helped or supported my mother, myself, or my brother when I was growing up poor, ashamed, and sure that my existence was a mistake,” she says. “I was running the streets, skipping school, having sex with strangers, and abusing every drug I could get my hands on.”\n\nWhen she was 16, Kezia enrolled at an alternative high school that “led me to believe I had options and a path out of poverty.” She made her way to college and was especially “drawn to the kids with ‘issues’”—kids like the one she had once been. She says:\n\n> I want the kids out there who grew up like me, to know they have futures ahead of them. I want them to know they are smart, even if they may not meet state academic standards. I want them to know that they are just as good and valuable as any other human who happens to be born into more privileged circumstances. Because they are. And there are so damn many messages telling them otherwise.\n\nSometimes, another person’s pain can lead us to purpose. When Christopher Pepper was a senior in high school, a “trembling, tearful friend” told him that she had been raped by a classmate. “I comforted as well as I could, and left that conversation vowing that I would do something to keep this from happening to others,” says Christopher. He kept that promise by becoming a Peer Rape Educator in college—and then a sex educator in San Francisco public schools.\n\nWhy do people like Kezia and Christopher seem to find purpose in suffering—while others are crushed by it? Part of the answer, as we’ll see next, might have to do with the emotions and behaviors we cultivate in ourselves.\n\n## 3\\. Cultivate awe, gratitude, and altruism\nCertain [emotions and behaviors](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/key \"Page of the Greater Good's list of keys to well-being\") that promote health and well-being can also foster a sense of purpose—specifically, [awe](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/awe\/definition#what-is \"Greater Good's page defining awe\"), [gratitude](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/gratitude\/definition#what-is \"Greater Good's page defining gratitude\"), and [altruism](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/altruism\/definition#what-is \"Greater Good's page defining altruism\").\n\n[Several studies](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/why_do_we_feel_awe \"Dacher Keltner's article on why we feel awe\") conducted by the Greater Good Science Center’s Dacher Keltner have shown that the experience of awe makes us [feel connected](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/what_happens_when_we_reconnect_with_nature \"Article about connection and awe in nature\") to something larger than ourselves—and so can provide the [emotional foundation](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/how_awe_can_help_students_develop_purpose \"Article about how to help students develop a sense of awe\") for a sense of purpose.\n\nOf course, awe all by itself won’t give you a purpose in life. It’s not enough to just feel like you’re a small part of something big; you also need to feel driven to make a positive impact on the world. That’s where gratitude and generosity come into play.\n\n“It may seem counterintuitive to foster purpose by cultivating a grateful mindset, but it works,” [writes psychologist Kendall Bronk](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/five_ways_to_foster_purpose_in_adolescents \"Article about fostering purpose in teens\"), a leading expert on purpose. As research by William Damon, Robert Emmons, and others has found, children and adults who are able to count their blessings are much more likely to try to “contribute to the world beyond themselves.” This is probably because, if we can see how others make our world a better place, we’ll be more motivated to give something back.\n\nHere we arrive at altruism. There’s little question, at this point, that [helping others](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/can_helping_others_help_you_find_meaning_in_life \"Article about relationship between altruism and meaning\") is associated with a meaningful, purposeful life. In one study, for example, Daryl Van Tongeren and colleagues found that people who engage in more altruistic behaviors, like volunteering or donating money, tend to have a [greater sense of purpose in their lives](http:\/\/www.tandfonline.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1080\/17439760.2015.1048814?journalCode=rpos20 \"Scientific paper on relationship between altruism and purpose\").\n\nInterestingly, gratitude and altruism seem to work together to generate meaning and purpose. In a second experiment, the researchers randomly assigned some participants to write letters of gratitude—and those people later reported a stronger sense of purpose. More [recent work by Christina Karns and colleagues](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/why_a_grateful_brain_is_a_giving_one \"Article about altruism and gratitude in the brain\") found that altruism and gratitude are neurologically linked, activating the same reward circuits in the brain.\n\n## 4\\. Listen to what other people appreciate about you\n![Author and activist Shawn Taylor with his wife and child](https:\/\/ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com\/assets\/images\/shawn-and-fam-1x_-_abcdef_-_94a1cdf59fc1c38b6e31ed36c6cd2be6d9ba69f9.jpg) Shawn Taylor with his family\n\nGiving thanks can help you find your purpose. But you can also find purpose in what people thank you for.\n\nLike Kezia Willingham, Shawn Taylor had a tough childhood—and he was also drawn to working with kids who had severe behavioral problems. Unlike her, however, he often felt like the work was a dead-end. “I thought I sucked at my chosen profession,” he says. Then, one day, a girl he’d worked with five years before contacted him.\n\n“She detailed how I helped to change her life,” says Shawn—and she asked him to walk her down the aisle when she got married. Shawn hadn’t even thought about her, in all that time. “Something clicked and I knew this was my path. No specifics, but youth work was my purpose.”\n\nThe artists, writers, and musicians I interviewed often described how appreciation from others fueled their work. Dani Burlison never lacked a sense of purpose, and she toiled for years as a writer and social-justice activist in Santa Rosa, California. But when wildfires swept through her community, Dani discovered that her strengths were needed in a new way: “I’ve found that my networking and emergency response skills have been really helpful to my community, my students, and to firefighters!”\n\nAlthough there is no research that directly explores how being thanked might fuel a sense of purpose, we do know that gratitude [strengthens relationships](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/love_honor_thank\/ \"Article about gratitude in relationships\")—and those are often the source of our purpose, as many of these stories suggest.\n\n## 5\\. Find and build community\n![Time lapse image of a plant growing](https:\/\/ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com\/assets\/images\/purpose-plant-small-1x_-_abcdef_-_17a46d79eb5ed7dd269e9126740882c1a2cac088.jpg)\n\nAs we see in Dani’s case, we can often find our sense of purpose in the people around us.\n\nMany people told me about finding purpose in family. In tandem with his reading, Art McGee found purpose—working for social and racial justice—in “love and respect for my hardworking father,” he says. “Working people like him deserved so much better.”\n\nEnvironmental and social-justice organizer Jodi Sugerman-Brozan feels driven “to leave the world in a better place than I found it.” Becoming a mom “strengthened that purpose (it’s going to be their world, and their kids’ world),” she says. It “definitely influences how I parent (wanting to raise anti-racist, feminist, radical kids who will want to continue the fight and be leaders).”\n\nOf course, our kids may not embrace our purpose. Amber Cantorna was raised by purpose-driven parents who were right-wing Christians. “My mom had us involved in stuff all the time, all within that conservative Christian bubble,” she says. This family and community fueled a strong sense of purpose in Amber: “To be a good Christian and role model. To be a blessing to other people.”\n\nThe trouble is that this underlying purpose involved making other people more like them. When she came out as a lesbian at age 27, Amber’s family and community swiftly and suddenly cast her out. This triggered a deep crisis of purpose—one that she resolved by finding a new faith community “that helped shape me and gave me a sense of belonging,” she says.\n\nOften, the nobility of our purpose reflects the company we keep. The purpose that came from Amber’s parents was based on exclusion, as she discovered. There was no place—and no purpose—for her in that community once she embraced an identity they couldn’t accept. A new sense of purpose came with the new community and identity she helped to build, of gay and lesbian Christians.\n\nIf you’re having trouble remembering your purpose, take a look at the people around you. What do you have in common with them? What are they trying to be? What impact do you see them having on the world? Is that impact a positive one? Can you join with them in making that impact? What do they need? Can you give it them?\n\nIf the answers to those questions don’t inspire you, then you might need to find a new community—and with that, a new purpose may come.\n\n## 6\\. Tell your story\n![Picture of author and activist Amber Cantorna](https:\/\/ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com\/assets\/images\/amber_cantorna_-1x_-_abcdef_-_17a46d79eb5ed7dd269e9126740882c1a2cac088.jpg)  Amber Cantorna\n\nReading can help you find your purpose—but so can writing,\n\nPurpose often arises from curiosity about your own life. What obstacles have you encountered? What strengths helped you to overcome them? How did other people help you? How did your strengths help make life better for others?\n\n“We all have the ability to [make a narrative](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/what_will_the_theme_of_your_life_be_this_year \"Article about telling the stories of our lives as a way of making sense of them\") out of our own lives,” [says Emily Esfahani Smith](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/what_are_the_building_blocks_of_a_meaningful_life), author of the 2017 book [*The Power of Meaning*](http:\/\/amzn.to\/2mbGwtq). “It gives us clarity on our own lives, how to understand ourselves, and gives us a framework that goes beyond the day-to-day and basically helps us make sense of our experiences.”\n\nThat’s why Amber Cantorna wrote her memoir, *Refocusing My Family: Coming Out, Being Cast Out, and Discovering the True Love of God*. At first depressed after losing everyone she loved, Amber soon discovered new strengths in herself—and she is using her book to help build a nonprofit organization called Beyond to support gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender Christians in their coming-out process.\n\nOne [2008 study](https:\/\/link.springer.com\/article\/10.1007\/s10902-006-9021-6 \"Scientific journal article about storytelling and the growth mindset\") found that those who see meaning and purpose in their lives are able to tell a story of change and growth, where they managed to overcome the obstacles they encountered. In other words, [creating a narrative](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/science_of_the_story \"Article about the science of storytelling\") like Amber’s can help us to see our own strengths and how applying those strengths can make a difference in the world, which increases our sense of self-efficacy.\n\nThis is a valuable reflective process to all people, but Amber took it one step further, by publishing her autobiography and turning it into a tool for social change. Today, Amber’s purpose is to help people like her feel less alone.\n\n“My sense of purpose has grown a lot with my desire to share my story—and the realization that so many other people have shared my journey.”\n\n![GreaterGood Tiny Logo](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/css\/images\/temp\/logo-small.png) Greater Good wants to know: Do you think this article will influence your opinions or behavior?\n\nSubmitting your rating\n\n## About the Author\n- [![Headshot of Jeremy Adam Smith](https:\/\/ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com\/assets\/images\/avatar_10_-_abcdef_-_6dbad40fc7c0e0ea5adee881f79d46c1ebd7cefa.png)](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/profile\/jeremy_smith)\n  ### [Jeremy Adam Smith](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/profile\/jeremy_smith)\n  ##### UC Berkeley\n  **Jeremy Adam Smith** edits the GGSC's magazine, *Greater Good*. 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The goals that foster a sense of purpose are ones that can potentially change the lives of other people, like launching an organization, researching disease, or teaching kids to read.\n\nIndeed, a sense of purpose appears to have evolved in humans so that we can accomplish big things together—which may be why it’s associated with better [physical](http:\/\/www.ucl.ac.uk\/news\/news-articles\/1114\/061114-longer-lifespan \"News article on how a sense of purpose enhances longevity\") and [mental](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/living_with_a_purpose_changes_everything \"Article about research into how purpose improves mental health\") health. Purpose is adaptive, in an evolutionary sense. It [helps](https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pubmed\/22359156) both individuals and the species to survive.\n\nAdvertisement X\n\n[![](https:\/\/ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com\/assets\/images\/ggsc_happiness_calendar_apr_2026_-_abcdef_-_4f40627156999ff67452b2ecdb6a2d5158e32b5d.jpg)](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/your_happiness_calendar_for_april_2026)\n\nMany seem to believe that purpose arises from your special gifts and sets you apart from other people—but that’s only part of the truth. It also grows from our connection to others, which is why a crisis of purpose is often a symptom of isolation. Once you find your path, you’ll almost certainly find others traveling along with you, hoping to reach the same destination—a community.\n\nHere are six ways to overcome isolation and discover your purpose in life.\n\n## 1\\. Read\n![Man intently reading book](https:\/\/ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com\/assets\/images\/man-reading-smaller-1x_-_abcdef_-_17a46d79eb5ed7dd269e9126740882c1a2cac088.jpg)\n\nReading connects us to people we’ll never know, across time and space—an experience that research says is linked to a sense of meaning and purpose. (Note: “Meaning” and “purpose” are related but separate social-scientific constructs. Purpose is a part of meaning; meaning is a much broader concept that usually also includes value, efficacy, and self-worth.)\n\nIn a [2010 paper](http:\/\/www.tandfonline.com\/doi\/pdf\/10.1080\/13674670050002072 \"Scientific paper on how reading the Bible enhances meaning and purpose\"), for example, Leslie Francis studied a group of nearly 26,000 teenagers throughout England and Wales—and found that those who read the Bible more tended to have a stronger sense of purpose. Secular reading seems to make a difference, as well. In a [survey of empirical studies](http:\/\/onlinelibrary.wiley.com\/wol1\/doi\/10.1002\/cd.290\/abstract \"Scientific paper on studies of link between reading and a sense of purpose\"), Raymond A. Mar and colleagues found a link between reading poetry and fiction and a sense of purpose among adolescents.\n\n“Reading fiction might allow adolescents to reason about the whole lives of characters, giving them specific insight into an entire lifespan without having to have fully lived most of their own lives,” they suggest. By seeing purpose in the lives of other people, teens are more likely to see it in their own lives. In this sense, purpose is an act of the imagination.\n\nMany people I interviewed for this article mentioned pivotal books or ideas they found in books.\n\nThe writing of historian W.E.B. Du Bois pushed social-justice activist Art McGee to embrace a specific vision of African-American identity and liberation. Journalist Michael Stoll found inspiration in the “social responsibility theory of journalism,” which he read about at Stanford University. “Basically, reporters and editors have not just the ability but also the duty to improve their community by being independent arbiters of problems that need solving,” he says. “It’s been my professional North Star ever since.” Spurred by this idea, Michael went on to launch an award-winning nonprofit news agency called *[The San Francisco Public Press](http:\/\/sfpublicpress.org\/ \"Homepage of the San Francisco Public Press\")*.\n\nSo, if you’re feeling a crisis of purpose in your life, go to the bookstore or library or university. Find books that matter to you—and they might help you to see what matters in your own life.\n\n## 2\\. Turn hurts into healing for others\nOf course, finding purpose is not just an intellectual pursuit; it’s something we need to feel. That’s why it can grow out of suffering, both our own and others’.\n\nKezia Willingham was raised in poverty in Corvallis, Oregon, her family riven by domestic violence. “No one at school intervened or helped or supported my mother, myself, or my brother when I was growing up poor, ashamed, and sure that my existence was a mistake,” she says. “I was running the streets, skipping school, having sex with strangers, and abusing every drug I could get my hands on.”\n\nWhen she was 16, Kezia enrolled at an alternative high school that “led me to believe I had options and a path out of poverty.” She made her way to college and was especially “drawn to the kids with ‘issues’”—kids like the one she had once been. She says:\n\n> I want the kids out there who grew up like me, to know they have futures ahead of them. I want them to know they are smart, even if they may not meet state academic standards. I want them to know that they are just as good and valuable as any other human who happens to be born into more privileged circumstances. Because they are. And there are so damn many messages telling them otherwise.\n\nSometimes, another person’s pain can lead us to purpose. When Christopher Pepper was a senior in high school, a “trembling, tearful friend” told him that she had been raped by a classmate. “I comforted as well as I could, and left that conversation vowing that I would do something to keep this from happening to others,” says Christopher. He kept that promise by becoming a Peer Rape Educator in college—and then a sex educator in San Francisco public schools.\n\nWhy do people like Kezia and Christopher seem to find purpose in suffering—while others are crushed by it? Part of the answer, as we’ll see next, might have to do with the emotions and behaviors we cultivate in ourselves.\n\n## 3\\. Cultivate awe, gratitude, and altruism\nCertain [emotions and behaviors](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/key \"Page of the Greater Good's list of keys to well-being\") that promote health and well-being can also foster a sense of purpose—specifically, [awe](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/awe\/definition#what-is \"Greater Good's page defining awe\"), [gratitude](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/gratitude\/definition#what-is \"Greater Good's page defining gratitude\"), and [altruism](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/altruism\/definition#what-is \"Greater Good's page defining altruism\").\n\n[Several studies](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/why_do_we_feel_awe \"Dacher Keltner's article on why we feel awe\") conducted by the Greater Good Science Center’s Dacher Keltner have shown that the experience of awe makes us [feel connected](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/what_happens_when_we_reconnect_with_nature \"Article about connection and awe in nature\") to something larger than ourselves—and so can provide the [emotional foundation](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/how_awe_can_help_students_develop_purpose \"Article about how to help students develop a sense of awe\") for a sense of purpose.\n\nOf course, awe all by itself won’t give you a purpose in life. It’s not enough to just feel like you’re a small part of something big; you also need to feel driven to make a positive impact on the world. That’s where gratitude and generosity come into play.\n\n“It may seem counterintuitive to foster purpose by cultivating a grateful mindset, but it works,” [writes psychologist Kendall Bronk](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/five_ways_to_foster_purpose_in_adolescents \"Article about fostering purpose in teens\"), a leading expert on purpose. As research by William Damon, Robert Emmons, and others has found, children and adults who are able to count their blessings are much more likely to try to “contribute to the world beyond themselves.” This is probably because, if we can see how others make our world a better place, we’ll be more motivated to give something back.\n\nHere we arrive at altruism. There’s little question, at this point, that [helping others](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/can_helping_others_help_you_find_meaning_in_life \"Article about relationship between altruism and meaning\") is associated with a meaningful, purposeful life. In one study, for example, Daryl Van Tongeren and colleagues found that people who engage in more altruistic behaviors, like volunteering or donating money, tend to have a [greater sense of purpose in their lives](http:\/\/www.tandfonline.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1080\/17439760.2015.1048814?journalCode=rpos20 \"Scientific paper on relationship between altruism and purpose\").\n\nInterestingly, gratitude and altruism seem to work together to generate meaning and purpose. In a second experiment, the researchers randomly assigned some participants to write letters of gratitude—and those people later reported a stronger sense of purpose. More [recent work by Christina Karns and colleagues](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/why_a_grateful_brain_is_a_giving_one \"Article about altruism and gratitude in the brain\") found that altruism and gratitude are neurologically linked, activating the same reward circuits in the brain.\n\n## 4\\. Listen to what other people appreciate about you\n![Author and activist Shawn Taylor with his wife and child](https:\/\/ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com\/assets\/images\/shawn-and-fam-1x_-_abcdef_-_94a1cdf59fc1c38b6e31ed36c6cd2be6d9ba69f9.jpg) Shawn Taylor with his family\n\nGiving thanks can help you find your purpose. But you can also find purpose in what people thank you for.\n\nLike Kezia Willingham, Shawn Taylor had a tough childhood—and he was also drawn to working with kids who had severe behavioral problems. Unlike her, however, he often felt like the work was a dead-end. “I thought I sucked at my chosen profession,” he says. Then, one day, a girl he’d worked with five years before contacted him.\n\n“She detailed how I helped to change her life,” says Shawn—and she asked him to walk her down the aisle when she got married. Shawn hadn’t even thought about her, in all that time. “Something clicked and I knew this was my path. No specifics, but youth work was my purpose.”\n\nThe artists, writers, and musicians I interviewed often described how appreciation from others fueled their work. Dani Burlison never lacked a sense of purpose, and she toiled for years as a writer and social-justice activist in Santa Rosa, California. But when wildfires swept through her community, Dani discovered that her strengths were needed in a new way: “I’ve found that my networking and emergency response skills have been really helpful to my community, my students, and to firefighters!”\n\nAlthough there is no research that directly explores how being thanked might fuel a sense of purpose, we do know that gratitude [strengthens relationships](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/love_honor_thank\/ \"Article about gratitude in relationships\")—and those are often the source of our purpose, as many of these stories suggest.\n\n## 5\\. Find and build community\n![Time lapse image of a plant growing](https:\/\/ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com\/assets\/images\/purpose-plant-small-1x_-_abcdef_-_17a46d79eb5ed7dd269e9126740882c1a2cac088.jpg)\n\nAs we see in Dani’s case, we can often find our sense of purpose in the people around us.\n\nMany people told me about finding purpose in family. In tandem with his reading, Art McGee found purpose—working for social and racial justice—in “love and respect for my hardworking father,” he says. “Working people like him deserved so much better.”\n\nEnvironmental and social-justice organizer Jodi Sugerman-Brozan feels driven “to leave the world in a better place than I found it.” Becoming a mom “strengthened that purpose (it’s going to be their world, and their kids’ world),” she says. It “definitely influences how I parent (wanting to raise anti-racist, feminist, radical kids who will want to continue the fight and be leaders).”\n\nOf course, our kids may not embrace our purpose. Amber Cantorna was raised by purpose-driven parents who were right-wing Christians. “My mom had us involved in stuff all the time, all within that conservative Christian bubble,” she says. This family and community fueled a strong sense of purpose in Amber: “To be a good Christian and role model. To be a blessing to other people.”\n\nThe trouble is that this underlying purpose involved making other people more like them. When she came out as a lesbian at age 27, Amber’s family and community swiftly and suddenly cast her out. This triggered a deep crisis of purpose—one that she resolved by finding a new faith community “that helped shape me and gave me a sense of belonging,” she says.\n\nOften, the nobility of our purpose reflects the company we keep. The purpose that came from Amber’s parents was based on exclusion, as she discovered. There was no place—and no purpose—for her in that community once she embraced an identity they couldn’t accept. A new sense of purpose came with the new community and identity she helped to build, of gay and lesbian Christians.\n\nIf you’re having trouble remembering your purpose, take a look at the people around you. What do you have in common with them? What are they trying to be? What impact do you see them having on the world? Is that impact a positive one? Can you join with them in making that impact? What do they need? Can you give it them?\n\nIf the answers to those questions don’t inspire you, then you might need to find a new community—and with that, a new purpose may come.\n\n## 6\\. Tell your story\n![Picture of author and activist Amber Cantorna](https:\/\/ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com\/assets\/images\/amber_cantorna_-1x_-_abcdef_-_17a46d79eb5ed7dd269e9126740882c1a2cac088.jpg)  Amber Cantorna\n\nReading can help you find your purpose—but so can writing,\n\nPurpose often arises from curiosity about your own life. What obstacles have you encountered? What strengths helped you to overcome them? How did other people help you? How did your strengths help make life better for others?\n\n“We all have the ability to [make a narrative](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/what_will_the_theme_of_your_life_be_this_year \"Article about telling the stories of our lives as a way of making sense of them\") out of our own lives,” [says Emily Esfahani Smith](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/what_are_the_building_blocks_of_a_meaningful_life), author of the 2017 book [*The Power of Meaning*](http:\/\/amzn.to\/2mbGwtq). “It gives us clarity on our own lives, how to understand ourselves, and gives us a framework that goes beyond the day-to-day and basically helps us make sense of our experiences.”\n\nThat’s why Amber Cantorna wrote her memoir, *Refocusing My Family: Coming Out, Being Cast Out, and Discovering the True Love of God*. At first depressed after losing everyone she loved, Amber soon discovered new strengths in herself—and she is using her book to help build a nonprofit organization called Beyond to support gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender Christians in their coming-out process.\n\nOne [2008 study](https:\/\/link.springer.com\/article\/10.1007\/s10902-006-9021-6 \"Scientific journal article about storytelling and the growth mindset\") found that those who see meaning and purpose in their lives are able to tell a story of change and growth, where they managed to overcome the obstacles they encountered. In other words, [creating a narrative](https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/science_of_the_story \"Article about the science of storytelling\") like Amber’s can help us to see our own strengths and how applying those strengths can make a difference in the world, which increases our sense of self-efficacy.\n\nThis is a valuable reflective process to all people, but Amber took it one step further, by publishing her autobiography and turning it into a tool for social change. Today, Amber’s purpose is to help people like her feel less alone.\n\n“My sense of purpose has grown a lot with my desire to share my story—and the realization that so many other people have shared my journey.”","meta_canonical":null}

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Boilerpipe Text	Do you have a sense of purpose? For decades, psychologists have studied how long-term, meaningful goals develop over the span of our lives. The goals that foster a sense of purpose are ones that can potentially change the lives of other people, like launching an organization, researching disease, or teaching kids to read. Indeed, a sense of purpose appears to have evolved in humans so that we can accomplish big things together—which may be why it’s associated with better physical and mental health. Purpose is adaptive, in an evolutionary sense. It helps both individuals and the species to survive. Advertisement X Many seem to believe that purpose arises from your special gifts and sets you apart from other people—but that’s only part of the truth. It also grows from our connection to others, which is why a crisis of purpose is often a symptom of isolation. Once you find your path, you’ll almost certainly find others traveling along with you, hoping to reach the same destination—a community. Here are six ways to overcome isolation and discover your purpose in life. 1. Read Reading connects us to people we’ll never know, across time and space—an experience that research says is linked to a sense of meaning and purpose. (Note: “Meaning” and “purpose” are related but separate social-scientific constructs. Purpose is a part of meaning; meaning is a much broader concept that usually also includes value, efficacy, and self-worth.) In a 2010 paper , for example, Leslie Francis studied a group of nearly 26,000 teenagers throughout England and Wales—and found that those who read the Bible more tended to have a stronger sense of purpose. Secular reading seems to make a difference, as well. In a survey of empirical studies , Raymond A. Mar and colleagues found a link between reading poetry and fiction and a sense of purpose among adolescents. “Reading fiction might allow adolescents to reason about the whole lives of characters, giving them specific insight into an entire lifespan without having to have fully lived most of their own lives,” they suggest. By seeing purpose in the lives of other people, teens are more likely to see it in their own lives. In this sense, purpose is an act of the imagination. Many people I interviewed for this article mentioned pivotal books or ideas they found in books. The writing of historian W.E.B. Du Bois pushed social-justice activist Art McGee to embrace a specific vision of African-American identity and liberation. Journalist Michael Stoll found inspiration in the “social responsibility theory of journalism,” which he read about at Stanford University. “Basically, reporters and editors have not just the ability but also the duty to improve their community by being independent arbiters of problems that need solving,” he says. “It’s been my professional North Star ever since.” Spurred by this idea, Michael went on to launch an award-winning nonprofit news agency called The San Francisco Public Press . So, if you’re feeling a crisis of purpose in your life, go to the bookstore or library or university. Find books that matter to you—and they might help you to see what matters in your own life. 2. Turn hurts into healing for others Of course, finding purpose is not just an intellectual pursuit; it’s something we need to feel. That’s why it can grow out of suffering, both our own and others’. Kezia Willingham was raised in poverty in Corvallis, Oregon, her family riven by domestic violence. “No one at school intervened or helped or supported my mother, myself, or my brother when I was growing up poor, ashamed, and sure that my existence was a mistake,” she says. “I was running the streets, skipping school, having sex with strangers, and abusing every drug I could get my hands on.” When she was 16, Kezia enrolled at an alternative high school that “led me to believe I had options and a path out of poverty.” She made her way to college and was especially “drawn to the kids with ‘issues’”—kids like the one she had once been. She says: I want the kids out there who grew up like me, to know they have futures ahead of them. I want them to know they are smart, even if they may not meet state academic standards. I want them to know that they are just as good and valuable as any other human who happens to be born into more privileged circumstances. Because they are. And there are so damn many messages telling them otherwise. Sometimes, another person’s pain can lead us to purpose. When Christopher Pepper was a senior in high school, a “trembling, tearful friend” told him that she had been raped by a classmate. “I comforted as well as I could, and left that conversation vowing that I would do something to keep this from happening to others,” says Christopher. He kept that promise by becoming a Peer Rape Educator in college—and then a sex educator in San Francisco public schools. Why do people like Kezia and Christopher seem to find purpose in suffering—while others are crushed by it? Part of the answer, as we’ll see next, might have to do with the emotions and behaviors we cultivate in ourselves. 3. Cultivate awe, gratitude, and altruism Certain emotions and behaviors that promote health and well-being can also foster a sense of purpose—specifically, awe , gratitude , and altruism . Several studies conducted by the Greater Good Science Center’s Dacher Keltner have shown that the experience of awe makes us feel connected to something larger than ourselves—and so can provide the emotional foundation for a sense of purpose. Of course, awe all by itself won’t give you a purpose in life. It’s not enough to just feel like you’re a small part of something big; you also need to feel driven to make a positive impact on the world. That’s where gratitude and generosity come into play. “It may seem counterintuitive to foster purpose by cultivating a grateful mindset, but it works,” writes psychologist Kendall Bronk , a leading expert on purpose. As research by William Damon, Robert Emmons, and others has found, children and adults who are able to count their blessings are much more likely to try to “contribute to the world beyond themselves.” This is probably because, if we can see how others make our world a better place, we’ll be more motivated to give something back. Here we arrive at altruism. There’s little question, at this point, that helping others is associated with a meaningful, purposeful life. In one study, for example, Daryl Van Tongeren and colleagues found that people who engage in more altruistic behaviors, like volunteering or donating money, tend to have a greater sense of purpose in their lives . Interestingly, gratitude and altruism seem to work together to generate meaning and purpose. In a second experiment, the researchers randomly assigned some participants to write letters of gratitude—and those people later reported a stronger sense of purpose. More recent work by Christina Karns and colleagues found that altruism and gratitude are neurologically linked, activating the same reward circuits in the brain. 4. Listen to what other people appreciate about you Shawn Taylor with his family Giving thanks can help you find your purpose. But you can also find purpose in what people thank you for. Like Kezia Willingham, Shawn Taylor had a tough childhood—and he was also drawn to working with kids who had severe behavioral problems. Unlike her, however, he often felt like the work was a dead-end. “I thought I sucked at my chosen profession,” he says. Then, one day, a girl he’d worked with five years before contacted him. “She detailed how I helped to change her life,” says Shawn—and she asked him to walk her down the aisle when she got married. Shawn hadn’t even thought about her, in all that time. “Something clicked and I knew this was my path. No specifics, but youth work was my purpose.” The artists, writers, and musicians I interviewed often described how appreciation from others fueled their work. Dani Burlison never lacked a sense of purpose, and she toiled for years as a writer and social-justice activist in Santa Rosa, California. But when wildfires swept through her community, Dani discovered that her strengths were needed in a new way: “I’ve found that my networking and emergency response skills have been really helpful to my community, my students, and to firefighters!” Although there is no research that directly explores how being thanked might fuel a sense of purpose, we do know that gratitude strengthens relationships —and those are often the source of our purpose, as many of these stories suggest. 5. Find and build community As we see in Dani’s case, we can often find our sense of purpose in the people around us. Many people told me about finding purpose in family. In tandem with his reading, Art McGee found purpose—working for social and racial justice—in “love and respect for my hardworking father,” he says. “Working people like him deserved so much better.” Environmental and social-justice organizer Jodi Sugerman-Brozan feels driven “to leave the world in a better place than I found it.” Becoming a mom “strengthened that purpose (it’s going to be their world, and their kids’ world),” she says. It “definitely influences how I parent (wanting to raise anti-racist, feminist, radical kids who will want to continue the fight and be leaders).” Of course, our kids may not embrace our purpose. Amber Cantorna was raised by purpose-driven parents who were right-wing Christians. “My mom had us involved in stuff all the time, all within that conservative Christian bubble,” she says. This family and community fueled a strong sense of purpose in Amber: “To be a good Christian and role model. To be a blessing to other people.” The trouble is that this underlying purpose involved making other people more like them. When she came out as a lesbian at age 27, Amber’s family and community swiftly and suddenly cast her out. This triggered a deep crisis of purpose—one that she resolved by finding a new faith community “that helped shape me and gave me a sense of belonging,” she says. Often, the nobility of our purpose reflects the company we keep. The purpose that came from Amber’s parents was based on exclusion, as she discovered. There was no place—and no purpose—for her in that community once she embraced an identity they couldn’t accept. A new sense of purpose came with the new community and identity she helped to build, of gay and lesbian Christians. If you’re having trouble remembering your purpose, take a look at the people around you. What do you have in common with them? What are they trying to be? What impact do you see them having on the world? Is that impact a positive one? Can you join with them in making that impact? What do they need? Can you give it them? If the answers to those questions don’t inspire you, then you might need to find a new community—and with that, a new purpose may come. 6. Tell your story Amber Cantorna Reading can help you find your purpose—but so can writing, Purpose often arises from curiosity about your own life. What obstacles have you encountered? What strengths helped you to overcome them? How did other people help you? How did your strengths help make life better for others? “We all have the ability to make a narrative out of our own lives,” says Emily Esfahani Smith , author of the 2017 book The Power of Meaning . “It gives us clarity on our own lives, how to understand ourselves, and gives us a framework that goes beyond the day-to-day and basically helps us make sense of our experiences.” That’s why Amber Cantorna wrote her memoir, Refocusing My Family: Coming Out, Being Cast Out, and Discovering the True Love of God . At first depressed after losing everyone she loved, Amber soon discovered new strengths in herself—and she is using her book to help build a nonprofit organization called Beyond to support gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender Christians in their coming-out process. One 2008 study found that those who see meaning and purpose in their lives are able to tell a story of change and growth, where they managed to overcome the obstacles they encountered. In other words, creating a narrative like Amber’s can help us to see our own strengths and how applying those strengths can make a difference in the world, which increases our sense of self-efficacy. This is a valuable reflective process to all people, but Amber took it one step further, by publishing her autobiography and turning it into a tool for social change. Today, Amber’s purpose is to help people like her feel less alone. “My sense of purpose has grown a lot with my desire to share my story—and the realization that so many other people have shared my journey.”
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That may be because you feel isolated from other people. Here's how you can overcome that. By [Jeremy Adam Smith](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/profile/jeremy_smith) \\| January 10, 2018 [Facebook](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/#facebook) [Bluesky](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/#bluesky) [LinkedIn](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/#linkedin) [Email](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/#email) [Share](https://www.addtoany.com/share#url=https%3A%2F%2Fgreatergood.berkeley.edu%2Farticle%2Fitem%2Fhow_to_find_your_purpose_in_life&title=How%20to%20Find%20Your%20Purpose%20in%20Life) [Facebook](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/#facebook) [Bluesky](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/#bluesky) [LinkedIn](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/#linkedin) [Email](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/#email) [Share](https://www.addtoany.com/share#url=https%3A%2F%2Fgreatergood.berkeley.edu%2Farticle%2Fitem%2Fhow_to_find_your_purpose_in_life&title=How%20to%20Find%20Your%20Purpose%20in%20Life) - [Print](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_your_purpose_in_life) - Bookmark Do you have a sense of purpose? For decades, psychologists have studied how long-term, meaningful goals develop over the span of our lives. The goals that foster a sense of purpose are ones that can potentially change the lives of other people, like launching an organization, researching disease, or teaching kids to read. Indeed, a sense of purpose appears to have evolved in humans so that we can accomplish big things together—which may be why it’s associated with better [physical](http://www.ucl.ac.uk/news/news-articles/1114/061114-longer-lifespan "News article on how a sense of purpose enhances longevity") and [mental](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/living_with_a_purpose_changes_everything "Article about research into how purpose improves mental health") health. Purpose is adaptive, in an evolutionary sense. It [helps](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22359156) both individuals and the species to survive. Advertisement X [![](https://ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com/assets/images/ggsc_happiness_calendar_apr_2026_-_abcdef_-_4f40627156999ff67452b2ecdb6a2d5158e32b5d.jpg)](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/your_happiness_calendar_for_april_2026) [Keep Up with the GGSC Happiness Calendar Care for yourself in tough times this month](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/your_happiness_calendar_for_april_2026) Many seem to believe that purpose arises from your special gifts and sets you apart from other people—but that’s only part of the truth. It also grows from our connection to others, which is why a crisis of purpose is often a symptom of isolation. Once you find your path, you’ll almost certainly find others traveling along with you, hoping to reach the same destination—a community. Here are six ways to overcome isolation and discover your purpose in life. ## 1\. Read ![Man intently reading book](https://ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com/assets/images/man-reading-smaller-1x_-_abcdef_-_17a46d79eb5ed7dd269e9126740882c1a2cac088.jpg) Reading connects us to people we’ll never know, across time and space—an experience that research says is linked to a sense of meaning and purpose. (Note: “Meaning” and “purpose” are related but separate social-scientific constructs. Purpose is a part of meaning; meaning is a much broader concept that usually also includes value, efficacy, and self-worth.) In a [2010 paper](http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/pdf/10.1080/13674670050002072 "Scientific paper on how reading the Bible enhances meaning and purpose"), for example, Leslie Francis studied a group of nearly 26,000 teenagers throughout England and Wales—and found that those who read the Bible more tended to have a stronger sense of purpose. Secular reading seems to make a difference, as well. In a [survey of empirical studies](http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/wol1/doi/10.1002/cd.290/abstract "Scientific paper on studies of link between reading and a sense of purpose"), Raymond A. Mar and colleagues found a link between reading poetry and fiction and a sense of purpose among adolescents. “Reading fiction might allow adolescents to reason about the whole lives of characters, giving them specific insight into an entire lifespan without having to have fully lived most of their own lives,” they suggest. By seeing purpose in the lives of other people, teens are more likely to see it in their own lives. In this sense, purpose is an act of the imagination. Many people I interviewed for this article mentioned pivotal books or ideas they found in books. The writing of historian W.E.B. Du Bois pushed social-justice activist Art McGee to embrace a specific vision of African-American identity and liberation. Journalist Michael Stoll found inspiration in the “social responsibility theory of journalism,” which he read about at Stanford University. “Basically, reporters and editors have not just the ability but also the duty to improve their community by being independent arbiters of problems that need solving,” he says. “It’s been my professional North Star ever since.” Spurred by this idea, Michael went on to launch an award-winning nonprofit news agency called [The San Francisco Public Press](http://sfpublicpress.org/ "Homepage of the San Francisco Public Press"). So, if you’re feeling a crisis of purpose in your life, go to the bookstore or library or university. Find books that matter to you—and they might help you to see what matters in your own life. ## 2\. Turn hurts into healing for others Of course, finding purpose is not just an intellectual pursuit; it’s something we need to feel. That’s why it can grow out of suffering, both our own and others’. Kezia Willingham was raised in poverty in Corvallis, Oregon, her family riven by domestic violence. “No one at school intervened or helped or supported my mother, myself, or my brother when I was growing up poor, ashamed, and sure that my existence was a mistake,” she says. “I was running the streets, skipping school, having sex with strangers, and abusing every drug I could get my hands on.” When she was 16, Kezia enrolled at an alternative high school that “led me to believe I had options and a path out of poverty.” She made her way to college and was especially “drawn to the kids with ‘issues’”—kids like the one she had once been. She says: > I want the kids out there who grew up like me, to know they have futures ahead of them. I want them to know they are smart, even if they may not meet state academic standards. I want them to know that they are just as good and valuable as any other human who happens to be born into more privileged circumstances. Because they are. And there are so damn many messages telling them otherwise. Sometimes, another person’s pain can lead us to purpose. When Christopher Pepper was a senior in high school, a “trembling, tearful friend” told him that she had been raped by a classmate. “I comforted as well as I could, and left that conversation vowing that I would do something to keep this from happening to others,” says Christopher. He kept that promise by becoming a Peer Rape Educator in college—and then a sex educator in San Francisco public schools. Why do people like Kezia and Christopher seem to find purpose in suffering—while others are crushed by it? Part of the answer, as we’ll see next, might have to do with the emotions and behaviors we cultivate in ourselves. ## 3\. Cultivate awe, gratitude, and altruism Certain [emotions and behaviors](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/key "Page of the Greater Good's list of keys to well-being") that promote health and well-being can also foster a sense of purpose—specifically, [awe](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/awe/definition#what-is "Greater Good's page defining awe"), [gratitude](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/gratitude/definition#what-is "Greater Good's page defining gratitude"), and [altruism](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/altruism/definition#what-is "Greater Good's page defining altruism"). [Several studies](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_do_we_feel_awe "Dacher Keltner's article on why we feel awe") conducted by the Greater Good Science Center’s Dacher Keltner have shown that the experience of awe makes us [feel connected](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/what_happens_when_we_reconnect_with_nature "Article about connection and awe in nature") to something larger than ourselves—and so can provide the [emotional foundation](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_awe_can_help_students_develop_purpose "Article about how to help students develop a sense of awe") for a sense of purpose. Of course, awe all by itself won’t give you a purpose in life. It’s not enough to just feel like you’re a small part of something big; you also need to feel driven to make a positive impact on the world. That’s where gratitude and generosity come into play. “It may seem counterintuitive to foster purpose by cultivating a grateful mindset, but it works,” [writes psychologist Kendall Bronk](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/five_ways_to_foster_purpose_in_adolescents "Article about fostering purpose in teens"), a leading expert on purpose. As research by William Damon, Robert Emmons, and others has found, children and adults who are able to count their blessings are much more likely to try to “contribute to the world beyond themselves.” This is probably because, if we can see how others make our world a better place, we’ll be more motivated to give something back. Here we arrive at altruism. There’s little question, at this point, that [helping others](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/can_helping_others_help_you_find_meaning_in_life "Article about relationship between altruism and meaning") is associated with a meaningful, purposeful life. In one study, for example, Daryl Van Tongeren and colleagues found that people who engage in more altruistic behaviors, like volunteering or donating money, tend to have a [greater sense of purpose in their lives](http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/17439760.2015.1048814?journalCode=rpos20 "Scientific paper on relationship between altruism and purpose"). Interestingly, gratitude and altruism seem to work together to generate meaning and purpose. In a second experiment, the researchers randomly assigned some participants to write letters of gratitude—and those people later reported a stronger sense of purpose. More [recent work by Christina Karns and colleagues](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_a_grateful_brain_is_a_giving_one "Article about altruism and gratitude in the brain") found that altruism and gratitude are neurologically linked, activating the same reward circuits in the brain. ## 4\. Listen to what other people appreciate about you ![Author and activist Shawn Taylor with his wife and child](https://ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com/assets/images/shawn-and-fam-1x_-_abcdef_-_94a1cdf59fc1c38b6e31ed36c6cd2be6d9ba69f9.jpg) Shawn Taylor with his family Giving thanks can help you find your purpose. But you can also find purpose in what people thank you for. Like Kezia Willingham, Shawn Taylor had a tough childhood—and he was also drawn to working with kids who had severe behavioral problems. Unlike her, however, he often felt like the work was a dead-end. “I thought I sucked at my chosen profession,” he says. Then, one day, a girl he’d worked with five years before contacted him. “She detailed how I helped to change her life,” says Shawn—and she asked him to walk her down the aisle when she got married. Shawn hadn’t even thought about her, in all that time. “Something clicked and I knew this was my path. No specifics, but youth work was my purpose.” The artists, writers, and musicians I interviewed often described how appreciation from others fueled their work. Dani Burlison never lacked a sense of purpose, and she toiled for years as a writer and social-justice activist in Santa Rosa, California. But when wildfires swept through her community, Dani discovered that her strengths were needed in a new way: “I’ve found that my networking and emergency response skills have been really helpful to my community, my students, and to firefighters!” Although there is no research that directly explores how being thanked might fuel a sense of purpose, we do know that gratitude [strengthens relationships](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/love_honor_thank/ "Article about gratitude in relationships")—and those are often the source of our purpose, as many of these stories suggest. ## 5\. Find and build community ![Time lapse image of a plant growing](https://ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com/assets/images/purpose-plant-small-1x_-_abcdef_-_17a46d79eb5ed7dd269e9126740882c1a2cac088.jpg) As we see in Dani’s case, we can often find our sense of purpose in the people around us. Many people told me about finding purpose in family. In tandem with his reading, Art McGee found purpose—working for social and racial justice—in “love and respect for my hardworking father,” he says. “Working people like him deserved so much better.” Environmental and social-justice organizer Jodi Sugerman-Brozan feels driven “to leave the world in a better place than I found it.” Becoming a mom “strengthened that purpose (it’s going to be their world, and their kids’ world),” she says. It “definitely influences how I parent (wanting to raise anti-racist, feminist, radical kids who will want to continue the fight and be leaders).” Of course, our kids may not embrace our purpose. Amber Cantorna was raised by purpose-driven parents who were right-wing Christians. “My mom had us involved in stuff all the time, all within that conservative Christian bubble,” she says. This family and community fueled a strong sense of purpose in Amber: “To be a good Christian and role model. To be a blessing to other people.” The trouble is that this underlying purpose involved making other people more like them. When she came out as a lesbian at age 27, Amber’s family and community swiftly and suddenly cast her out. This triggered a deep crisis of purpose—one that she resolved by finding a new faith community “that helped shape me and gave me a sense of belonging,” she says. Often, the nobility of our purpose reflects the company we keep. The purpose that came from Amber’s parents was based on exclusion, as she discovered. There was no place—and no purpose—for her in that community once she embraced an identity they couldn’t accept. A new sense of purpose came with the new community and identity she helped to build, of gay and lesbian Christians. If you’re having trouble remembering your purpose, take a look at the people around you. What do you have in common with them? What are they trying to be? What impact do you see them having on the world? Is that impact a positive one? Can you join with them in making that impact? What do they need? Can you give it them? If the answers to those questions don’t inspire you, then you might need to find a new community—and with that, a new purpose may come. ## 6\. Tell your story ![Picture of author and activist Amber Cantorna](https://ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com/assets/images/amber_cantorna_-1x_-_abcdef_-_17a46d79eb5ed7dd269e9126740882c1a2cac088.jpg) Amber Cantorna Reading can help you find your purpose—but so can writing, Purpose often arises from curiosity about your own life. What obstacles have you encountered? What strengths helped you to overcome them? How did other people help you? How did your strengths help make life better for others? “We all have the ability to [make a narrative](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/what_will_the_theme_of_your_life_be_this_year "Article about telling the stories of our lives as a way of making sense of them") out of our own lives,” [says Emily Esfahani Smith](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/what_are_the_building_blocks_of_a_meaningful_life), author of the 2017 book [The Power of Meaning](http://amzn.to/2mbGwtq). “It gives us clarity on our own lives, how to understand ourselves, and gives us a framework that goes beyond the day-to-day and basically helps us make sense of our experiences.” That’s why Amber Cantorna wrote her memoir, Refocusing My Family: Coming Out, Being Cast Out, and Discovering the True Love of God. At first depressed after losing everyone she loved, Amber soon discovered new strengths in herself—and she is using her book to help build a nonprofit organization called Beyond to support gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender Christians in their coming-out process. One [2008 study](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10902-006-9021-6 "Scientific journal article about storytelling and the growth mindset") found that those who see meaning and purpose in their lives are able to tell a story of change and growth, where they managed to overcome the obstacles they encountered. In other words, [creating a narrative](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/science_of_the_story "Article about the science of storytelling") like Amber’s can help us to see our own strengths and how applying those strengths can make a difference in the world, which increases our sense of self-efficacy. This is a valuable reflective process to all people, but Amber took it one step further, by publishing her autobiography and turning it into a tool for social change. Today, Amber’s purpose is to help people like her feel less alone. “My sense of purpose has grown a lot with my desire to share my story—and the realization that so many other people have shared my journey.” ![GreaterGood Tiny Logo](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/css/images/temp/logo-small.png) Greater Good wants to know: Do you think this article will influence your opinions or behavior? Submitting your rating ## About the Author - [![Headshot of Jeremy Adam Smith](https://ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com/assets/images/avatar_10_-_abcdef_-_6dbad40fc7c0e0ea5adee881f79d46c1ebd7cefa.png)](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/profile/jeremy_smith) ### [Jeremy Adam Smith](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/profile/jeremy_smith) ##### UC Berkeley Jeremy Adam Smith edits the GGSC's magazine, Greater Good. 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Readable Markdown	Do you have a sense of purpose? For decades, psychologists have studied how long-term, meaningful goals develop over the span of our lives. The goals that foster a sense of purpose are ones that can potentially change the lives of other people, like launching an organization, researching disease, or teaching kids to read. Indeed, a sense of purpose appears to have evolved in humans so that we can accomplish big things together—which may be why it’s associated with better [physical](http://www.ucl.ac.uk/news/news-articles/1114/061114-longer-lifespan "News article on how a sense of purpose enhances longevity") and [mental](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/living_with_a_purpose_changes_everything "Article about research into how purpose improves mental health") health. Purpose is adaptive, in an evolutionary sense. It [helps](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22359156) both individuals and the species to survive. Advertisement X [![](https://ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com/assets/images/ggsc_happiness_calendar_apr_2026_-_abcdef_-_4f40627156999ff67452b2ecdb6a2d5158e32b5d.jpg)](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/your_happiness_calendar_for_april_2026) Many seem to believe that purpose arises from your special gifts and sets you apart from other people—but that’s only part of the truth. It also grows from our connection to others, which is why a crisis of purpose is often a symptom of isolation. Once you find your path, you’ll almost certainly find others traveling along with you, hoping to reach the same destination—a community. Here are six ways to overcome isolation and discover your purpose in life. ## 1\. Read ![Man intently reading book](https://ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com/assets/images/man-reading-smaller-1x_-_abcdef_-_17a46d79eb5ed7dd269e9126740882c1a2cac088.jpg) Reading connects us to people we’ll never know, across time and space—an experience that research says is linked to a sense of meaning and purpose. (Note: “Meaning” and “purpose” are related but separate social-scientific constructs. Purpose is a part of meaning; meaning is a much broader concept that usually also includes value, efficacy, and self-worth.) In a [2010 paper](http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/pdf/10.1080/13674670050002072 "Scientific paper on how reading the Bible enhances meaning and purpose"), for example, Leslie Francis studied a group of nearly 26,000 teenagers throughout England and Wales—and found that those who read the Bible more tended to have a stronger sense of purpose. Secular reading seems to make a difference, as well. In a [survey of empirical studies](http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/wol1/doi/10.1002/cd.290/abstract "Scientific paper on studies of link between reading and a sense of purpose"), Raymond A. Mar and colleagues found a link between reading poetry and fiction and a sense of purpose among adolescents. “Reading fiction might allow adolescents to reason about the whole lives of characters, giving them specific insight into an entire lifespan without having to have fully lived most of their own lives,” they suggest. By seeing purpose in the lives of other people, teens are more likely to see it in their own lives. In this sense, purpose is an act of the imagination. Many people I interviewed for this article mentioned pivotal books or ideas they found in books. The writing of historian W.E.B. Du Bois pushed social-justice activist Art McGee to embrace a specific vision of African-American identity and liberation. Journalist Michael Stoll found inspiration in the “social responsibility theory of journalism,” which he read about at Stanford University. “Basically, reporters and editors have not just the ability but also the duty to improve their community by being independent arbiters of problems that need solving,” he says. “It’s been my professional North Star ever since.” Spurred by this idea, Michael went on to launch an award-winning nonprofit news agency called [The San Francisco Public Press](http://sfpublicpress.org/ "Homepage of the San Francisco Public Press"). So, if you’re feeling a crisis of purpose in your life, go to the bookstore or library or university. Find books that matter to you—and they might help you to see what matters in your own life. ## 2\. Turn hurts into healing for others Of course, finding purpose is not just an intellectual pursuit; it’s something we need to feel. That’s why it can grow out of suffering, both our own and others’. Kezia Willingham was raised in poverty in Corvallis, Oregon, her family riven by domestic violence. “No one at school intervened or helped or supported my mother, myself, or my brother when I was growing up poor, ashamed, and sure that my existence was a mistake,” she says. “I was running the streets, skipping school, having sex with strangers, and abusing every drug I could get my hands on.” When she was 16, Kezia enrolled at an alternative high school that “led me to believe I had options and a path out of poverty.” She made her way to college and was especially “drawn to the kids with ‘issues’”—kids like the one she had once been. She says: > I want the kids out there who grew up like me, to know they have futures ahead of them. I want them to know they are smart, even if they may not meet state academic standards. I want them to know that they are just as good and valuable as any other human who happens to be born into more privileged circumstances. Because they are. And there are so damn many messages telling them otherwise. Sometimes, another person’s pain can lead us to purpose. When Christopher Pepper was a senior in high school, a “trembling, tearful friend” told him that she had been raped by a classmate. “I comforted as well as I could, and left that conversation vowing that I would do something to keep this from happening to others,” says Christopher. He kept that promise by becoming a Peer Rape Educator in college—and then a sex educator in San Francisco public schools. Why do people like Kezia and Christopher seem to find purpose in suffering—while others are crushed by it? Part of the answer, as we’ll see next, might have to do with the emotions and behaviors we cultivate in ourselves. ## 3\. Cultivate awe, gratitude, and altruism Certain [emotions and behaviors](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/key "Page of the Greater Good's list of keys to well-being") that promote health and well-being can also foster a sense of purpose—specifically, [awe](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/awe/definition#what-is "Greater Good's page defining awe"), [gratitude](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/gratitude/definition#what-is "Greater Good's page defining gratitude"), and [altruism](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/altruism/definition#what-is "Greater Good's page defining altruism"). [Several studies](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_do_we_feel_awe "Dacher Keltner's article on why we feel awe") conducted by the Greater Good Science Center’s Dacher Keltner have shown that the experience of awe makes us [feel connected](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/what_happens_when_we_reconnect_with_nature "Article about connection and awe in nature") to something larger than ourselves—and so can provide the [emotional foundation](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_awe_can_help_students_develop_purpose "Article about how to help students develop a sense of awe") for a sense of purpose. Of course, awe all by itself won’t give you a purpose in life. It’s not enough to just feel like you’re a small part of something big; you also need to feel driven to make a positive impact on the world. That’s where gratitude and generosity come into play. “It may seem counterintuitive to foster purpose by cultivating a grateful mindset, but it works,” [writes psychologist Kendall Bronk](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/five_ways_to_foster_purpose_in_adolescents "Article about fostering purpose in teens"), a leading expert on purpose. As research by William Damon, Robert Emmons, and others has found, children and adults who are able to count their blessings are much more likely to try to “contribute to the world beyond themselves.” This is probably because, if we can see how others make our world a better place, we’ll be more motivated to give something back. Here we arrive at altruism. There’s little question, at this point, that [helping others](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/can_helping_others_help_you_find_meaning_in_life "Article about relationship between altruism and meaning") is associated with a meaningful, purposeful life. In one study, for example, Daryl Van Tongeren and colleagues found that people who engage in more altruistic behaviors, like volunteering or donating money, tend to have a [greater sense of purpose in their lives](http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/17439760.2015.1048814?journalCode=rpos20 "Scientific paper on relationship between altruism and purpose"). Interestingly, gratitude and altruism seem to work together to generate meaning and purpose. In a second experiment, the researchers randomly assigned some participants to write letters of gratitude—and those people later reported a stronger sense of purpose. More [recent work by Christina Karns and colleagues](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_a_grateful_brain_is_a_giving_one "Article about altruism and gratitude in the brain") found that altruism and gratitude are neurologically linked, activating the same reward circuits in the brain. ## 4\. Listen to what other people appreciate about you ![Author and activist Shawn Taylor with his wife and child](https://ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com/assets/images/shawn-and-fam-1x_-_abcdef_-_94a1cdf59fc1c38b6e31ed36c6cd2be6d9ba69f9.jpg) Shawn Taylor with his family Giving thanks can help you find your purpose. But you can also find purpose in what people thank you for. Like Kezia Willingham, Shawn Taylor had a tough childhood—and he was also drawn to working with kids who had severe behavioral problems. Unlike her, however, he often felt like the work was a dead-end. “I thought I sucked at my chosen profession,” he says. Then, one day, a girl he’d worked with five years before contacted him. “She detailed how I helped to change her life,” says Shawn—and she asked him to walk her down the aisle when she got married. Shawn hadn’t even thought about her, in all that time. “Something clicked and I knew this was my path. No specifics, but youth work was my purpose.” The artists, writers, and musicians I interviewed often described how appreciation from others fueled their work. Dani Burlison never lacked a sense of purpose, and she toiled for years as a writer and social-justice activist in Santa Rosa, California. But when wildfires swept through her community, Dani discovered that her strengths were needed in a new way: “I’ve found that my networking and emergency response skills have been really helpful to my community, my students, and to firefighters!” Although there is no research that directly explores how being thanked might fuel a sense of purpose, we do know that gratitude [strengthens relationships](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/love_honor_thank/ "Article about gratitude in relationships")—and those are often the source of our purpose, as many of these stories suggest. ## 5\. Find and build community ![Time lapse image of a plant growing](https://ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com/assets/images/purpose-plant-small-1x_-_abcdef_-_17a46d79eb5ed7dd269e9126740882c1a2cac088.jpg) As we see in Dani’s case, we can often find our sense of purpose in the people around us. Many people told me about finding purpose in family. In tandem with his reading, Art McGee found purpose—working for social and racial justice—in “love and respect for my hardworking father,” he says. “Working people like him deserved so much better.” Environmental and social-justice organizer Jodi Sugerman-Brozan feels driven “to leave the world in a better place than I found it.” Becoming a mom “strengthened that purpose (it’s going to be their world, and their kids’ world),” she says. It “definitely influences how I parent (wanting to raise anti-racist, feminist, radical kids who will want to continue the fight and be leaders).” Of course, our kids may not embrace our purpose. Amber Cantorna was raised by purpose-driven parents who were right-wing Christians. “My mom had us involved in stuff all the time, all within that conservative Christian bubble,” she says. This family and community fueled a strong sense of purpose in Amber: “To be a good Christian and role model. To be a blessing to other people.” The trouble is that this underlying purpose involved making other people more like them. When she came out as a lesbian at age 27, Amber’s family and community swiftly and suddenly cast her out. This triggered a deep crisis of purpose—one that she resolved by finding a new faith community “that helped shape me and gave me a sense of belonging,” she says. Often, the nobility of our purpose reflects the company we keep. The purpose that came from Amber’s parents was based on exclusion, as she discovered. There was no place—and no purpose—for her in that community once she embraced an identity they couldn’t accept. A new sense of purpose came with the new community and identity she helped to build, of gay and lesbian Christians. If you’re having trouble remembering your purpose, take a look at the people around you. What do you have in common with them? What are they trying to be? What impact do you see them having on the world? Is that impact a positive one? Can you join with them in making that impact? What do they need? Can you give it them? If the answers to those questions don’t inspire you, then you might need to find a new community—and with that, a new purpose may come. ## 6\. Tell your story ![Picture of author and activist Amber Cantorna](https://ggsc.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com/assets/images/amber_cantorna_-1x_-_abcdef_-_17a46d79eb5ed7dd269e9126740882c1a2cac088.jpg) Amber Cantorna Reading can help you find your purpose—but so can writing, Purpose often arises from curiosity about your own life. What obstacles have you encountered? What strengths helped you to overcome them? How did other people help you? How did your strengths help make life better for others? “We all have the ability to [make a narrative](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/what_will_the_theme_of_your_life_be_this_year "Article about telling the stories of our lives as a way of making sense of them") out of our own lives,” [says Emily Esfahani Smith](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/what_are_the_building_blocks_of_a_meaningful_life), author of the 2017 book [The Power of Meaning](http://amzn.to/2mbGwtq). “It gives us clarity on our own lives, how to understand ourselves, and gives us a framework that goes beyond the day-to-day and basically helps us make sense of our experiences.” That’s why Amber Cantorna wrote her memoir, Refocusing My Family: Coming Out, Being Cast Out, and Discovering the True Love of God. At first depressed after losing everyone she loved, Amber soon discovered new strengths in herself—and she is using her book to help build a nonprofit organization called Beyond to support gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender Christians in their coming-out process. One [2008 study](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10902-006-9021-6 "Scientific journal article about storytelling and the growth mindset") found that those who see meaning and purpose in their lives are able to tell a story of change and growth, where they managed to overcome the obstacles they encountered. In other words, [creating a narrative](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/science_of_the_story "Article about the science of storytelling") like Amber’s can help us to see our own strengths and how applying those strengths can make a difference in the world, which increases our sense of self-efficacy. This is a valuable reflective process to all people, but Amber took it one step further, by publishing her autobiography and turning it into a tool for social change. Today, Amber’s purpose is to help people like her feel less alone. “My sense of purpose has grown a lot with my desire to share my story—and the realization that so many other people have shared my journey.”
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