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What meaning can you find in those who are living? \nEven when you do find meaning, you will not feel it was worth the cost of losing your loved one.\nWhen we can find meaning, we are able to move forward in our grief and not become stuck. \nIn his book, Kessler also gives examples of what meaning can look like after the death of a loved one. It may be helpful to review these examples as you think of what meaning may look like for you after your loss. Meaning is very personal, so you may think of other ideas that will be meaningful for you. \nFind gratitude for the time we had with loved ones\nFind gratitude for the support others are giving you\nRealize the shortness of life, the value of our life – life doesn’t always last as long as we want\nCreate a change in your life to honor loved one, transformation of your life can bring meaning to theirs \nHonor and show love for those still in your life, making the most of relationships still in your life\nDo something that honors them, such as the way you live your life, treating others as they did, or being more present for others who are grieving\nFind ways to commemorate their life (small or big)\nCreate a foundation, movement, or project in their honor\nKessler suggests using these questions as a reference to help you consider meaning after your loss. I recommend you taking the time you need to consider each of these questions. You may find writing answers in a journal helpful, so you can review your thoughts as you explore the concept of meaning in your loved one’s life and loss. \nWhat have you learned from loss?\nWhat have you learned to value? What did you value before their death?\nWhat did they value?\nWhat was important to you when they lived?-\nWhat is important to you now?\nWhat was important to them when they lived?\nWhat do I feel like I need more of?\nWhat if our loved ones see through our eyes? What do you want to show them?\nWhat can you do to keep this from happening to others?\nHow have you changed?\nHow has their life changed you?\nHow did their love change you?\nWhat do you wish you knew before?\nHow can knowing it now bring meaning to you or to others?\nWhat could you do with the information that was left behind in this loss to help other people?\nHow could what I’ve learned help others?\nWhat would you like to tell others?\nWhat would you like to tell others before the tragedy happens?\nWhat do you know about life that you didn’t know before?\nHow can we be inspired by their life?\nHow can you help people in the same situation?\nWhat could you do to bring joy to other people’s lives?\nHow can you bring joy to your own life?\nCitation: Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief by David Kessler (2019)\nPost navigation","attrs_markdown":"[Skip to content](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/2022\/01\/03\/finding-meaning-from-grief\/#content)\n\n- [Facebook](https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/fullcirclegc\/)\n- [Instagram](https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/fullcirclegriefcenter\/)\n- [LinkedIn](https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/company\/full-circle-grief-center\/)\n- [YouTube](https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@fullcirclegriefcenterrva3411)\n- [Donate Now](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/financial-support\/)\n\n[Full Circle Grief Center](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/)\n\nMenu\n\n- [About Us](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/about-us\/)\n- [Support Groups](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/support-groups\/)\n- [Individual Counseling](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/individual-counseling\/)\n- [Events](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/events\/)\n- [Blog](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/blog\/)\n- [Resources and Training](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/resources-and-training\/)\n- [Donate](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/donate\/)\n- [Contact](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/contact\/)\n\n![](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/bd978-1-1.png)\n\n# Finding Meaning From Grief\n[Featured](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/2022\/01\/03\/finding-meaning-from-grief\/) by [Webmaster FCGC](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/author\/webmasterfcgc\/), posted in [Blog](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/category\/blog\/), [Staff Articles](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/category\/staff-articles\/)\n\n*By Allyson England Drake, M.Ed, CT*\n\n![](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/pexels-photo-775201.jpeg)\n\nDavid Kessler is a bereavement expert who discusses finding meaning after the death of a loved one. I want to share some of his thoughts around the definition of meaning.\n\n- Meaning is relative and personal, only you can find your own meaning.\n- Meaning takes time. You may not find it until months or even years after a loss.\n- Meaning doesn’t require understanding. It’s not necessary to understand why someone died in order to find meaning.\n- The “why” you must answer is not why your loved one died, but why you lived.\n  - *Why are you here? What meaning can you bring to the rest of your life? What meaning can you find in those who are living?*\n- Even when you do find meaning, you will not feel it was worth the cost of losing your loved one.\n- When we can find meaning, we are able to move forward in our grief and not become stuck.\n\nIn his book, Kessler also gives examples of what meaning can look like after the death of a loved one. It may be helpful to review these examples as you think of what meaning may look like for you after your loss. Meaning is very personal, so you may think of other ideas that will be meaningful for you.\n\n- Find gratitude for the time we had with loved ones\n- Find gratitude for the support others are giving you\n- Realize the shortness of life, the value of our life – life doesn’t always last as long as we want\n- Create a change in your life to honor loved one, transformation of your life can bring meaning to theirs\n- Honor and show love for those still in your life, making the most of relationships still in your life\n- Do something that honors them, such as the way you live your life, treating others as they did, or being more present for others who are grieving\n- Find ways to commemorate their life (small or big)\n- Create a foundation, movement, or project in their honor\n\nKessler suggests using these questions as a reference to help you consider meaning after your loss. I recommend you taking the time you need to consider each of these questions. You may find writing answers in a journal helpful, so you can review your thoughts as you explore the concept of meaning in your loved one’s life and loss.\n\n- What have you learned from loss?\n- What have you learned to value? What did you value before their death?\n- What did they value?\n- What was important to you when they lived?-\n- What is important to you now?\n- What was important to them when they lived?\n- What do I feel like I need more of?\n- What if our loved ones see through our eyes? What do you want to show them?\n- What can you do to keep this from happening to others?\n- How have you changed?\n- How has their life changed you?\n- How did their love change you?\n- What do you wish you knew before?\n- How can knowing it now bring meaning to you or to others?\n- What could you do with the information that was left behind in this loss to help other people?\n- How could what I’ve learned help others?\n- What would you like to tell others?\n- What would you like to tell others before the tragedy happens?\n- What do you know about life that you didn’t know before?\n- How can we be inspired by their life?\n- How can you help people in the same situation?\n- What could you do to bring joy to other people’s lives?\n- How can you bring joy to your own life?\n\n*Citation: Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief by David Kessler (2019)*\n\n### Share this:\n- [Share on X (Opens in new window) X](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/2022\/01\/03\/finding-meaning-from-grief\/?share=twitter&nb=1)\n- [Share on Facebook (Opens in new window) Facebook](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/2022\/01\/03\/finding-meaning-from-grief\/?share=facebook&nb=1)\n\nLike Loading...\n\n### *Related*\n\n## Post navigation\n[Previous postGrieving the Loss of a Sibling](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/2022\/01\/03\/grieving-the-loss-of-a-sibling\/)\n\n[Next postSupporting Teens after A Suicide Loss](https:\/\/fullcirclegc.org\/2022\/01\/08\/supporting-teens-after-a-suicide-loss\/)\n\n## One thought on “Finding Meaning From Grief”\n1. 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I want to share some of his thoughts around the definition of meaning.\n\n- Meaning is relative and personal, only you can find your own meaning.\n- Meaning takes time. You may not find it until months or even years after a loss.\n- Meaning doesn’t require understanding. It’s not necessary to understand why someone died in order to find meaning.\n- The “why” you must answer is not why your loved one died, but why you lived.\n  - *Why are you here? What meaning can you bring to the rest of your life? What meaning can you find in those who are living?*\n- Even when you do find meaning, you will not feel it was worth the cost of losing your loved one.\n- When we can find meaning, we are able to move forward in our grief and not become stuck.\n\nIn his book, Kessler also gives examples of what meaning can look like after the death of a loved one. It may be helpful to review these examples as you think of what meaning may look like for you after your loss. Meaning is very personal, so you may think of other ideas that will be meaningful for you.\n\n- Find gratitude for the time we had with loved ones\n- Find gratitude for the support others are giving you\n- Realize the shortness of life, the value of our life – life doesn’t always last as long as we want\n- Create a change in your life to honor loved one, transformation of your life can bring meaning to theirs\n- Honor and show love for those still in your life, making the most of relationships still in your life\n- Do something that honors them, such as the way you live your life, treating others as they did, or being more present for others who are grieving\n- Find ways to commemorate their life (small or big)\n- Create a foundation, movement, or project in their honor\n\nKessler suggests using these questions as a reference to help you consider meaning after your loss. I recommend you taking the time you need to consider each of these questions. 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Boilerpipe Text	Skip to content By Allyson England Drake, M.Ed, CT David Kessler is a bereavement expert who discusses finding meaning after the death of a loved one. I want to share some of his thoughts around the definition of meaning. Meaning is relative and personal, only you can find your own meaning. Meaning takes time. You may not find it until months or even years after a loss. Meaning doesn’t require understanding. It’s not necessary to understand why someone died in order to find meaning. The “why” you must answer is not why your loved one died, but why you lived. Why are you here? What meaning can you bring to the rest of your life? What meaning can you find in those who are living? Even when you do find meaning, you will not feel it was worth the cost of losing your loved one. When we can find meaning, we are able to move forward in our grief and not become stuck. In his book, Kessler also gives examples of what meaning can look like after the death of a loved one. It may be helpful to review these examples as you think of what meaning may look like for you after your loss. Meaning is very personal, so you may think of other ideas that will be meaningful for you. Find gratitude for the time we had with loved ones Find gratitude for the support others are giving you Realize the shortness of life, the value of our life – life doesn’t always last as long as we want Create a change in your life to honor loved one, transformation of your life can bring meaning to theirs Honor and show love for those still in your life, making the most of relationships still in your life Do something that honors them, such as the way you live your life, treating others as they did, or being more present for others who are grieving Find ways to commemorate their life (small or big) Create a foundation, movement, or project in their honor Kessler suggests using these questions as a reference to help you consider meaning after your loss. I recommend you taking the time you need to consider each of these questions. You may find writing answers in a journal helpful, so you can review your thoughts as you explore the concept of meaning in your loved one’s life and loss. What have you learned from loss? What have you learned to value? What did you value before their death? What did they value? What was important to you when they lived?- What is important to you now? What was important to them when they lived? What do I feel like I need more of? What if our loved ones see through our eyes? What do you want to show them? What can you do to keep this from happening to others? How have you changed? How has their life changed you? How did their love change you? What do you wish you knew before? How can knowing it now bring meaning to you or to others? What could you do with the information that was left behind in this loss to help other people? How could what I’ve learned help others? What would you like to tell others? What would you like to tell others before the tragedy happens? What do you know about life that you didn’t know before? How can we be inspired by their life? How can you help people in the same situation? What could you do to bring joy to other people’s lives? How can you bring joy to your own life? Citation: Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief by David Kessler (2019) Post navigation
Markdown	[Skip to content](https://fullcirclegc.org/2022/01/03/finding-meaning-from-grief/#content) - [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/fullcirclegc/) - [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/fullcirclegriefcenter/) - [LinkedIn](https://www.linkedin.com/company/full-circle-grief-center/) - [YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/@fullcirclegriefcenterrva3411) - [Donate Now](https://fullcirclegc.org/financial-support/) [Full Circle Grief Center](https://fullcirclegc.org/) Menu - [About Us](https://fullcirclegc.org/about-us/) - [Support Groups](https://fullcirclegc.org/support-groups/) - [Individual Counseling](https://fullcirclegc.org/individual-counseling/) - [Events](https://fullcirclegc.org/events/) - [Blog](https://fullcirclegc.org/blog/) - [Resources and Training](https://fullcirclegc.org/resources-and-training/) - [Donate](https://fullcirclegc.org/donate/) - [Contact](https://fullcirclegc.org/contact/) ![](https://fullcirclegc.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/06/bd978-1-1.png) # Finding Meaning From Grief [Featured](https://fullcirclegc.org/2022/01/03/finding-meaning-from-grief/) by [Webmaster FCGC](https://fullcirclegc.org/author/webmasterfcgc/), posted in [Blog](https://fullcirclegc.org/category/blog/), [Staff Articles](https://fullcirclegc.org/category/staff-articles/) By Allyson England Drake, M.Ed, CT ![](https://fullcirclegc.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/pexels-photo-775201.jpeg) David Kessler is a bereavement expert who discusses finding meaning after the death of a loved one. I want to share some of his thoughts around the definition of meaning. - Meaning is relative and personal, only you can find your own meaning. - Meaning takes time. You may not find it until months or even years after a loss. - Meaning doesn’t require understanding. It’s not necessary to understand why someone died in order to find meaning. - The “why” you must answer is not why your loved one died, but why you lived. - Why are you here? What meaning can you bring to the rest of your life? What meaning can you find in those who are living? - Even when you do find meaning, you will not feel it was worth the cost of losing your loved one. - When we can find meaning, we are able to move forward in our grief and not become stuck. In his book, Kessler also gives examples of what meaning can look like after the death of a loved one. It may be helpful to review these examples as you think of what meaning may look like for you after your loss. Meaning is very personal, so you may think of other ideas that will be meaningful for you. - Find gratitude for the time we had with loved ones - Find gratitude for the support others are giving you - Realize the shortness of life, the value of our life – life doesn’t always last as long as we want - Create a change in your life to honor loved one, transformation of your life can bring meaning to theirs - Honor and show love for those still in your life, making the most of relationships still in your life - Do something that honors them, such as the way you live your life, treating others as they did, or being more present for others who are grieving - Find ways to commemorate their life (small or big) - Create a foundation, movement, or project in their honor Kessler suggests using these questions as a reference to help you consider meaning after your loss. I recommend you taking the time you need to consider each of these questions. You may find writing answers in a journal helpful, so you can review your thoughts as you explore the concept of meaning in your loved one’s life and loss. - What have you learned from loss? - What have you learned to value? What did you value before their death? - What did they value? - What was important to you when they lived?- - What is important to you now? - What was important to them when they lived? - What do I feel like I need more of? - What if our loved ones see through our eyes? What do you want to show them? - What can you do to keep this from happening to others? - How have you changed? - How has their life changed you? - How did their love change you? - What do you wish you knew before? - How can knowing it now bring meaning to you or to others? - What could you do with the information that was left behind in this loss to help other people? - How could what I’ve learned help others? - What would you like to tell others? - What would you like to tell others before the tragedy happens? - What do you know about life that you didn’t know before? - How can we be inspired by their life? - How can you help people in the same situation? - What could you do to bring joy to other people’s lives? - How can you bring joy to your own life? 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Readable Markdown	[Skip to content](https://fullcirclegc.org/2022/01/03/finding-meaning-from-grief/#content) By Allyson England Drake, M.Ed, CT ![](https://fullcirclegc.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/pexels-photo-775201.jpeg) David Kessler is a bereavement expert who discusses finding meaning after the death of a loved one. I want to share some of his thoughts around the definition of meaning. - Meaning is relative and personal, only you can find your own meaning. - Meaning takes time. You may not find it until months or even years after a loss. - Meaning doesn’t require understanding. It’s not necessary to understand why someone died in order to find meaning. - The “why” you must answer is not why your loved one died, but why you lived. - Why are you here? What meaning can you bring to the rest of your life? What meaning can you find in those who are living? - Even when you do find meaning, you will not feel it was worth the cost of losing your loved one. - When we can find meaning, we are able to move forward in our grief and not become stuck. In his book, Kessler also gives examples of what meaning can look like after the death of a loved one. It may be helpful to review these examples as you think of what meaning may look like for you after your loss. Meaning is very personal, so you may think of other ideas that will be meaningful for you. - Find gratitude for the time we had with loved ones - Find gratitude for the support others are giving you - Realize the shortness of life, the value of our life – life doesn’t always last as long as we want - Create a change in your life to honor loved one, transformation of your life can bring meaning to theirs - Honor and show love for those still in your life, making the most of relationships still in your life - Do something that honors them, such as the way you live your life, treating others as they did, or being more present for others who are grieving - Find ways to commemorate their life (small or big) - Create a foundation, movement, or project in their honor Kessler suggests using these questions as a reference to help you consider meaning after your loss. I recommend you taking the time you need to consider each of these questions. You may find writing answers in a journal helpful, so you can review your thoughts as you explore the concept of meaning in your loved one’s life and loss. - What have you learned from loss? - What have you learned to value? What did you value before their death? - What did they value? - What was important to you when they lived?- - What is important to you now? - What was important to them when they lived? - What do I feel like I need more of? - What if our loved ones see through our eyes? What do you want to show them? - What can you do to keep this from happening to others? - How have you changed? - How has their life changed you? - How did their love change you? - What do you wish you knew before? - How can knowing it now bring meaning to you or to others? - What could you do with the information that was left behind in this loss to help other people? - How could what I’ve learned help others? - What would you like to tell others? - What would you like to tell others before the tragedy happens? - What do you know about life that you didn’t know before? - How can we be inspired by their life? - How can you help people in the same situation? - What could you do to bring joy to other people’s lives? - How can you bring joy to your own life? Citation: Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief by David Kessler (2019) ## Post navigation
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