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Calculated Shard: 47 (from laksa041)

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curl -X POST \
  'http://laksa047.int.ahrefs:8124/' \
  -H 'Content-Type: text/plain' \
  -H 'X-ClickHouse-Database: crawler3' \
  -H 'Authorization: Basic YXBpOg==' \
  -d 'SELECT getAhrefsURLFromUnparsed(src_unparsed) AS found_url, ifNull(toUnixTimestamp(download_stamp), 0) AS crawl_time, ifNull(toUnixTimestamp(props_url_first_seen), 0) AS first_indexed_time, download_http_code AS http_code, src_unparsed AS src_unparsed, src_root_hash AS src_root_hash, history_drop_reason AS history_drop_reason, meta_title AS meta_title, meta_descriptions AS meta_descriptions, attrs_boilerpipe_text AS attrs_boilerpipe_text, attrs_markdown AS attrs_markdown, attrs_readable_markdown AS attrs_readable_markdown, meta_canonical AS meta_canonical FROM crawler3.page_info_local FINAL PREWHERE (src_root_hash, src_unparsed) IN ((getAhrefsRootHashFromUnparsed(getAhrefsUnparsedNoserviceFromURL(\'https://childmind.org/article/12-tips-raising-confident-kids/\')), getAhrefsUnparsedNoserviceFromURL(\'https://childmind.org/article/12-tips-raising-confident-kids/\'))) FORMAT JSONEachRow'

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{"found_url":"https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/12-tips-raising-confident-kids\/","crawl_time":1775576999,"first_indexed_time":1484223640,"http_code":200,"src_unparsed":"org,childmind!\/article\/12-tips-raising-confident-kids\/ s443","src_root_hash":"2813447190280129447","history_drop_reason":null,"meta_title":"How to Raise Confident Kids: Tips & Techniques | Child Mind Institute","meta_descriptions":["Discover how to build confidence in kids with our 12 essential tips. Learn to support self-esteem, embrace imperfection, and set your child up for success."],"attrs_boilerpipe_text":"Right from birth, kids\nlearn new skills\nat a dizzying rate. And along with those new abilities, they also acquire the confidence to use them.\nAs children get older, that confidence can be as important as the skills themselves. To thrive, kids need to trust in their own capabilities while, at the same time, knowing that they can\nhandle it if they aren’t successful\nat something. It’s by experiencing mastery and rebounding from failure that they develop healthy self-confidence.\nHere are 12 ways you can set kids up to feel capable and get the most mileage out of their skills and talents.\n1. Model confidence yourself\nEven if you’re not quite feeling it! Seeing you tackle new tasks with optimism and lots of preparation sets a good example for kids. That doesn’t mean you have to pretend to be perfect. Do\nacknowledge your anxiety\n, but don’t focus on it — focus on the positive things you are doing to get ready.\n2. Don’t get upset about mistakes\nHelp kids see that everyone makes mistakes and the important thing is to learn from them, not dwell on them. Confident people don’t let fear of failure get in their way — not because they’re sure they won’t ever fail, but because they know how to take setbacks in stride.\n3. Encourage them to try new things\nInstead of focusing all their energy on what they already excel at, it’s good for kids to diversify. Attaining new skills makes kids feel capable and confident that they can tackle whatever comes their way.\n4. Allow kids to fail\nIt’s natural to want to protect your child from failure, but trial and error is how kids learn, and falling short on a goal helps kids find out that it’s not fatal. It can also spur kids to greater effort, which will serve them well as adults.\n5. Praise perseverance\nLearning not to give up at the first frustration or bail after one setback is an important life skill. Confidence and self-esteem are not about succeeding at everything all the time, they’re about being resilient enough to keep trying, and not being distressed if you’re not the best.\n6. Help kids find their passion\nExploring their own interests can help kids develop a sense of identity, which is essential to building confidence. Of course, seeing their talents grow will also give a huge boost to their self-esteem.\n7. Set goals\nArticulating goals, large and small, and achieving them makes kids feel strong. Help your child turn desires and dreams into actionable goals by encouraging them to make a list of things they’d like to accomplish. Then, practice breaking down longer-term goals into realistic benchmarks. You’ll be validating their interests and helping them learn the skills they’ll need to attain their goals throughout life.\n8. Celebrate effort\nPraising kids\nfor their accomplishments is great, but it’s also important to let them know you’re proud of their efforts regardless of the outcome. It takes hard work to develop new skills, and results aren’t always immediate. Let kids know you value the work they’re doing, whether they’re toddlers building with blocks or teenagers teaching themselves to play the guitar.\n9. Expect them to pitch in\nThey might complain, but kids feel more connected and valued when they’re counted on to do age-appropriate jobs, from picking up toys to doing dishes to picking up younger siblings from a play date. Homework and after-school activities are great, but being needed by your family is invaluable.\n10. Embrace imperfection\nAs grown-ups we know perfection is unrealistic, and it’s important for kids to get that message as early as possible. Help kids see that whether it’s on TV, in a magazine, or on a friend’s\nsocial media feed\n, the idea that others are always happy, successful, and perfectly dressed is a fantasy, and a destructive one. Instead, remind them that being less than perfect is human and totally okay.\n11. Set them up for success\nChallenges are good for kids, but they should also have opportunities where they can be sure to find success. Help your children get involved with activities that make them feel comfortable and confident enough to tackle a bigger challenge.\n12. Show your love\nLet your children know you love them no matter what. Win or lose the big game, good grades or bad. Even when you’re mad at them. Making sure a child knows that you think they’re great — and not just when they do great things — will bolster their self worth even when they’re not feeling good about themselves.\nTo learn more about how to raise confident kids, watch our Thriving Kids podcast episode \n“How to Help Children Build Healthy Self-Esteem.”\n \nFrequently Asked Questions\nHow do you build a kid’s confidence and self-esteem?\nOne way to help kids build confidence is to model confidence in yourself by tackling new tasks with optimism and lots of preparation. To build your kid’s self-esteem, allow them to fail so that they realize that everyone makes mistakes. 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Model confidence yourself](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/12-tips-raising-confident-kids\/#1-model-confidence-yourself)\n- [2\\. Don’t get upset about mistakes](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/12-tips-raising-confident-kids\/#2-don%E2%80%99t-get-upset-aboutmistakes)\n- [3\\. Encourage them to try new things](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/12-tips-raising-confident-kids\/#3-encourage-them-to-try-new-things)\n- [4\\. Allow kids to fail](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/12-tips-raising-confident-kids\/#4-allow-kids-to-fail)\n- [5\\. Praise perseverance](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/12-tips-raising-confident-kids\/#5-praise-perseverance)\n- [6\\. Help kids find their passion](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/12-tips-raising-confident-kids\/#6-help-kids-find-their-passion)\n- [7\\. Set goals](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/12-tips-raising-confident-kids\/#7-set-goals)\n- [8\\. Celebrate effort](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/12-tips-raising-confident-kids\/#8-celebrate-effort)\n- [9\\. Expect them to pitch in](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/12-tips-raising-confident-kids\/#9-expect-them-to-pitch-in)\n- [10\\. Embrace imperfection](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/12-tips-raising-confident-kids\/#10-embrace-imperfection)\n- [11\\. Set them up for success](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/12-tips-raising-confident-kids\/#11-set-them-up-for-success)\n- [12\\. Show your love](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/12-tips-raising-confident-kids\/#12-show-your-love)\n\n[Back to Top](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/12-tips-raising-confident-kids\/#top_of_page)\n\nRight from birth, kids [learn new skills](https:\/\/childmind.org\/guide\/developmental-milestones\/) at a dizzying rate. And along with those new abilities, they also acquire the confidence to use them.\n\nAs children get older, that confidence can be as important as the skills themselves. To thrive, kids need to trust in their own capabilities while, at the same time, knowing that they can [handle it if they aren’t successful](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/how-to-help-kids-learn-to-fail\/) at something. It’s by experiencing mastery and rebounding from failure that they develop healthy self-confidence.\n\nHere are 12 ways you can set kids up to feel capable and get the most mileage out of their skills and talents.\n\n## 1\\. Model confidence yourself\nEven if you’re not quite feeling it! Seeing you tackle new tasks with optimism and lots of preparation sets a good example for kids. That doesn’t mean you have to pretend to be perfect. Do [acknowledge your anxiety](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/how-to-avoid-passing-anxiety-on-to-your-kids\/), but don’t focus on it — focus on the positive things you are doing to get ready.\n\n## 2\\. Don’t get upset about mistakes\nHelp kids see that everyone makes mistakes and the important thing is to learn from them, not dwell on them. Confident people don’t let fear of failure get in their way — not because they’re sure they won’t ever fail, but because they know how to take setbacks in stride.\n\n## 3\\. Encourage them to try new things\nInstead of focusing all their energy on what they already excel at, it’s good for kids to diversify. Attaining new skills makes kids feel capable and confident that they can tackle whatever comes their way.\n\n## 4\\. Allow kids to fail\nIt’s natural to want to protect your child from failure, but trial and error is how kids learn, and falling short on a goal helps kids find out that it’s not fatal. It can also spur kids to greater effort, which will serve them well as adults.\n\n## 5\\. Praise perseverance\nLearning not to give up at the first frustration or bail after one setback is an important life skill. Confidence and self-esteem are not about succeeding at everything all the time, they’re about being resilient enough to keep trying, and not being distressed if you’re not the best.\n\n## 6\\. Help kids find their passion\nExploring their own interests can help kids develop a sense of identity, which is essential to building confidence. Of course, seeing their talents grow will also give a huge boost to their self-esteem.\n\n[![How do I help my child build healthy self-esteem?](https:\/\/childmind.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/PPTK-How-do-I-help-my-child-build-healthy-self-esteem-400x400.jpg) How do I help my child build healthy self-esteem? Download Guide](https:\/\/childmind.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/3_Healthy-Growth_PPTK.pdf)\n\n## 7\\. Set goals\nArticulating goals, large and small, and achieving them makes kids feel strong. Help your child turn desires and dreams into actionable goals by encouraging them to make a list of things they’d like to accomplish. Then, practice breaking down longer-term goals into realistic benchmarks. You’ll be validating their interests and helping them learn the skills they’ll need to attain their goals throughout life.\n\n## 8\\. Celebrate effort\n[Praising kids](https:\/\/childmind.org\/ask-an-expert-qa\/does-it-matter-how-i-praise-my-child\/) for their accomplishments is great, but it’s also important to let them know you’re proud of their efforts regardless of the outcome. It takes hard work to develop new skills, and results aren’t always immediate. Let kids know you value the work they’re doing, whether they’re toddlers building with blocks or teenagers teaching themselves to play the guitar.\n\n## 9\\. Expect them to pitch in\nThey might complain, but kids feel more connected and valued when they’re counted on to do age-appropriate jobs, from picking up toys to doing dishes to picking up younger siblings from a play date. Homework and after-school activities are great, but being needed by your family is invaluable.\n\n## 10\\. Embrace imperfection\nAs grown-ups we know perfection is unrealistic, and it’s important for kids to get that message as early as possible. Help kids see that whether it’s on TV, in a magazine, or on a friend’s [social media feed](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/social-media-and-self-doubt\/), the idea that others are always happy, successful, and perfectly dressed is a fantasy, and a destructive one. Instead, remind them that being less than perfect is human and totally okay.\n\n## 11\\. Set them up for success\nChallenges are good for kids, but they should also have opportunities where they can be sure to find success. Help your children get involved with activities that make them feel comfortable and confident enough to tackle a bigger challenge.\n\n## 12\\. Show your love\nLet your children know you love them no matter what. Win or lose the big game, good grades or bad. Even when you’re mad at them. Making sure a child knows that you think they’re great — and not just when they do great things — will bolster their self worth even when they’re not feeling good about themselves.\n\n*To learn more about how to raise confident kids, watch our Thriving Kids podcast episode [“How to Help Children Build Healthy Self-Esteem.”](https:\/\/youtu.be\/7cz2SMZJoDo)*\n\n## Frequently Asked Questions\nHow do you build a kid’s confidence and self-esteem?\n\nOne way to help kids build confidence is to model confidence in yourself by tackling new tasks with optimism and lots of preparation. To build your kid’s self-esteem, allow them to fail so that they realize that everyone makes mistakes. Another way you can build kids’ self-esteem is to encourage them to try new things and find their passion, which will allow them to develop a sense of identity and build confidence in facing whatever comes their way.\n\nLast reviewed or updated on November 7, 2025.\n\nLearn more about our [Family Resource Center](https:\/\/childmind.org\/resources\/) and our [editorial mission](https:\/\/childmind.org\/about-us\/editorial-mission\/).\n\nTopics\n\n[Confidence & Self-Esteem](https:\/\/childmind.org\/topics\/confidence-and-self-esteem\/)\n\n### Was this article helpful?\nYes\n\nNo\n\n[Copy link Link copied](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/12-tips-raising-confident-kids\/)   [Share](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/12-tips-raising-confident-kids\/)   [Download](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/12-tips-raising-confident-kids\/)\n\n### More Like This\n- [How to Build Boys’ Self-Confidence](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/how-to-build-boys-self-confidence\/)\n- [Raising Girls With Healthy Self-Esteem](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/raising-girls-with-healthy-self-esteem\/)\n- [How to Help Kids Who Are Too Hard on Themselves](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/how-to-help-kids-who-are-too-hard-on-themselves\/)\n\n### Topics\n[Confidence & Self-Esteem](https:\/\/childmind.org\/topics\/confidence-and-self-esteem\/)\n\n### Related Reading\n- [![How to Build Boys’ Self-Confidence](https:\/\/childmind.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/02-late-4-e1697206666834-640x300.png) How to Build Boys’ Self-Confidence Boys face their own set of gender-based challenges. 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And along with those new abilities, they also acquire the confidence to use them.\n\nAs children get older, that confidence can be as important as the skills themselves. To thrive, kids need to trust in their own capabilities while, at the same time, knowing that they can [handle it if they aren’t successful](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/how-to-help-kids-learn-to-fail\/) at something. It’s by experiencing mastery and rebounding from failure that they develop healthy self-confidence.\n\nHere are 12 ways you can set kids up to feel capable and get the most mileage out of their skills and talents.\n\n1\\. Model confidence yourself\n\nEven if you’re not quite feeling it! Seeing you tackle new tasks with optimism and lots of preparation sets a good example for kids. That doesn’t mean you have to pretend to be perfect. Do [acknowledge your anxiety](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/how-to-avoid-passing-anxiety-on-to-your-kids\/), but don’t focus on it — focus on the positive things you are doing to get ready.\n\n2\\. Don’t get upset about mistakes\n\nHelp kids see that everyone makes mistakes and the important thing is to learn from them, not dwell on them. Confident people don’t let fear of failure get in their way — not because they’re sure they won’t ever fail, but because they know how to take setbacks in stride.\n\n3\\. Encourage them to try new things\n\nInstead of focusing all their energy on what they already excel at, it’s good for kids to diversify. Attaining new skills makes kids feel capable and confident that they can tackle whatever comes their way.\n\n4\\. Allow kids to fail\n\nIt’s natural to want to protect your child from failure, but trial and error is how kids learn, and falling short on a goal helps kids find out that it’s not fatal. It can also spur kids to greater effort, which will serve them well as adults.\n\n5\\. Praise perseverance\n\nLearning not to give up at the first frustration or bail after one setback is an important life skill. Confidence and self-esteem are not about succeeding at everything all the time, they’re about being resilient enough to keep trying, and not being distressed if you’re not the best.\n\n6\\. Help kids find their passion\n\nExploring their own interests can help kids develop a sense of identity, which is essential to building confidence. Of course, seeing their talents grow will also give a huge boost to their self-esteem.\n\n7\\. Set goals\n\nArticulating goals, large and small, and achieving them makes kids feel strong. Help your child turn desires and dreams into actionable goals by encouraging them to make a list of things they’d like to accomplish. Then, practice breaking down longer-term goals into realistic benchmarks. You’ll be validating their interests and helping them learn the skills they’ll need to attain their goals throughout life.\n\n8\\. Celebrate effort\n\n[Praising kids](https:\/\/childmind.org\/ask-an-expert-qa\/does-it-matter-how-i-praise-my-child\/) for their accomplishments is great, but it’s also important to let them know you’re proud of their efforts regardless of the outcome. It takes hard work to develop new skills, and results aren’t always immediate. Let kids know you value the work they’re doing, whether they’re toddlers building with blocks or teenagers teaching themselves to play the guitar.\n\n9\\. Expect them to pitch in\n\nThey might complain, but kids feel more connected and valued when they’re counted on to do age-appropriate jobs, from picking up toys to doing dishes to picking up younger siblings from a play date. Homework and after-school activities are great, but being needed by your family is invaluable.\n\n10\\. Embrace imperfection\n\nAs grown-ups we know perfection is unrealistic, and it’s important for kids to get that message as early as possible. Help kids see that whether it’s on TV, in a magazine, or on a friend’s [social media feed](https:\/\/childmind.org\/article\/social-media-and-self-doubt\/), the idea that others are always happy, successful, and perfectly dressed is a fantasy, and a destructive one. Instead, remind them that being less than perfect is human and totally okay.\n\n11\\. Set them up for success\n\nChallenges are good for kids, but they should also have opportunities where they can be sure to find success. Help your children get involved with activities that make them feel comfortable and confident enough to tackle a bigger challenge.\n\n12\\. Show your love\n\nLet your children know you love them no matter what. Win or lose the big game, good grades or bad. Even when you’re mad at them. Making sure a child knows that you think they’re great — and not just when they do great things — will bolster their self worth even when they’re not feeling good about themselves.\n\n*To learn more about how to raise confident kids, watch our Thriving Kids podcast episode [“How to Help Children Build Healthy Self-Esteem.”](https:\/\/youtu.be\/7cz2SMZJoDo)*\n\n## Frequently Asked Questions\nHow do you build a kid’s confidence and self-esteem?\n\nOne way to help kids build confidence is to model confidence in yourself by tackling new tasks with optimism and lots of preparation. To build your kid’s self-esteem, allow them to fail so that they realize that everyone makes mistakes. Another way you can build kids’ self-esteem is to encourage them to try new things and find their passion, which will allow them to develop a sense of identity and build confidence in facing whatever comes their way.\n\nLast reviewed or updated on November 7, 2025.","meta_canonical":null}

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Boilerpipe Text	Right from birth, kids learn new skills at a dizzying rate. And along with those new abilities, they also acquire the confidence to use them. As children get older, that confidence can be as important as the skills themselves. To thrive, kids need to trust in their own capabilities while, at the same time, knowing that they can handle it if they aren’t successful at something. It’s by experiencing mastery and rebounding from failure that they develop healthy self-confidence. Here are 12 ways you can set kids up to feel capable and get the most mileage out of their skills and talents. 1. Model confidence yourself Even if you’re not quite feeling it! Seeing you tackle new tasks with optimism and lots of preparation sets a good example for kids. That doesn’t mean you have to pretend to be perfect. Do acknowledge your anxiety , but don’t focus on it — focus on the positive things you are doing to get ready. 2. Don’t get upset about mistakes Help kids see that everyone makes mistakes and the important thing is to learn from them, not dwell on them. Confident people don’t let fear of failure get in their way — not because they’re sure they won’t ever fail, but because they know how to take setbacks in stride. 3. Encourage them to try new things Instead of focusing all their energy on what they already excel at, it’s good for kids to diversify. Attaining new skills makes kids feel capable and confident that they can tackle whatever comes their way. 4. Allow kids to fail It’s natural to want to protect your child from failure, but trial and error is how kids learn, and falling short on a goal helps kids find out that it’s not fatal. It can also spur kids to greater effort, which will serve them well as adults. 5. Praise perseverance Learning not to give up at the first frustration or bail after one setback is an important life skill. Confidence and self-esteem are not about succeeding at everything all the time, they’re about being resilient enough to keep trying, and not being distressed if you’re not the best. 6. Help kids find their passion Exploring their own interests can help kids develop a sense of identity, which is essential to building confidence. Of course, seeing their talents grow will also give a huge boost to their self-esteem. 7. Set goals Articulating goals, large and small, and achieving them makes kids feel strong. Help your child turn desires and dreams into actionable goals by encouraging them to make a list of things they’d like to accomplish. Then, practice breaking down longer-term goals into realistic benchmarks. You’ll be validating their interests and helping them learn the skills they’ll need to attain their goals throughout life. 8. Celebrate effort Praising kids for their accomplishments is great, but it’s also important to let them know you’re proud of their efforts regardless of the outcome. It takes hard work to develop new skills, and results aren’t always immediate. Let kids know you value the work they’re doing, whether they’re toddlers building with blocks or teenagers teaching themselves to play the guitar. 9. Expect them to pitch in They might complain, but kids feel more connected and valued when they’re counted on to do age-appropriate jobs, from picking up toys to doing dishes to picking up younger siblings from a play date. Homework and after-school activities are great, but being needed by your family is invaluable. 10. Embrace imperfection As grown-ups we know perfection is unrealistic, and it’s important for kids to get that message as early as possible. Help kids see that whether it’s on TV, in a magazine, or on a friend’s social media feed , the idea that others are always happy, successful, and perfectly dressed is a fantasy, and a destructive one. Instead, remind them that being less than perfect is human and totally okay. 11. Set them up for success Challenges are good for kids, but they should also have opportunities where they can be sure to find success. Help your children get involved with activities that make them feel comfortable and confident enough to tackle a bigger challenge. 12. Show your love Let your children know you love them no matter what. Win or lose the big game, good grades or bad. Even when you’re mad at them. Making sure a child knows that you think they’re great — and not just when they do great things — will bolster their self worth even when they’re not feeling good about themselves. To learn more about how to raise confident kids, watch our Thriving Kids podcast episode “How to Help Children Build Healthy Self-Esteem.” Frequently Asked Questions How do you build a kid’s confidence and self-esteem? One way to help kids build confidence is to model confidence in yourself by tackling new tasks with optimism and lots of preparation. To build your kid’s self-esteem, allow them to fail so that they realize that everyone makes mistakes. Another way you can build kids’ self-esteem is to encourage them to try new things and find their passion, which will allow them to develop a sense of identity and build confidence in facing whatever comes their way. Last reviewed or updated on November 7, 2025.
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Model confidence yourself](https://childmind.org/article/12-tips-raising-confident-kids/#1-model-confidence-yourself) - [2\. Don’t get upset about mistakes](https://childmind.org/article/12-tips-raising-confident-kids/#2-don%E2%80%99t-get-upset-aboutmistakes) - [3\. Encourage them to try new things](https://childmind.org/article/12-tips-raising-confident-kids/#3-encourage-them-to-try-new-things) - [4\. Allow kids to fail](https://childmind.org/article/12-tips-raising-confident-kids/#4-allow-kids-to-fail) - [5\. Praise perseverance](https://childmind.org/article/12-tips-raising-confident-kids/#5-praise-perseverance) - [6\. Help kids find their passion](https://childmind.org/article/12-tips-raising-confident-kids/#6-help-kids-find-their-passion) - [7\. Set goals](https://childmind.org/article/12-tips-raising-confident-kids/#7-set-goals) - [8\. Celebrate effort](https://childmind.org/article/12-tips-raising-confident-kids/#8-celebrate-effort) - [9\. Expect them to pitch in](https://childmind.org/article/12-tips-raising-confident-kids/#9-expect-them-to-pitch-in) - [10\. Embrace imperfection](https://childmind.org/article/12-tips-raising-confident-kids/#10-embrace-imperfection) - [11\. Set them up for success](https://childmind.org/article/12-tips-raising-confident-kids/#11-set-them-up-for-success) - [12\. Show your love](https://childmind.org/article/12-tips-raising-confident-kids/#12-show-your-love) [Back to Top](https://childmind.org/article/12-tips-raising-confident-kids/#top_of_page) Right from birth, kids [learn new skills](https://childmind.org/guide/developmental-milestones/) at a dizzying rate. And along with those new abilities, they also acquire the confidence to use them. As children get older, that confidence can be as important as the skills themselves. To thrive, kids need to trust in their own capabilities while, at the same time, knowing that they can [handle it if they aren’t successful](https://childmind.org/article/how-to-help-kids-learn-to-fail/) at something. It’s by experiencing mastery and rebounding from failure that they develop healthy self-confidence. Here are 12 ways you can set kids up to feel capable and get the most mileage out of their skills and talents. ## 1\. Model confidence yourself Even if you’re not quite feeling it! Seeing you tackle new tasks with optimism and lots of preparation sets a good example for kids. That doesn’t mean you have to pretend to be perfect. Do [acknowledge your anxiety](https://childmind.org/article/how-to-avoid-passing-anxiety-on-to-your-kids/), but don’t focus on it — focus on the positive things you are doing to get ready. ## 2\. Don’t get upset about mistakes Help kids see that everyone makes mistakes and the important thing is to learn from them, not dwell on them. Confident people don’t let fear of failure get in their way — not because they’re sure they won’t ever fail, but because they know how to take setbacks in stride. ## 3\. Encourage them to try new things Instead of focusing all their energy on what they already excel at, it’s good for kids to diversify. Attaining new skills makes kids feel capable and confident that they can tackle whatever comes their way. ## 4\. Allow kids to fail It’s natural to want to protect your child from failure, but trial and error is how kids learn, and falling short on a goal helps kids find out that it’s not fatal. It can also spur kids to greater effort, which will serve them well as adults. ## 5\. Praise perseverance Learning not to give up at the first frustration or bail after one setback is an important life skill. Confidence and self-esteem are not about succeeding at everything all the time, they’re about being resilient enough to keep trying, and not being distressed if you’re not the best. ## 6\. Help kids find their passion Exploring their own interests can help kids develop a sense of identity, which is essential to building confidence. Of course, seeing their talents grow will also give a huge boost to their self-esteem. [![How do I help my child build healthy self-esteem?](https://childmind.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/PPTK-How-do-I-help-my-child-build-healthy-self-esteem-400x400.jpg) How do I help my child build healthy self-esteem? Download Guide](https://childmind.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/3_Healthy-Growth_PPTK.pdf) ## 7\. Set goals Articulating goals, large and small, and achieving them makes kids feel strong. Help your child turn desires and dreams into actionable goals by encouraging them to make a list of things they’d like to accomplish. Then, practice breaking down longer-term goals into realistic benchmarks. You’ll be validating their interests and helping them learn the skills they’ll need to attain their goals throughout life. ## 8\. Celebrate effort [Praising kids](https://childmind.org/ask-an-expert-qa/does-it-matter-how-i-praise-my-child/) for their accomplishments is great, but it’s also important to let them know you’re proud of their efforts regardless of the outcome. It takes hard work to develop new skills, and results aren’t always immediate. Let kids know you value the work they’re doing, whether they’re toddlers building with blocks or teenagers teaching themselves to play the guitar. ## 9\. Expect them to pitch in They might complain, but kids feel more connected and valued when they’re counted on to do age-appropriate jobs, from picking up toys to doing dishes to picking up younger siblings from a play date. Homework and after-school activities are great, but being needed by your family is invaluable. ## 10\. Embrace imperfection As grown-ups we know perfection is unrealistic, and it’s important for kids to get that message as early as possible. Help kids see that whether it’s on TV, in a magazine, or on a friend’s [social media feed](https://childmind.org/article/social-media-and-self-doubt/), the idea that others are always happy, successful, and perfectly dressed is a fantasy, and a destructive one. Instead, remind them that being less than perfect is human and totally okay. ## 11\. Set them up for success Challenges are good for kids, but they should also have opportunities where they can be sure to find success. Help your children get involved with activities that make them feel comfortable and confident enough to tackle a bigger challenge. ## 12\. Show your love Let your children know you love them no matter what. Win or lose the big game, good grades or bad. Even when you’re mad at them. Making sure a child knows that you think they’re great — and not just when they do great things — will bolster their self worth even when they’re not feeling good about themselves. To learn more about how to raise confident kids, watch our Thriving Kids podcast episode [“How to Help Children Build Healthy Self-Esteem.”](https://youtu.be/7cz2SMZJoDo) ## Frequently Asked Questions How do you build a kid’s confidence and self-esteem? One way to help kids build confidence is to model confidence in yourself by tackling new tasks with optimism and lots of preparation. To build your kid’s self-esteem, allow them to fail so that they realize that everyone makes mistakes. Another way you can build kids’ self-esteem is to encourage them to try new things and find their passion, which will allow them to develop a sense of identity and build confidence in facing whatever comes their way. Last reviewed or updated on November 7, 2025. Learn more about our [Family Resource Center](https://childmind.org/resources/) and our [editorial mission](https://childmind.org/about-us/editorial-mission/). 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Readable Markdown	Right from birth, kids [learn new skills](https://childmind.org/guide/developmental-milestones/) at a dizzying rate. And along with those new abilities, they also acquire the confidence to use them. As children get older, that confidence can be as important as the skills themselves. To thrive, kids need to trust in their own capabilities while, at the same time, knowing that they can [handle it if they aren’t successful](https://childmind.org/article/how-to-help-kids-learn-to-fail/) at something. It’s by experiencing mastery and rebounding from failure that they develop healthy self-confidence. Here are 12 ways you can set kids up to feel capable and get the most mileage out of their skills and talents. 1\. Model confidence yourself Even if you’re not quite feeling it! Seeing you tackle new tasks with optimism and lots of preparation sets a good example for kids. That doesn’t mean you have to pretend to be perfect. Do [acknowledge your anxiety](https://childmind.org/article/how-to-avoid-passing-anxiety-on-to-your-kids/), but don’t focus on it — focus on the positive things you are doing to get ready. 2\. Don’t get upset about mistakes Help kids see that everyone makes mistakes and the important thing is to learn from them, not dwell on them. Confident people don’t let fear of failure get in their way — not because they’re sure they won’t ever fail, but because they know how to take setbacks in stride. 3\. Encourage them to try new things Instead of focusing all their energy on what they already excel at, it’s good for kids to diversify. Attaining new skills makes kids feel capable and confident that they can tackle whatever comes their way. 4\. Allow kids to fail It’s natural to want to protect your child from failure, but trial and error is how kids learn, and falling short on a goal helps kids find out that it’s not fatal. It can also spur kids to greater effort, which will serve them well as adults. 5\. Praise perseverance Learning not to give up at the first frustration or bail after one setback is an important life skill. Confidence and self-esteem are not about succeeding at everything all the time, they’re about being resilient enough to keep trying, and not being distressed if you’re not the best. 6\. Help kids find their passion Exploring their own interests can help kids develop a sense of identity, which is essential to building confidence. Of course, seeing their talents grow will also give a huge boost to their self-esteem. 7\. Set goals Articulating goals, large and small, and achieving them makes kids feel strong. Help your child turn desires and dreams into actionable goals by encouraging them to make a list of things they’d like to accomplish. Then, practice breaking down longer-term goals into realistic benchmarks. You’ll be validating their interests and helping them learn the skills they’ll need to attain their goals throughout life. 8\. Celebrate effort [Praising kids](https://childmind.org/ask-an-expert-qa/does-it-matter-how-i-praise-my-child/) for their accomplishments is great, but it’s also important to let them know you’re proud of their efforts regardless of the outcome. It takes hard work to develop new skills, and results aren’t always immediate. Let kids know you value the work they’re doing, whether they’re toddlers building with blocks or teenagers teaching themselves to play the guitar. 9\. Expect them to pitch in They might complain, but kids feel more connected and valued when they’re counted on to do age-appropriate jobs, from picking up toys to doing dishes to picking up younger siblings from a play date. Homework and after-school activities are great, but being needed by your family is invaluable. 10\. Embrace imperfection As grown-ups we know perfection is unrealistic, and it’s important for kids to get that message as early as possible. Help kids see that whether it’s on TV, in a magazine, or on a friend’s [social media feed](https://childmind.org/article/social-media-and-self-doubt/), the idea that others are always happy, successful, and perfectly dressed is a fantasy, and a destructive one. Instead, remind them that being less than perfect is human and totally okay. 11\. Set them up for success Challenges are good for kids, but they should also have opportunities where they can be sure to find success. Help your children get involved with activities that make them feel comfortable and confident enough to tackle a bigger challenge. 12\. Show your love Let your children know you love them no matter what. Win or lose the big game, good grades or bad. Even when you’re mad at them. Making sure a child knows that you think they’re great — and not just when they do great things — will bolster their self worth even when they’re not feeling good about themselves. To learn more about how to raise confident kids, watch our Thriving Kids podcast episode [“How to Help Children Build Healthy Self-Esteem.”](https://youtu.be/7cz2SMZJoDo) ## Frequently Asked Questions How do you build a kid’s confidence and self-esteem? One way to help kids build confidence is to model confidence in yourself by tackling new tasks with optimism and lots of preparation. To build your kid’s self-esteem, allow them to fail so that they realize that everyone makes mistakes. Another way you can build kids’ self-esteem is to encourage them to try new things and find their passion, which will allow them to develop a sense of identity and build confidence in facing whatever comes their way. Last reviewed or updated on November 7, 2025.
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