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Calculated Shard: 138 (from laksa077)

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curl -X POST \
  'http://laksa138.int.ahrefs:8124/' \
  -H 'Content-Type: text/plain' \
  -H 'X-ClickHouse-Database: crawler3' \
  -H 'Authorization: Basic YXBpOg==' \
  -d 'SELECT getAhrefsURLFromUnparsed(src_unparsed) AS found_url, ifNull(toUnixTimestamp(download_stamp), 0) AS crawl_time, ifNull(toUnixTimestamp(props_url_first_seen), 0) AS first_indexed_time, download_http_code AS http_code, src_unparsed AS src_unparsed, src_root_hash AS src_root_hash, history_drop_reason AS history_drop_reason, meta_title AS meta_title, meta_descriptions AS meta_descriptions, attrs_boilerpipe_text AS attrs_boilerpipe_text, attrs_markdown AS attrs_markdown, attrs_readable_markdown AS attrs_readable_markdown, meta_canonical AS meta_canonical FROM crawler3.page_info_local FINAL PREWHERE (src_root_hash, src_unparsed) IN ((getAhrefsRootHashFromUnparsed(getAhrefsUnparsedNoserviceFromURL(\'https://au.reachout.com/mental-wellbeing/confidence/how-to-build-self-confidence\')), getAhrefsUnparsedNoserviceFromURL(\'https://au.reachout.com/mental-wellbeing/confidence/how-to-build-self-confidence\'))) FORMAT JSONEachRow'

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Here’s some tips that you can use to learn how to build self-confidence.\nThis can help if:\nyou want to know more about self-confidence\nyou wish you were a more confident person\nyou want some practical steps to build your self-confidence.\nWhat is a confident person?\nNot everyone is born with an inbuilt sense of self-confidence. Sometimes it can be hard to develop confidence, either because personal experiences have caused you to lose confidence or because you suffer from low self-esteem.\nA confident person:\ndoes what they believe is right, even if it’s unpopular\nis willing to take risks\nadmits their mistakes and learns from them\nis able to accept a compliment\nis optimistic.\nTips for building self-confidence\nThere are a number of things you can do to build your confidence. Some of them are just small changes to your frame of mind; others you’ll have to work on for a bit longer to make them familiar habits.\nLook at what you’ve already achieved\nIt’s easy to lose confidence if you believe you haven’t achieved anything. Make a list of all the things you’re proud of in your life, whether it’s getting a good mark on an exam or learning to surf. Keep the list close by and add to it whenever you do something you’re proud of. When you’re low in confidence, pull out the list and use it to remind yourself of all the awesome stuff you've done.\nRemind yourself of your personal strengths and talents\nEveryone has strengths and talents. What are yours? Recognising what you’re good at, and trying to build on those things, will help you to build confidence in your own abilities.\nSet some realistic goals\nSet some goals\nand write down the steps you need to take to achieve them. They don’t have to be big goals; they can even be things like baking a cake or planning a night out with friends. Just aim for some small achievements that you can tick off a list to help you gain confidence in your ability to get stuff done.\nTalk yourself up\nYou’re never going to feel confident if you have negative commentary running through your mind telling you that you’re no good. Think about your\nself-talk\nand how that might be affecting your self-confidence. Treat yourself like you would your best friend and cheer yourself on.\nMake time for your hobbies\nTry to find something that you’re really passionate about. It could be photography, sport, knitting or anything else! When you’ve worked out your passion, commit yourself to giving it a go. Chances are, if you’re interested or passionate about a certain activity, you’re more likely to be motivated and you’ll build skills more quickly.\nIn the videos below, youth advocate Maddie and counsellor Tigist Kebede chat about their best tips for building self-confidence.\nVideo transcript\n.\nView transcript\n.\nIf you’re not feeling better\nSometimes the quick fixes don’t help in the long term. If you’re feeling bad and things just don’t seem to be improving, it’s worth talking to someone who knows how to help. Professionals such as\ncounsellors\nand\npsychologists\ncan help you develop strategies to help you build up your confidence. They may also be able to help you understand any underlying problems that might be causing you to feel bad about yourself.\nMental health support when and where you need it\nMOST is a digital mental health service for young people, offering 1-on-1 professional support, a safe online community and tailored therapy journeys.\nWant to chat with a peer worker who can listen to you and support you?\nBook a free, text-based session with ReachOut PeerChat.\nTalking out your worries with a supportive community of people who have been through similar situations can also be a really helpful way to build your self-confidence. Check out\nHeadspace’s online communities\n. They're safe spaces where you can share experiences, learn from others and support each other.","attrs_markdown":"[Skip to main content](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/mental-wellbeing\/confidence\/how-to-build-self-confidence#main-content)\n\n[For Young People](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/)\n\n[For Parents\/Carers](https:\/\/parents.au.reachout.com\/)\n\n[For Schools](https:\/\/schools.au.reachout.com\/)\n\n[About us](https:\/\/about.au.reachout.com\/)\n\n[Urgent help](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/urgent-help)\n\n- Topics\n  - [Anxiety](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/mental-health-issues\/anxiety)\n  - [Bullying](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/bullying)\n  - [Depression](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/mental-health-issues\/depression)\n  - [Relationships](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/relationships)\n  - [Self-care](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/mental-wellbeing\/self-care)\n  - [Stress](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/challenges-and-coping\/stress)\n  - [Study, work and money](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/study-work-and-money)\n  - [View all](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/all-topics)\n- [PeerChat](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/peerchat)\n- Explore\n  - [Ask ReachOut](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/ask-ro)\n  - [Tools and apps](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/tools-and-apps)\n  - [NextStep](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/#nextstep)\n- [First Nations](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/collections\/yarn-up)\n\nCOMMON SEARCHES:\n\n[Anxiety](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/search?q=Anxiety)\n\n[Depression](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/search?q=Depression)\n\n[Self-harm](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/search?q=Self-harm)\n\n[Grief](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/search?q=Grief)\n\n[ADHD](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/search?q=ADHD)\n\n[Self-care](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/search?q=Self-care)\n\n[Body image](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/search?q=Body%20image)\n\nREACHOUT SUPPORT OPTIONS:\n\n[PeerChat](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/peerchat)[First Nations](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/collections\/yarn-up)[Urgent Help](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/urgent-help)\n\n[Urgent help](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/urgent-help)\n***\nTell us what you think about ReachOut and you could win a \\$100 voucher, [take the survey now](https:\/\/reachout.questionpro.com.au\/t\/mRnFVZRnFV).\n\n[Take our survey and you could win a \\$100 voucher](https:\/\/reachout.questionpro.com.au\/t\/mRnFUZRnFU).\n\n1. [Confidence](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/mental-wellbeing\/confidence)\n2. How to build self-confidence\n# How to build self-confidence\n\nBy [ReachOut Content Team](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/authors\/reachout-content-team)\n\nPublished 05 September 2023 • 3 minute read\n***\nA lack of self-confidence comes in many shapes and forms, and learning how to build confidence is an ongoing project for most of us – we are all a work in progress! Here’s some tips that you can use to learn how to build self-confidence.\n\n### This can help if:\n- you want to know more about self-confidence\n- you wish you were a more confident person\n- you want some practical steps to build your self-confidence.\n\n![Five friends sitting together outside, smiling and laughing.](https:\/\/images.ctfassets.net\/qr4fhhcghyn4\/q0Dy6zCb2XusjqKSQNO1m\/dfe9e82430b62caf5734e9bf1114d0a7\/friends_laughing.jpg?w=3840&q=75&fm=webp)\n\n## What is a confident person?\nNot everyone is born with an inbuilt sense of self-confidence. Sometimes it can be hard to develop confidence, either because personal experiences have caused you to lose confidence or because you suffer from low self-esteem.\n\nA confident person:\n\n- does what they believe is right, even if it’s unpopular\n- is willing to take risks\n- admits their mistakes and learns from them\n- is able to accept a compliment\n- is optimistic.\n## Tips for building self-confidence\nThere are a number of things you can do to build your confidence. Some of them are just small changes to your frame of mind; others you’ll have to work on for a bit longer to make them familiar habits.\n\n### **Look at what you’ve already achieved**\nIt’s easy to lose confidence if you believe you haven’t achieved anything. Make a list of all the things you’re proud of in your life, whether it’s getting a good mark on an exam or learning to surf. Keep the list close by and add to it whenever you do something you’re proud of. When you’re low in confidence, pull out the list and use it to remind yourself of all the awesome stuff you've done.\n\n### Remind yourself of your personal strengths and talents\nEveryone has strengths and talents. What are yours? Recognising what you’re good at, and trying to build on those things, will help you to build confidence in your own abilities.\n\n### **Set some realistic goals**\n[Set some goals](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/mental-wellbeing\/setting-goals\/how-to-set-goals) and write down the steps you need to take to achieve them. They don’t have to be big goals; they can even be things like baking a cake or planning a night out with friends. Just aim for some small achievements that you can tick off a list to help you gain confidence in your ability to get stuff done.\n\n### **Talk yourself up**\nYou’re never going to feel confident if you have negative commentary running through your mind telling you that you’re no good. Think about your [self-talk](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/mental-wellbeing\/confidence\/3-ways-to-talk-yourself-up) and how that might be affecting your self-confidence. Treat yourself like you would your best friend and cheer yourself on.\n\n### **Make time for your hobbies**\nTry to find something that you’re really passionate about. It could be photography, sport, knitting or anything else! When you’ve worked out your passion, commit yourself to giving it a go. Chances are, if you’re interested or passionate about a certain activity, you’re more likely to be motivated and you’ll build skills more quickly.\n\nIn the videos below, youth advocate Maddie and counsellor Tigist Kebede chat about their best tips for building self-confidence.\n\n\n[Video transcript](https:\/\/assets.ctfassets.net\/qr4fhhcghyn4\/3cyIDihuzLsHHT3iKQWC13\/09d13f1db321ccf01a89efc236122d78\/Remember_to_be_kind_to_yourself_pt1.txt).\n\n\n[View transcript](https:\/\/assets.ctfassets.net\/qr4fhhcghyn4\/6muCE7k0F4DCoPaMzLkNx3\/c3f0b54e373dc6e17d5dbf494809d816\/Remember_to_be_kind_to_yourself_pt2.txt).\n\n## If you’re not feeling better\nSometimes the quick fixes don’t help in the long term. If you’re feeling bad and things just don’t seem to be improving, it’s worth talking to someone who knows how to help. Professionals such as [counsellors](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/mental-health-issues\/professional-help\/what-do-counsellors-do) and [psychologists](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/mental-health-issues\/professional-help\/what-do-psychologists-do) can help you develop strategies to help you build up your confidence. They may also be able to help you understand any underlying problems that might be causing you to feel bad about yourself.\n\n[![MOST thumbnail 2.0](https:\/\/images.ctfassets.net\/qr4fhhcghyn4\/1hmEIe2q8ybXc4aHRR7LOl\/3788d477fe8c73e7f3a6ffc1b65ef13d\/logo-most.webp?w=3840&q=75&fm=webp) Mental health support when and where you need it MOST is a digital mental health service for young people, offering 1-on-1 professional support, a safe online community and tailored therapy journeys. Get help](https:\/\/app.most.org.au\/landing?to=home&utm_source=ro&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=most&utm_id=2)\n\nWant to chat with a peer worker who can listen to you and support you? [Book a free, text-based session with ReachOut PeerChat.](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/peerchat)\n\nTalking out your worries with a supportive community of people who have been through similar situations can also be a really helpful way to build your self-confidence. Check out [Headspace’s online communities](https:\/\/my.headspace.org.au\/online-communities?utm_source=ReachOut&utm_medium=OC&utm_content=eHeadspace). They're safe spaces where you can share experiences, learn from others and support each other.\n\n## What can I do now?\n- Write your list of strengths and talents, or get cracking on some goal setting\\!\n- Hear how TikToker Ben Stubbs [bounces back with confidence](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/mental-wellbeing\/confidence\/all-game-no-shame-bounce-back-with-confidence).\n- Want to chat with a peer worker who can listen to you and support you? 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Here’s some tips that you can use to learn how to build self-confidence.\n\n### This can help if:\n- you want to know more about self-confidence\n- you wish you were a more confident person\n- you want some practical steps to build your self-confidence.\n\n![Five friends sitting together outside, smiling and laughing.](https:\/\/images.ctfassets.net\/qr4fhhcghyn4\/q0Dy6zCb2XusjqKSQNO1m\/dfe9e82430b62caf5734e9bf1114d0a7\/friends_laughing.jpg?w=3840&q=75&fm=webp)\n\n## What is a confident person?\nNot everyone is born with an inbuilt sense of self-confidence. Sometimes it can be hard to develop confidence, either because personal experiences have caused you to lose confidence or because you suffer from low self-esteem.\n\nA confident person:\n\n- does what they believe is right, even if it’s unpopular\n- is willing to take risks\n- admits their mistakes and learns from them\n- is able to accept a compliment\n- is optimistic.\n## Tips for building self-confidence\nThere are a number of things you can do to build your confidence. Some of them are just small changes to your frame of mind; others you’ll have to work on for a bit longer to make them familiar habits.\n\n### **Look at what you’ve already achieved**\nIt’s easy to lose confidence if you believe you haven’t achieved anything. Make a list of all the things you’re proud of in your life, whether it’s getting a good mark on an exam or learning to surf. Keep the list close by and add to it whenever you do something you’re proud of. When you’re low in confidence, pull out the list and use it to remind yourself of all the awesome stuff you've done.\n\n### Remind yourself of your personal strengths and talents\nEveryone has strengths and talents. What are yours? Recognising what you’re good at, and trying to build on those things, will help you to build confidence in your own abilities.\n\n### **Set some realistic goals**\n[Set some goals](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/mental-wellbeing\/setting-goals\/how-to-set-goals) and write down the steps you need to take to achieve them. They don’t have to be big goals; they can even be things like baking a cake or planning a night out with friends. Just aim for some small achievements that you can tick off a list to help you gain confidence in your ability to get stuff done.\n\n### **Talk yourself up**\nYou’re never going to feel confident if you have negative commentary running through your mind telling you that you’re no good. Think about your [self-talk](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/mental-wellbeing\/confidence\/3-ways-to-talk-yourself-up) and how that might be affecting your self-confidence. Treat yourself like you would your best friend and cheer yourself on.\n\n### **Make time for your hobbies**\nTry to find something that you’re really passionate about. It could be photography, sport, knitting or anything else! When you’ve worked out your passion, commit yourself to giving it a go. Chances are, if you’re interested or passionate about a certain activity, you’re more likely to be motivated and you’ll build skills more quickly.\n\nIn the videos below, youth advocate Maddie and counsellor Tigist Kebede chat about their best tips for building self-confidence.\n\n[Video transcript](https:\/\/assets.ctfassets.net\/qr4fhhcghyn4\/3cyIDihuzLsHHT3iKQWC13\/09d13f1db321ccf01a89efc236122d78\/Remember_to_be_kind_to_yourself_pt1.txt).\n\n[View transcript](https:\/\/assets.ctfassets.net\/qr4fhhcghyn4\/6muCE7k0F4DCoPaMzLkNx3\/c3f0b54e373dc6e17d5dbf494809d816\/Remember_to_be_kind_to_yourself_pt2.txt).\n\n## If you’re not feeling better\nSometimes the quick fixes don’t help in the long term. If you’re feeling bad and things just don’t seem to be improving, it’s worth talking to someone who knows how to help. Professionals such as [counsellors](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/mental-health-issues\/professional-help\/what-do-counsellors-do) and [psychologists](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/mental-health-issues\/professional-help\/what-do-psychologists-do) can help you develop strategies to help you build up your confidence. They may also be able to help you understand any underlying problems that might be causing you to feel bad about yourself.\n\n[![MOST thumbnail 2.0](https:\/\/images.ctfassets.net\/qr4fhhcghyn4\/1hmEIe2q8ybXc4aHRR7LOl\/3788d477fe8c73e7f3a6ffc1b65ef13d\/logo-most.webp?w=3840&q=75&fm=webp) Mental health support when and where you need it MOST is a digital mental health service for young people, offering 1-on-1 professional support, a safe online community and tailored therapy journeys.](https:\/\/app.most.org.au\/landing?to=home&utm_source=ro&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=most&utm_id=2)\n\nWant to chat with a peer worker who can listen to you and support you? [Book a free, text-based session with ReachOut PeerChat.](https:\/\/au.reachout.com\/peerchat)\n\nTalking out your worries with a supportive community of people who have been through similar situations can also be a really helpful way to build your self-confidence. Check out [Headspace’s online communities](https:\/\/my.headspace.org.au\/online-communities?utm_source=ReachOut&utm_medium=OC&utm_content=eHeadspace). They're safe spaces where you can share experiences, learn from others and support each other.","meta_canonical":null}

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Boilerpipe Text	A lack of self-confidence comes in many shapes and forms, and learning how to build confidence is an ongoing project for most of us – we are all a work in progress! Here’s some tips that you can use to learn how to build self-confidence. This can help if: you want to know more about self-confidence you wish you were a more confident person you want some practical steps to build your self-confidence. What is a confident person? Not everyone is born with an inbuilt sense of self-confidence. Sometimes it can be hard to develop confidence, either because personal experiences have caused you to lose confidence or because you suffer from low self-esteem. A confident person: does what they believe is right, even if it’s unpopular is willing to take risks admits their mistakes and learns from them is able to accept a compliment is optimistic. Tips for building self-confidence There are a number of things you can do to build your confidence. Some of them are just small changes to your frame of mind; others you’ll have to work on for a bit longer to make them familiar habits. Look at what you’ve already achieved It’s easy to lose confidence if you believe you haven’t achieved anything. Make a list of all the things you’re proud of in your life, whether it’s getting a good mark on an exam or learning to surf. Keep the list close by and add to it whenever you do something you’re proud of. When you’re low in confidence, pull out the list and use it to remind yourself of all the awesome stuff you've done. Remind yourself of your personal strengths and talents Everyone has strengths and talents. What are yours? Recognising what you’re good at, and trying to build on those things, will help you to build confidence in your own abilities. Set some realistic goals Set some goals and write down the steps you need to take to achieve them. They don’t have to be big goals; they can even be things like baking a cake or planning a night out with friends. Just aim for some small achievements that you can tick off a list to help you gain confidence in your ability to get stuff done. Talk yourself up You’re never going to feel confident if you have negative commentary running through your mind telling you that you’re no good. Think about your self-talk and how that might be affecting your self-confidence. Treat yourself like you would your best friend and cheer yourself on. Make time for your hobbies Try to find something that you’re really passionate about. It could be photography, sport, knitting or anything else! When you’ve worked out your passion, commit yourself to giving it a go. Chances are, if you’re interested or passionate about a certain activity, you’re more likely to be motivated and you’ll build skills more quickly. In the videos below, youth advocate Maddie and counsellor Tigist Kebede chat about their best tips for building self-confidence. Video transcript . View transcript . If you’re not feeling better Sometimes the quick fixes don’t help in the long term. If you’re feeling bad and things just don’t seem to be improving, it’s worth talking to someone who knows how to help. Professionals such as counsellors and psychologists can help you develop strategies to help you build up your confidence. They may also be able to help you understand any underlying problems that might be causing you to feel bad about yourself. Mental health support when and where you need it MOST is a digital mental health service for young people, offering 1-on-1 professional support, a safe online community and tailored therapy journeys. Want to chat with a peer worker who can listen to you and support you? Book a free, text-based session with ReachOut PeerChat. Talking out your worries with a supportive community of people who have been through similar situations can also be a really helpful way to build your self-confidence. Check out Headspace’s online communities . They're safe spaces where you can share experiences, learn from others and support each other.
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[Take our survey and you could win a \$100 voucher](https://reachout.questionpro.com.au/t/mRnFUZRnFU). 1. [Confidence](https://au.reachout.com/mental-wellbeing/confidence) 2. How to build self-confidence # How to build self-confidence By [ReachOut Content Team](https://au.reachout.com/authors/reachout-content-team) Published 05 September 2023 • 3 minute read * A lack of self-confidence comes in many shapes and forms, and learning how to build confidence is an ongoing project for most of us – we are all a work in progress! Here’s some tips that you can use to learn how to build self-confidence. ### This can help if: - you want to know more about self-confidence - you wish you were a more confident person - you want some practical steps to build your self-confidence. ![Five friends sitting together outside, smiling and laughing.](https://images.ctfassets.net/qr4fhhcghyn4/q0Dy6zCb2XusjqKSQNO1m/dfe9e82430b62caf5734e9bf1114d0a7/friends_laughing.jpg?w=3840&q=75&fm=webp) ## What is a confident person? Not everyone is born with an inbuilt sense of self-confidence. Sometimes it can be hard to develop confidence, either because personal experiences have caused you to lose confidence or because you suffer from low self-esteem. A confident person: - does what they believe is right, even if it’s unpopular - is willing to take risks - admits their mistakes and learns from them - is able to accept a compliment - is optimistic. ## Tips for building self-confidence There are a number of things you can do to build your confidence. Some of them are just small changes to your frame of mind; others you’ll have to work on for a bit longer to make them familiar habits. ### Look at what you’ve already achieved It’s easy to lose confidence if you believe you haven’t achieved anything. Make a list of all the things you’re proud of in your life, whether it’s getting a good mark on an exam or learning to surf. Keep the list close by and add to it whenever you do something you’re proud of. When you’re low in confidence, pull out the list and use it to remind yourself of all the awesome stuff you've done. ### Remind yourself of your personal strengths and talents Everyone has strengths and talents. What are yours? Recognising what you’re good at, and trying to build on those things, will help you to build confidence in your own abilities. ### Set some realistic goals [Set some goals](https://au.reachout.com/mental-wellbeing/setting-goals/how-to-set-goals) and write down the steps you need to take to achieve them. They don’t have to be big goals; they can even be things like baking a cake or planning a night out with friends. Just aim for some small achievements that you can tick off a list to help you gain confidence in your ability to get stuff done. ### Talk yourself up You’re never going to feel confident if you have negative commentary running through your mind telling you that you’re no good. Think about your [self-talk](https://au.reachout.com/mental-wellbeing/confidence/3-ways-to-talk-yourself-up) and how that might be affecting your self-confidence. Treat yourself like you would your best friend and cheer yourself on. ### Make time for your hobbies Try to find something that you’re really passionate about. It could be photography, sport, knitting or anything else! When you’ve worked out your passion, commit yourself to giving it a go. Chances are, if you’re interested or passionate about a certain activity, you’re more likely to be motivated and you’ll build skills more quickly. In the videos below, youth advocate Maddie and counsellor Tigist Kebede chat about their best tips for building self-confidence. [Video transcript](https://assets.ctfassets.net/qr4fhhcghyn4/3cyIDihuzLsHHT3iKQWC13/09d13f1db321ccf01a89efc236122d78/Remember_to_be_kind_to_yourself_pt1.txt). [View transcript](https://assets.ctfassets.net/qr4fhhcghyn4/6muCE7k0F4DCoPaMzLkNx3/c3f0b54e373dc6e17d5dbf494809d816/Remember_to_be_kind_to_yourself_pt2.txt). ## If you’re not feeling better Sometimes the quick fixes don’t help in the long term. 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They're safe spaces where you can share experiences, learn from others and support each other. ## What can I do now? - Write your list of strengths and talents, or get cracking on some goal setting\! - Hear how TikToker Ben Stubbs [bounces back with confidence](https://au.reachout.com/mental-wellbeing/confidence/all-game-no-shame-bounce-back-with-confidence). - Want to chat with a peer worker who can listen to you and support you? [Book a free, text-based session with ReachOut PeerChat.](https://au.reachout.com/peerchat) #### Tagged in [Confidence](https://au.reachout.com/search?q=&page=1&topics=Confidence) [Mental wellbeing](https://au.reachout.com/search?q=Mental%20wellbeing) [Article](https://au.reachout.com/search?q=&page=1&contentType=Article) Got questions? Ask ReachOut WHATEVER'S ON YOUR MIND,![](https://next-assets.reachout.com/2603-21ff05c659314690/_next/static/media/icon-emoji-relieved.9f1b0cb0.svg) ASK REACHOUT How can Ask ReachOut help me? How should I study for exams? 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Readable Markdown	A lack of self-confidence comes in many shapes and forms, and learning how to build confidence is an ongoing project for most of us – we are all a work in progress! Here’s some tips that you can use to learn how to build self-confidence. ### This can help if: - you want to know more about self-confidence - you wish you were a more confident person - you want some practical steps to build your self-confidence. ![Five friends sitting together outside, smiling and laughing.](https://images.ctfassets.net/qr4fhhcghyn4/q0Dy6zCb2XusjqKSQNO1m/dfe9e82430b62caf5734e9bf1114d0a7/friends_laughing.jpg?w=3840&q=75&fm=webp) ## What is a confident person? Not everyone is born with an inbuilt sense of self-confidence. Sometimes it can be hard to develop confidence, either because personal experiences have caused you to lose confidence or because you suffer from low self-esteem. A confident person: - does what they believe is right, even if it’s unpopular - is willing to take risks - admits their mistakes and learns from them - is able to accept a compliment - is optimistic. ## Tips for building self-confidence There are a number of things you can do to build your confidence. Some of them are just small changes to your frame of mind; others you’ll have to work on for a bit longer to make them familiar habits. ### Look at what you’ve already achieved It’s easy to lose confidence if you believe you haven’t achieved anything. Make a list of all the things you’re proud of in your life, whether it’s getting a good mark on an exam or learning to surf. Keep the list close by and add to it whenever you do something you’re proud of. When you’re low in confidence, pull out the list and use it to remind yourself of all the awesome stuff you've done. ### Remind yourself of your personal strengths and talents Everyone has strengths and talents. What are yours? Recognising what you’re good at, and trying to build on those things, will help you to build confidence in your own abilities. ### Set some realistic goals [Set some goals](https://au.reachout.com/mental-wellbeing/setting-goals/how-to-set-goals) and write down the steps you need to take to achieve them. They don’t have to be big goals; they can even be things like baking a cake or planning a night out with friends. Just aim for some small achievements that you can tick off a list to help you gain confidence in your ability to get stuff done. ### Talk yourself up You’re never going to feel confident if you have negative commentary running through your mind telling you that you’re no good. Think about your [self-talk](https://au.reachout.com/mental-wellbeing/confidence/3-ways-to-talk-yourself-up) and how that might be affecting your self-confidence. Treat yourself like you would your best friend and cheer yourself on. ### Make time for your hobbies Try to find something that you’re really passionate about. It could be photography, sport, knitting or anything else! When you’ve worked out your passion, commit yourself to giving it a go. Chances are, if you’re interested or passionate about a certain activity, you’re more likely to be motivated and you’ll build skills more quickly. In the videos below, youth advocate Maddie and counsellor Tigist Kebede chat about their best tips for building self-confidence. [Video transcript](https://assets.ctfassets.net/qr4fhhcghyn4/3cyIDihuzLsHHT3iKQWC13/09d13f1db321ccf01a89efc236122d78/Remember_to_be_kind_to_yourself_pt1.txt). [View transcript](https://assets.ctfassets.net/qr4fhhcghyn4/6muCE7k0F4DCoPaMzLkNx3/c3f0b54e373dc6e17d5dbf494809d816/Remember_to_be_kind_to_yourself_pt2.txt). ## If you’re not feeling better Sometimes the quick fixes don’t help in the long term. If you’re feeling bad and things just don’t seem to be improving, it’s worth talking to someone who knows how to help. Professionals such as [counsellors](https://au.reachout.com/mental-health-issues/professional-help/what-do-counsellors-do) and [psychologists](https://au.reachout.com/mental-health-issues/professional-help/what-do-psychologists-do) can help you develop strategies to help you build up your confidence. They may also be able to help you understand any underlying problems that might be causing you to feel bad about yourself. [![MOST thumbnail 2.0](https://images.ctfassets.net/qr4fhhcghyn4/1hmEIe2q8ybXc4aHRR7LOl/3788d477fe8c73e7f3a6ffc1b65ef13d/logo-most.webp?w=3840&q=75&fm=webp) Mental health support when and where you need it MOST is a digital mental health service for young people, offering 1-on-1 professional support, a safe online community and tailored therapy journeys.](https://app.most.org.au/landing?to=home&utm_source=ro&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=most&utm_id=2) Want to chat with a peer worker who can listen to you and support you? [Book a free, text-based session with ReachOut PeerChat.](https://au.reachout.com/peerchat) Talking out your worries with a supportive community of people who have been through similar situations can also be a really helpful way to build your self-confidence. Check out [Headspace’s online communities](https://my.headspace.org.au/online-communities?utm_source=ReachOut&utm_medium=OC&utm_content=eHeadspace). They're safe spaces where you can share experiences, learn from others and support each other.
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